| 11/12/2008 3:06:20 PM |
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lee_ha
Parsons, WV
59, joined Mar. 2008
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I decided to post on this sight and find someone to go places with and enjoy stuff with and see where it goes. I am hopping to get to know someone well enough to take them traveling on short road trips and see new things. But when is it to ask if they would like to talk on the phone or meet? I have had a few women send messages back and forth 4 or 5 times but when I ask if they would like to talk on the phone they say something like "oh I don't want to talk on the phone till I know you better" or "I don't like to get to personal with someone I don't know that I met on line" SAY WHAT? I thought the idea was to meet someone new in person or go out and see if there might be something there. Am I wrong?
Tell you what I understand the world can be a bad place and care must be taken sometimes. I would not be offended if a woman told me she would like to meet but she wants to bring a friend or wanted someone to know who she was with. No problem
But gee wizz Are they looking to just chat or what? I'm looking to find someone to enjoy my life with. Has just a few bad guys ruined it for the rest of us?
 Lee
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| 11/12/2008 5:56:07 PM |
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marrjason
Morrison, IL
26, joined Nov. 2008
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i know where ur coming from buddy it does seam like thjat but the only thing to really do is keep talking to them and dont ask for thir number let them ask u if you would want to call them or tell them urd really like to keep talkin to them but u have to go somewhere and if u have a cell phone ask in theyd want to text back and forth alittle wail but dont over text eather just enuff to keep them talking to u and they should come around K? i really hope this helped even alittle
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| 11/12/2008 5:58:09 PM |
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deniselaina
Chandler, AZ
58, joined Mar. 2008
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I think it just depends on how well you click with each other ....
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| 11/12/2008 6:02:43 PM |
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chrissylynne
Hickory, NC
46, joined Oct. 2008
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when u feel comfortable tell her that you would like to get to know her a little better on the phone. If she shoots u down, move on. u will find someone. dont give up.
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| 11/12/2008 6:12:00 PM |
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jessejamez4u
San Dimas, CA
41, joined Sep. 2008
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Dude....A Woman know's if she is gona give you Her number from the start. If you dont get it in 2 email's go ahead and dropp Her and move on to the next one. Some Woman want talk friend's and f**k friend's. Make sure your on the f**k friend's list because it's where you want to be. Woman can talk and type for f**ken ever, mean while your wasting your time. 2 emails bro, try it and youll see alot more number's and Woman.
You are the Hunter, play the game to your addvantage
[Edited 11/12/2008 6:15:04 PM ]
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| 11/12/2008 7:52:19 PM |
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suzicutzi
Philadelphia, PA
48, joined May. 2008
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Well usually I don't like emailing back and forth for a long period of time. I like to just meet the person pretty quickly to see if there is chemistry, which you can't tell by just emailing. But lately I have so much going on in my life, emailing is the only thing I have time for right now.
So I guess every situation is different. Maybe the girl has a lot on her plate right now. Maybe you should just come right out and express your feelings of how long you want to wait to talk to her on the phone. I think that would be your best option. Communication with her. Good Luck OP!
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| 11/12/2008 8:08:34 PM |
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jessejamez4u
San Dimas, CA
41, joined Sep. 2008
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 double post
[Edited 11/12/2008 8:12:06 PM ]
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| 11/12/2008 8:19:01 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
55, joined Jul. 2007
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Why not give them your number and let them call you, that is what I initially do when I move from online to the phone.
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| 11/12/2008 10:03:00 PM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
57, joined Nov. 2007
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ooooooo not good to give your number up on the first or even second mail
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| 11/12/2008 10:17:01 PM |
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forever4
Victoria
Australia
55, joined May. 2008
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I uasualey give my phone number out because as I have said before on here I dont want to waste time on here and then you meet them and they are nothing like they said they were That way I dont waste my time or theres
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| 11/12/2008 10:23:08 PM |
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katrinasq
Mena, AR
47, joined Jul. 2008
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I think it depends on the depth of the im's or emails. "Hey howya doin" does not make me want to call you. I usually IM the person once or twice in addition to an email or two before I feel like moving to the phone. I let people down far better in type than on the phone if they are just not doing it for me.
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| 11/13/2008 4:32:02 AM |
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trixie222
Colorado Springs, CO
52, joined Oct. 2008
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lee,
yes, a few guys have ruined it for the rest of you.
trixie
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| 11/15/2008 1:30:06 AM |
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busymomlookin
San Mateo, CA
45, joined Oct. 2008
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I chatted once with a man for a almost two month before we exchanged numbers we started on a dating site and then moved over to myspace. He finally asked me for my number.
I think we talked for a few weeks before we even meet in person. We went to dinner and talked like we had know each other forever. Okay it may have helped that tequila was involved. What I liked was we ordered the exact same meal.... I knew we had things in common.
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| 11/15/2008 1:57:37 AM |
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waireh
Norman, OK
60, joined Aug. 2008
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There is no certain time when you give or receive a phone number. It varies for each person and situation. I prefer email, then chat then to meet. I usually don't like to receive numbers nor give mine.
What if you give them your number and they turn out to be a freak and now they have your number? I've learned that lesson. If I meet them before I call them I can decide then if I want to give them my number.
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| 11/15/2008 2:22:35 AM |
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wyvernlord
Chandler, AZ
45, joined Sep. 2008
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It depends on the person. Over the 15 years that I have been meeting people online, I have sometimes given/received numbers in the first message, or few hours of chatting, sometimes I never get that. I have even met some people online, and by the end of the same day met them in person.
I have no problem going from internet right to in person. That is the only way to ever know someone, and you should try to get to that point as soon as possible if you are looking for something serious (otherwise you will waste A LOT of time).
If you are just looking for casual friends...then you can leave things online much longer...as you probably are not interested in being with anyone anyway.
For me, if I want to be friends, I will typically give my number in the first 10 emails or 2-3 weeks of time. If I am interested in her as a possible relationship, I will give it out in about half that time, and want to meet in person within the first month of meeting online. I have meet over 300 people (men and women) from the internet over the years, and while I have met some dumb, strange and wacko people, none have ever been anything I would be worried about.
Email can be filtered, phone calls blocked or ignored, and just do not take them to your house till you feel comfortable. Always meet in a public place, drive yourself (or better yet, take a taxi or get dropped off by someone), and let someone know where youa are going, and when you should be home (or have a friend call an hour or so into the date to see if you need rescued  ). So anyone waiting more then a month or so to meet in person, is either not interested in you, not serious about actually finding a relationship, is not who they say they are, or they are afriad of shadows.
The danger of meeting bad people on the internet is actually no worse, and probably less (according to studies) then meeting people in bars and other places, you actually get a few emails or hours of chatting in complete safety before you meet, where in most others places, you are put on the spot immediately.
Just be careful and cautious the first time and have a plan. Then as you meet again and again, you will either figure out soon that you do not want to meet them, or you will eventually bring them into your personal life more.
Just my opinon based on my own experiences. Everyone will be different
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| 11/15/2008 2:33:43 AM |
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ssbbwgabi
Pueblo, CO
31, joined Aug. 2008
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Well honesty, I am the type of girl that HATES endless messages and chat. I would rather chat a few times, like 2-3 times, talk on the phone and then meet. I would rather take the chance to maybe meet someone good, sometimes its not so great. But its better to try and fail then fail to try, then planning for my life that I wish I lived. You live life once, I say, I would rather go out and experience it. Just my thought....
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