| 12/2/2008 5:59:12 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
clarity101
Aurora, CO
age: 57
|
The one that kills me is every woman's profile lists camping as an activity they love. Now, truthfully, how many women on her have been camping more than once in there lives? I don't mean going to Yellowstone in an RV. I mean sleeping on the ground, in the woods, you know, real camping? I'm a guy and I'll tell you, you'd have to hog tie me and drag me into those woods!! So be truthful, how many of you really go camping?
omg...thats so true. soooo many guys list camping, fishing, hiking.
ive done alll that when the kids were growing up. i found it was too much work, no vacation for me. and sorrrry, i dont enjoy peeeeing or pooooping in the bush anymore!
if i wanna sleep under the stars, ill throw my sleeping bag in the backyard.
i must admit....it was fun taking a hike up the hill and finding a nice big flat rock to screw on in broad daylight!!!
|
| 12/2/2008 6:36:08 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
palehoney
Jacksonville, FL
age: 29
|
i speak my mind... sometimes i can be brutal (i'm a spelling nazi, for starters). later i feel bad for being too mean, but OH WELL. nobody cares how *I* feel, right?
|
| 12/2/2008 7:12:01 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
wtf_ftw
Bedford, TX
age: 33
|
I have noticed people are afraid to speak their mind, I guess its cause they dont want to hurt feelings or they just dont have the balls to be honest. So they become passive aggressive and even hateful. Why not say whats on your mind? Whats the worst that can happen?
Sometimes I think the truth hurts the person telling it, more so than the person who has to hear it. Maybe. At least in my experience, that's the way I felt. I told one woman who I met through my space (after several dates, becoming intimate, spending a lot of time together) that after all that effort into something, I didn't want to pursue anything further because I just wasn't attracted to her enough. I felt shallow and shitty about it, but she took it well. Much better than I expected. Maybe she just put on a good show, I dunno.
There were specific things about her body and health that turned me off, and it hurt her to hear it but it hurt me to have to say it too. We got along pretty well so I felt pretty lame making a decision based on physical traits. I had to spend time with her in order to make the decision that I made.
Before I told her the truth about how I was feeling, I did see myself becoming passive aggressive and yes, even hateful towards her like you say. I was even feeling resentful for her "making me feel" this way. It was all bullshit, and the truth, albeit shitty, was the much better alternative.
In a perfect world there are no alternatives, only the truth, but it's up to each of us to make our own world what we want it to be. We all live in our own unique reality dontcha know...
|
| 12/2/2008 7:16:07 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
crowdog73
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
|
i speak my mind... sometimes i can be brutal (i'm a spelling nazi, for starters). later i feel bad for being too mean, but OH WELL. nobody cares how *I* feel, right?
Chopperbabe your'e back...
*for all those that know what i just said..ya gotta admit..her post does remind ya of ChopperBabe*
|
| 12/2/2008 7:18:57 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
|
This is what's on my mind right about now..... 
who cares???
|
| 12/2/2008 9:00:23 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 40
|
You can be honest without being brutal or offensive, or you can be honest and rude and people will be offended and no one will listen, or you can porport to be honest and be completely full of shit.
I try for the most part to be honest without breaking down someone's self esteem or being so offensive that people won't listen to me. Of course, that doesn't always work, and sometimes people do push my butttons, but for the most part I dish out the truth as is topped with a bit of tact to help the truth go down.
|
| 12/2/2008 9:01:48 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
pattilee3
Norfolk, VA
age: 49
|
honesty with kindness is always a good policy
|
| 12/3/2008 10:01:45 AM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
foryoubaby
Seattle, WA
age: 23
|
quote Sometimes I think the truth hurts the person telling it, more so than the person who has to hear it. Maybe. At least in my experience, that's the way I felt. I told one woman who I met through my space (after several dates, becoming intimate, spending a lot of time together) that after all that effort into something, I didn't want to pursue anything further because I just wasn't attracted to her enough. I felt shallow and shitty about it, but she took it well. Much better than I expected. Maybe she just put on a good show, I dunno.
There were specific things about her body and health that turned me off, and it hurt her to hear it but it hurt me to have to say it too. We got along pretty well so I felt pretty lame making a decision based on physical traits. I had to spend time with her in order to make the decision that I made.
Before I told her the truth about how I was feeling, I did see myself becoming passive aggressive and yes, even hateful towards her like you say. I was even feeling resentful for her "making me feel" this way. It was all bullshit, and the truth, albeit shitty, was the much better alternative.
In a perfect world there are no alternatives, only the truth, but it's up to each of us to make our own world what we want it to be. We all live in our own unique reality dontcha know... quote
I see where you are coming from. I havent thought of it like that before. I have always spoke my mine but I have also noticed you have to finess the situation. Lucky for you the girl didnt bash in your car or soemthing like that. I think your story, even though you felt like shit about it, everyone acted like adults and thats what I like to see. 
|
| 12/3/2008 10:07:11 AM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
cable89
Columbus, OH
age: 34
|
"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result"~ Albert Einstein
|
| 12/3/2008 10:11:25 AM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
ibdamn
Cumberland, KY
age: 30
|
doesnt help , people will just go on and ask someone ealse till they get the ansew they anted to hear from the beginning 
|
| 12/3/2008 10:19:27 AM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
ttex1969
Walker, LA
age: 39
|
Whats the worst that can happen?
FAMOUS LAST WORDS!
|
| 12/3/2008 12:14:18 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
foryoubaby
Seattle, WA
age: 23
|
Ok so i see some of these people want to be rude or ignorant about my question, so from now on I am going to block you if you cant be civil or on topic. I am going through some really crappy situations and I am asking for others imput. I am not here to talk about peoples profile or if they camp or whatever stupidity. I seriously want to know what is in peoples heads and why they behave or react the way they do when it comes to honesty.
BTW I do not play the drama back and forth insulting, 
[Edited 12/3/2008 12:15:27 PM]
|
| 12/3/2008 1:00:24 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
cable89
Columbus, OH
age: 34
|
"FAMOUS LAST WORDS!" i concur!! This is an invitation for let down
|
| 12/3/2008 1:04:31 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
cable89
Columbus, OH
age: 34
|
"Sometimes I think the truth hurts the person telling it, more so than the person who has to hear it." Painful or entertaining??? Possibly both given the person
|
| 12/3/2008 1:12:40 PM |
Why does this keep happening |
|
cajunmister
Kinder, LA
age: 58
|
What is the worst that can happen, they can try to stab you in the chest. Honesty is in the mind of the individual. Also truth can be relative to an individuals agenda.
|