| 3/13/2007 8:50:59 PM |
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sweetnurse
Verdigre, NE
age: 24
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Well from my experience I was with a man that was sweet to me but lacked in the sex department. I tried to tell him what i needed and he still couldn't figure it out. Don't get me wrong i cared for him a lot but it didn't work. The way i see it is that you can be open and honest and love that person alot but you do still have to get some pleasure from your partner. I know sex isn't everything and that isn't what i am saying but it does play a big part and you can't deny it. Everyone knows that but some just aren't willing to admit it. I never ever cheated on this man that i am talking about because i just don't do that sort of thing i think that if your not happy just come out and say don't stay in a relationship just because of certain issues because in the long run it just makes the hurt that much harder. But then again I am recently divorced and i am in no position to be giving advice. However i am much happier now that i am able to find someone that truly makes me happy.
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| 3/14/2007 4:22:59 PM |
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lonelysire
Vernon, BC
age: 26
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Id like to post my thoughts on this subject, I hope I don't upset anyone in the proccess.
In my opinion, there are various reasons as to why women AND men have trouble with honesty when it comes to sex. I've found the most common to be:
- People typically, get defensive when it comes to being sexually in-attiquite
- Some would simply rather to just avoid the confrontation of the subject
- Others have trouble talking about sex and expressing their sexual desires
- And yes, some decide to seperate their sexual relationship from their current partner by aquiring another parter for sexual purposses
I think in most scenario's it boils down to lack communication, listening and a fear of a loved one's reaction and or rejection to the issue.
Having said that, I do also believe their is such a thing as a "sexual mis-match" and that through solid communication, listening and open minded thinking...You can identify that situation and perhaps save yourself from alot of wasted time and heartache.
I hoped this has helped answer your question 
*tips his hat*
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| 3/31/2007 9:41:10 PM |
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usnvet
Miles City, MT
age: 44
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Why is it hard for women to be honest about anything?
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| 4/2/2007 8:58:40 PM |
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taita25
Bronx, NY
age: 38
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I checked out the convo and I'm confused??? When a girl writes about something about sex, everyone is like WHOAH. Sow what's up, if we say somethin were slammed, and than you wonder why we can't be honest. Make up your mind.
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| 4/2/2007 10:13:32 PM |
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itsmejan
Salem, OR
age: 48
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Trojan You are a man at my own heart. Woman and men both tend to not tell the truth. It is because they are either ashamed of what choice they made and have the fear of hurting the other. I have been lied to after 28 years of marriage. After the kids were out of the house, so was my husband. I thought he was my best friend. He had someone and he had it planned for ten years to leave me. He had told my youngest son at one time that in ten years we would not be together. And guess what ten years later, he was with someone else.
Jan
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| 4/3/2007 1:52:13 AM |
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taita25
Bronx, NY
age: 38
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Why because........
If it's good enough for me to swallow, why won't you kiss me afterwards
"Yeah baby you like it, you want it, feels good right", how many times must you say that and still you can't make me "Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh"...............
I can't bend that way, and yes, it hurts...
Yes you're giving me oral sex, but I'm getting more saliva than satisfaction
Bring another women into the bedroom, I'm a dream come true. Suggest to bring another man and it's "Girl you must be dreaming"..........(divorce papers) please sign here, and here, initial here, and here.....................................
Yes, your stretch marks, C-section scar, lactating breast, weight gain and vaginal expansion turn him off.....
Women on top, OK!! Now we can have some fun, but wait...."Stop, I don't wanna cum yet" Oh well, it was good while it lasted.........
Take all the time you need to recuperate while I masturbate in the bathroom.
My vibrator is not better than you, just more reliable
You really want anal, after an evening of Outback Steakhouse and drinks?????
After all that pumping, how am I not supposed to fart??????
You like the Brazilian wax, but you can't pick out the residue toilet paper from your balls and ass?????
You didn't have to tell me that your Dad is just as big as you are.......(Yuck)
I'm bulimic so it's ok, but once I get my appetite back, I don't think I can deepthroat anymore
"My leg bone is connected to my thigh bone, and my thigh bone is connected to my hip bone and my hip bone is connected......." Operative word CONNECTED..........
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| 4/3/2007 1:59:48 AM |
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ol_hillbilly
Lowry City, MO
age: 47
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Thats funny 
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| 4/3/2007 7:36:09 AM |
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mammyof4
Erwin, TN
age: 48
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Oft times I've thought, It'd be better to still be a virgin than to be a born again virgin.
Seems like it'd be easier to not miss what ya never had than to miss what you have had.
Perhaps the frustration is the same?
Well pondering on this for a while and I have came to the conclussion that,
I think if you have had it and then don't get it for a while and then you get it again that it is better than the first time around. Being a born again virgin isn't to bad. Makes it better I think JMO
Dang Hill, Stop making me think so long on these things. hehehehe
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| 4/3/2007 10:07:22 AM |
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singlennj
Budd Lake, NJ
age: 48
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Too many of these post have what appear to be valid reasons. But if it is marriage we are talking about there was an Oath as hard as it may be for you or them to stand by each other. That also means in satisfying them, in understanding when they cant. Conflicion, eh? It is up to them to work out a happy median.
Id dating they you have plenty of time to see how they communicate and compromise. Watch for the disagreements to see how they compromise.
In the passions of Love it is very difficult to do. In Love, you should not have your mate suffer by forcing too much sex nor too little. If when dating you find they are not what you can or want to deal with, then end it. The stories of the partners who stayed with their partners even though they were not fulfilled shows a great sacrifice of Love for their partner.
Part of the human condition is that you will not be everything to your partner. They and you both have faults. It is a matter of working to over come them or to deal with them. This applies to everything, not only sex. Marriages break due to finances, neglect, and many other topics. In reflection can you say that you fulfill EVERY need of your partner?
Life is no guarantee. You can only search the best you can and take safeguards that you can communicate, compromise and see things eye to eye with one another. You can have great sex while dating but it is a very big sign if the both of you can not compromise in some other important matter(s).
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| 4/3/2007 12:24:25 PM |
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taita25
Bronx, NY
age: 38
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Singlenj,
You talk about marriage and dating, communication, etc....... Let's be blunt here!!!! The topic is why is it hard for woman to be honest about sex. Let me break it down for you, if a woman told YOU (think about it) that you sucked as a lover, you couldn't make her climax, and she faked all the orgasms so that you just would finish and finally get off her, you wouldn't be as charismatic. We're not honest because it's not about us at all!!! If you can satisfy and please a woman, you don't think about her satisfaction but give yourself the "I'm the Man" credits because you're the STUD. Men hate to be inadequate in bed!!! I submit evidence number one, the moaning, screaming, begging, and wanting is all an act. Porno's are edited, real life, you become swollen and sore and just want to get it over with. Submission number two, he asks you if he's the best you ever had. (If you say no, GAME OVER) If women say I like it like this and like it like that, they wonder what man was there first and if he's one of your "FIVE". A man will have an orgasm whether you enjoy it or not, but a women is a Gimp if he has a limp. Guys, you don't want us to be honest, trust me!!!! If a woman loves you, she won't break your masculinity or destroy your ego. If she doesn't love you, she won't say it you, but all her girlfriends will get the 411 on it. Leave the questioned unanswered, many men would prefer not to know, and deny it if they did!! You can't fake an ejaculation, and women KNOW THAT!!!!!!!! See, now you hate me, but wonder why women can't be honest about sex...............
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| 4/3/2007 1:15:34 PM |
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mammyof4
Erwin, TN
age: 48
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Here I go again.
Well I was married for 5 yrs. and we never had sex the whole time. Shit we never had sex at all. And guess what, he is the one that left me. hehehe Told me he had done everything for me and tried to please me in every way. What a lie. Now women may not be honest about sex, but men are not either. And just cause they say it was good doesn't make it so. Hell do they talk to their hand. hehehe
So it is another two way thing, women an't and neither is men.
Hell I am honest about it. I like it, I love it, I want some more of it.
And that is all I got to say about that tooooooo. LMAO
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| 4/3/2007 1:27:20 PM |
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singlennj
Budd Lake, NJ
age: 48
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I feel for your pain, but
Then you shouldnt have gotten involved with a man like that. I am sure there were signs in other areas that the love and care was not there. That is not to say I would not be fooled either. I was. I came to my senses and kicked the B... out before we got married, thankfully.
My view of women was skewed for a time after that. It took a lot of reflection to trust that not all women are like that and it is up to me to weed them out. Not all Men are like that either.
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| 4/4/2007 5:09:58 AM |
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mammyof4
Erwin, TN
age: 48
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Not sure what to say now. hehehe
Fool me once same on you, fool me twice shame on me.
Or
keep silent and thought a fool, or speak up and remove all doubt.
Personally, I think that I fit into the second. LMAO, speak up and remove all doubt. yep thats me.
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| 4/4/2007 5:39:27 AM |
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copterdriver
Saint Matthews, SC
age: 55
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Mammy.... I respect my hand in the morning and I tell it how great it is, I have to be careful not to make the other one jealous though.... lol
Taita.... if you are faking we can tell... don't kid yourself. There are signs of true excitement and you can't fake those... apparently you have been dealing with some pretty insecure dudes. Try older men, you will never regret it except not trying sooner. hehe
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| 4/4/2007 10:36:10 AM |
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taita25
Bronx, NY
age: 38
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Copter,
You assume too much, but if you want to play hardball, play we shall. Fact, a man's arousal is obvious by his erection. Fact, a man cannot ejaculate without some intense level of excitement or pleasure. Both men and women can be sexually pleased. That being said, I commented on how women fake orgasms. A woman CAN fake it, but you can prove otherwise. So please tell us women and all the men of the world the anatomy of the female orgasm??? Caution, it must apply to ALL women, proven and indisputeable. Moreover, my comments didn't include "signs" open to interpretation, but facts. I look forward to your response........
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