12/16/2008 1:05:23 PM |
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miray1347
Bowling Green, KY
age: 36
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I am on the computer all the time with my job, but don't have a lot of time to get on these forums most of the time. I am off for 3 weeks and have been checking out the forums the last couple of days. There seems to be a lot of bashing of the opposite sex from the opposite sex. If you are wanting to find a good person to spend some time, or the rest of your life with, why would you want to meet someone who bashes you off the start? Don't get me wrong, there seem to be a lot of people who are genuinely looking for the right thing too, but it's hard to find them through all the "crap". Is there anyone else who sees any of this?? 
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12/16/2008 1:06:53 PM |
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mike22304

Alexandria, VA
age: 62
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And, do the bashers ever get a date? No.
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12/16/2008 1:11:57 PM |
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miray1347
Bowling Green, KY
age: 36
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I wouldn't think so...it still irritates me though...
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12/16/2008 1:13:28 PM |
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beanz991

Houston, TX
age: 41
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Avoid the forums as a measure of a persons dateability!
..they may just be goofing off.
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12/16/2008 1:14:53 PM |
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in_doubtalishis

Beaumont, CA
age: 33 online now!
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And, do the bashers ever get a date? No.
I got one
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12/16/2008 1:16:49 PM |
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lnlass

Laguna Niguel, CA
age: 51
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I seriously doubt people would go out on a date and enter into a debate type situation with that person. I know I don't. Forums are largely discourse. Dates are not. Dates, for me, anyway, are getting to know someone and to see whether there is an atrraction.
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12/16/2008 1:17:55 PM |
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miray1347
Bowling Green, KY
age: 36
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Avoid the forums as a measure of a persons dateability!
..they may just be goofing off.
good point
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12/16/2008 1:19:14 PM |
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miray1347
Bowling Green, KY
age: 36
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I got one 
are you a basher???
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12/16/2008 1:25:12 PM |
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missmmeoftheday

Brooklyn, NY
age: 43
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I seriously doubt people would go out on a date and enter into a debate type situation with that person. I know I don't. Forums are largely discourse. Dates are not. Dates, for me, anyway, are getting to know someone and to see whether there is an atrraction.
I don't know; getting to know someone is getting to know how they think and feel about certain topics; I mean, I wouldn't out and out fight with a guy on the first date- unless he was a real a** - but I wouldn't shy away from something that might spark a heated conversation because I wanted to be attractive. I am who I am, and if I feel strongly, I say it. If I'm attractive keeping my mouth shut, then he's not seeing me.
I recently went out with a guy and we got into a heated conversation- not yelling or bashing- but it was something upon which we disagreed. It didn't end the date, nor our contact; on the contrary, it gave us each some insight into the other person. JMO
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12/16/2008 1:27:27 PM |
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lnlass

Laguna Niguel, CA
age: 51
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True enough, but it gets very contentious in these forums. We, I would hope, try to find someone with similar views and values when we set out to find a date. The forum folks are just who happens to be there. We can pick our dates but can't pick who is in a forum. We can only choose whether to engage in debate or not.
[Edited 12/16/2008 1:29:34 PM]
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12/16/2008 1:27:52 PM |
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silkpanties53

Baytown, TX
age: 53
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I got more than one 
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12/16/2008 1:28:21 PM |
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beanz991

Houston, TX
age: 41
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True enough, but it gets very contentious in these forums. I think we would all keep ourselves much more in check when on actual date...
Yep...save the fireworks for a month or two in..
[Edited 12/16/2008 1:28:49 PM]
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12/16/2008 1:29:32 PM |
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missmmeoftheday

Brooklyn, NY
age: 43
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that's true, inlass, and as I said in another thread, I am probably more daring online than I am in real life; but I wouldn't shy away from something that I felt strongly about, either.
And there are topics that come up when you're dating that really, who cares? What is significant to me might not matter a drop to someone else.
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12/16/2008 1:34:53 PM |
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in_doubtalishis

Beaumont, CA
age: 33 online now!
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are you a basher???
Nope but most people think I am  
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12/16/2008 1:36:25 PM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 57
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Forums I just do em cause I'm BORED 
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