| 10/17/2007 5:24:09 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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slickchick59
Hattiesburg, MS
age: 48
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Don't quite understand it. I realize that some excuses may be legit, but someone is going to suffer. It could be < THE KIDS>. I say move on because true love and happiness could be waiting for you somewhere, that includes F. the rest. Do you agree?
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| 10/17/2007 5:28:42 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50
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I understand ( from reading on here) that there are many reasons to stay. I've known many couples who have stayed in a loveless marriage.
Kids ( like the kids do not know the love is gone?)
Money.. cheaper to live in the same household
Fear of being alone
I don't know if the reasons are good enough to hang on.. but.. I haven't walked a mile in their shoes either. I couldn't live that way.. but many do
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| 10/17/2007 5:43:05 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 51
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Most hang on thinking it can be repaired and hoping they are right, some for the kids others because they are simply afraid they can't make it alone financaly or emotionally
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| 10/17/2007 5:45:21 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50
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It is def tough to make it on a single paycheck these days
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| 10/17/2007 5:48:04 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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slickchick59
Hattiesburg, MS
age: 48
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Why stay if you're not happy. Sometimes you have to believe that WHERE THERE'S A WILL THERE'S A WAY. You might have to suffer for a minute in order to be happy for the rest of your life.
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| 10/17/2007 5:49:21 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 51
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That is the way most of our grandparents and parents lived
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| 10/17/2007 5:50:54 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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slickchick59
Hattiesburg, MS
age: 48
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This is a new day and time. Everything has changed.
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| 10/17/2007 5:50:56 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50
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I guess it would just have to depend on if the two involved are civil... as to if it is a wise choice to live under the same roof during or after a divorce... for whatever the reason. Some just drift apart as a couple.. no malice involved
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| 10/17/2007 5:55:08 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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slickchick59
Hattiesburg, MS
age: 48
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You have friends and family who wants to see you happy and will help in every way possible.( As long as it's short term ). If my partner's no longer interested in me or loves me, I'd rather split, we know that love is hard to get back once it's gone.
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| 10/17/2007 6:48:36 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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lawrence084
Honolulu, HI
age: 40
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This is an excellent topic. I read a few days ago, that women are afraid to be labeled. When a woman has no lover, her friends think there is something wrong with them, NOT that their previous lover was at fault, it always believed that it was the woman fault. That is why women tend to stay in a relationship even if it is bad. In their eyes it a lot better than having their friends and family thinking they are an awful girlfriend to their boyfriend.
I asked a few woman at work if this is true and they definitely can relate too it. They also mention that divorce is really hard on woman. A lot harder than a man, because everyone thinks they are really unfaithful or just a lousy wife, no matter what the ex-husband did.
Is there any truth to this ladies? I personally know I have been in relationships where my girlfriend and I were at each other throats and I couldn’t do anything to get them to break up with me. Eventually I had to do the honors.
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| 10/17/2007 6:54:09 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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Some hold on for hope that things will change ... some times comfort in a relationship to where they are aware of all the issues and know how to deal with it so why bother leaving. These are things I've witness.
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| 10/17/2007 6:55:51 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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mom1st
York, SC
age: 30
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Familiar spirits, ppl do not like change, or the unknown. It can be scary.
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| 10/17/2007 7:46:13 PM |
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slickchick59
Hattiesburg, MS
age: 48
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They could also be running from their destiny. Destiny is something pre-determined in spite of all the efforts to change or prevent it. I say, go with you first intuition, especially if the bad outweighs the good.
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| 10/17/2007 8:34:00 PM |
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madcatusa
La Crosse, WI
age: 41
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This topic is really hitting close to home for me. My wife and I stayed married for 20 years despite the fact that we both knew it wasn't right, there wasn't anything there, but I continued to believe there was until last year. Why? Momentum maybe? Certainly not wanting to affect our son (I know, the argument is there that he *knows* anyway, but I don't buy it) and just plain not wanting to give up. Stubborn pride I guess. We've decided to call it while we're still friends and we'll be better best friends than we ever were as a couple.
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| 10/17/2007 8:40:01 PM |
Why do people hold on to relationships when the love is GONE? |
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wolfy9459
Dayton, OH
age: 45
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Hell I have asked this question many times. And even after reading all the answers given here I still don't know or understand why.
Kenny
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