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12/7/2008 10:46:37 PM	The independent woman
elleda Miami, FL age: 38	Quote from pisces_4: Just don't let him bring you down. Be wise to his story and how he manages his life. My ex husband had bad credit and issues staying with the same jobs. I had great credit and steady work history so everything went into my name. The house, cars, credit cards and the bills, all that stuff. After our second child was born we made the decision for me to stay home, well I couldn't count on him financially. I should have known better but I believed in him at the time. He changed jobs a lot and would spend whatever he wanted with no regard to the bills. His attitude was "I work hard for my money and I'll do what I want with it" So needless to say bills fell behind, car payments were late, credit cards went over limit. He had an affair and we split up while I was still a stay at home mom and student. Now the house has gone thru forclosure, I tried to sell it but couldn't in this market. So now I'm left with my kids to support and bad credit. I am so sorry that you went through such an emotional rollercoaster. I know it's easy to say you'll be fine when your on the outside looking in. Keep your head up. This is a lesson ladies......always remember to keep that independent mentality even when your in a relationship. You'll never know what will happen next.
12/7/2008 10:55:14 PM	The independent woman
youreyesonly13 Mesa, AZ age: 52	If your that unhappy, stop moving up in the company. Life is what you make it. Unhappy people don't really succeed, they just say "why" later on in life.
12/7/2008 11:06:38 PM	The independent woman
elleda Miami, FL age: 38	Quote from youreyesonly13: If your that unhappy, stop moving up in the company. Life is what you make it. Unhappy people don't really succeed, they just say "why" later on in life. I worked hard in my company and don't plan on leaving until I retire. Im not unhappy, just another attempt to figure men out.
12/7/2008 11:18:00 PM	The independent woman
outlaw02 Galloway, OH age: 25	I have another thought on the matter from a guy's perspective...Some could be turned away from the ammout of time and dedication a woman spends at her place of work? I myself tend to go with the indie type. No I'm not a gold-digger I do make a great living, but they have more confidence and are more set with life to have an equal relationship with. [Edited 12/7/2008 11:18:39 PM]
12/8/2008 4:21:49 AM	The independent woman
klassyklown Bakersfield, CA age: 40	I think most men don't mind women being independent financially, although I am sure there are some who still prefer to make more than their woman, some men do get bothered by women being independent in the sense that they don't need a man. I dated a guy once who got very upset because when he told me to drive safely, I said, psshhh it's just around the corner. That was seen as my being too independent. It really just depends on the man and how secure he is. The more secure a man is, the more open he will be to being with an independent woman.
12/8/2008 4:26:08 AM	The independent woman
noredneckhere Sevierville, TN age: 48	Hell, it's great if they make enough for me to pursue my lifelong dream. "Hello, I am Marcos, your cabana boy, yes you can pull on my speedo"
12/8/2008 4:33:48 AM	The independent woman
tryagaindj68 Evansville, IN age: 40	Quote from noredneckhere: Hell, it's great if they make enough for me to pursue my lifelong dream. "Hello, I am Marcos, your cabana boy, yes you can pull on my speedo" Life with you would never be boring! OP, first of all, congratulations on your financial achievement. That being said, if it's coming up early and significantly in relationships, maybe this is a more significant issue for you than for many of the guys you're seeing. Then again, if it's gonna roll around in the back of your mind, it's best to get it out in the open before much time is invested. Again, you have my admiration and respect for your hard work and great success.
12/8/2008 5:33:33 AM	The independent woman
fishenguy Santa Rosa, CA age: 49	Quote from elleda: Is it just me or does it seem that the more higher a woman gets on the payscale, the lonelier she is? Well.....from what I see women that are so well off also tend to have very little free time to spend with a guy. The job is so much more important to them. Also....women tend to bring the stress from the job home with them. And a lot of women still feel the need to find a guy that makes more than they do. In a lot of cases I have seen, the women start out at a lower payscale than the man they are married to. After a few years the women start earning more money. After a while it's the woman that loses respect for the man and feels he is lazy because he can't find a job where he is making more then she is. The truth is.....women that can handle being with a man that makes less and be happy with them are very rare. So......when a man meets a woman like that he has a hard time believing it. It could be his ego....but it could also be his experience. Don't mock his experience. People need to take money out of the equation when they are looking for love. [Edited 12/8/2008 5:39:24 AM]
12/8/2008 5:36:05 AM	The independent woman
monaj40 Binghamton, NY age: 40	I think its just you..
12/8/2008 5:40:43 AM	The independent woman
optimystk Fort Mohave, AZ age: 48	sometimes people can confuse being independent, with other issues The time you have available for a relationship could sometimes be a factor Myself, it has no bearing whatsoever as I have no experience on the subject.
12/8/2008 5:55:55 AM	The independent woman
rocklady Lenoir, NC age: 46	Independence is not just about money. When I was struggling after my divorce I was still extremely independent even though I was struggling to pay the bills that was left me. I've had a small farm for 15 years and rarely had or asked for help with the work. Even when I was married.
12/8/2008 6:04:25 AM	The independent woman
beanz991 Houston, TX age: 41	Quote from elleda: Is it just me or does it seem that the more higher a woman gets on the payscale, the lonelier she is? Independence has more to do with state of mind than state of bank account. You can be very independent and make barely enough to live on.
12/8/2008 6:06:17 AM	The independent woman
serenity0515 Mesquite, TX age: 34	Quote from noredneckhere: Hell, it's great if they make enough for me to pursue my lifelong dream. "Hello, I am Marcos, your cabana boy, yes you can pull on my speedo"
12/8/2008 6:11:46 AM	The independent woman
klassyklown Bakersfield, CA age: 40	Quote from outlaw02:I have another thought on the matter from a guy's perspective...Some could be turned away from the ammout of time and dedication a woman spends at her place of work? That is not always true, I work pretty hard, and make pretty good money, but contractually I only work 180 days a year, that leaves a lot of time to play or put into a relationship. [Edited 12/8/2008 6:12:21 AM]
12/8/2008 6:14:55 AM	The independent woman
mimedianaranja Brooklyn, NY age: 43	OP: I'm not sure what the correlation to financial security, and being "lonely" is. Surely, you aren't assuming that a successful career woman has no interest in dating/finding a life partner?

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