| 10/23/2007 6:30:01 PM |
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sadlyalone
Charlottesville, VA
age: 71
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I see on the news tonight, and I can't remember them all, but there are 2 politicians Thompson and Kucinich who have wives 30 to 40 years their Junior. Thompson is 75. Many movie stars are marrying ladys younger than they. Michael Douglas, ?? Duvall. there were 2 or 3 others that I didn't remember, and having children no less. From a male prospective of 69, what would be a reasonable low end age to be looking for. Also vice versa, I read on the internet, that a 89 year old lady married her 29 year old body guard. If I remember, Elizabeth Taylor married a young fellow. It, does happen, but, is it morally or ethically correct. Does money, come into play here. There a 3 ladies on another website, that somehow has its hooks in here, this is the only place I am known as sadlyalone. Anyway, all 3 have listed ther men to be between 18 and 110. Seriously. I think something is fishy here. 
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| 10/23/2007 6:57:16 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Saint Joseph, TN
age: 52
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Of course money comes into play
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| 10/23/2007 6:58:30 PM |
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chucky_t
Akron, IN
age: 61
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I do have a number of friends that are married to women that are much younger. In one case over fifty years. A number of them 20,30, or 40 years. They are happy. I use to think it was about the money, but after spending time with and around them, I found most of them really loved each other. They work harder to make the relationship work because of the age difference. They work harder at understanding each other. They work harder to make sure their partner knows that they really want to be with them. Not just because of the money or young body.
There are those few relationship that are build on the money and young body, but even in those they both seem happy with what they have. But the majority of them are really about the love. In a few cases the much younger wife makes most the money.
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| 10/23/2007 7:06:30 PM |
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sadlyalone
Charlottesville, VA
age: 71
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These are good answers, anybody else out there have any ideas?, maybe you were one of the May to December marriages?(relationship, etc. can be included). Care to relate?
[Edited 10/23/2007 7:07:38 PM PST]
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| 10/23/2007 7:13:46 PM |
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cmed68
Poquoson, VA
age: 64
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Generally too much of an age gap is not a good idea. However, there are exceptions. On a simlar thread I reported an uncle of mine that had a wife 25 years his junior. When he died he was 66 and his youngest was 10. This uncle was an eccentric. He never learned to drive and he was a sports writer in Kansas and knew many of the famous athletes, especially baseball players, would only buy shoes from Lord and Taylor, and his wife and family adored him. He would come to Springfield, Illinois where most of my family is from, by himslef, once a year and that was his vacation. He would drive one of my uncles nuts by insisting on being driven to St Louis games (90 miles each way), would go do to where the local paper was printed and had to have one right of the press, and he was a personal friend of the late Harry Carey. When he passed my aunt carried on his legacy for many years through an organization he was involved in and never remarried. Some of the reasons I think his marriage was a success in spite of his eccentric ways was he was a fun person to be around and he did not drink simply because his system could not tolerate alcohol. He was a little like the Monk character on TV but was not a germ phobic.
What I am really saying is I do not think there is a real yardstick out there and like my aunt and uncle much of this has to do with the people involved. Speaking for myself I really would not want to get romantically involved with a woman in her forties or younger. This is only because of having things in common and is also the reason that this is my favorite forum.
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| 10/23/2007 7:18:22 PM |
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leila123
Liberty Hill, TX
age: 61
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I've got to agree with [blocked site]. From a woman's perspective, it's more likely to be about the money when a young girl marries an old man. And, I believe that it's all about the young trophy wife for the guy.
Young girls or young women, for that matter, who do not want to work or who want a financial safety net, have every motive to go after older men. Older men are very easy to take advantage of because they may be lonely and want to believe they can attract a younger woman. Agreed, he does, but not for the reasons he thinks. Have you not heard "There's no fool like an old fool?"
Are there exceptions? Yes, but they are just that...exceptions.
[Edited 10/23/2007 7:32:48 PM PST]
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| 10/23/2007 7:29:35 PM |
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knightnyte2
Spring, TX
age: 56
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I'm thinkin' Leila is sitting on some Texas Tea out there in west texas. Sitting on a gold mind. Gold mine!!
lets face it... younger women like the money older guys have. and younger guys like the money older gals got when they were young from the older guys... whew,,, did i say that?
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| 10/23/2007 7:30:33 PM |
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leila123
Liberty Hill, TX
age: 61
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Bingo Knight!
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| 10/23/2007 7:35:23 PM |
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sadlyalone
Charlottesville, VA
age: 71
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knightnyte2: Yes you did and it brought a hearty laugh out of me, I live alone, so I can chuckle all I want. And speaking of that, I think it is time to go to bed. I am 33 minutes over my alloted time on the network. Nighty night, nighty night, up come the covers and out goes the light. Now, I can use this icon 
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| 10/23/2007 7:42:06 PM |
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professer2
Saint Petersburg, FL
age: 54
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You all can say whatever you like, or whatever you believe.The fact is it is an individual thing.There may be many relationships where age and money brew a dasterly combination.
But, there are some, maybe not many, maybe very few,
but there are some relationships that two people love each other, and live very happily together.It may not last long, but the time they spend together,
they are truely happy.
And to be truely happy, for any amount of time,
is worth the world.
JMO
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| 10/23/2007 7:43:44 PM |
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butterfly58
Arcadia, MO
age: 60
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It really depends on how much of an age difference it is and everything is up front at the beginning of a relationship. My first husband was five years younger while my second one was twelve years older and I have no fond memories of my first husband. And neither had any money to speak of but my second husband made me laugh and I always felt loved.
I guess this is why people say: age is just a number!
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| 10/23/2007 7:45:27 PM |
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ks51
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 53
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This is fun. Knight and Chucky, I find I am in agreement with both of your outlooks. I love it!!! Mostly, I think it's about the people involved. Many scenarios with this kind of question. Is this what is meant by "Adult Entertainment"? lol
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| 10/23/2007 7:47:47 PM |
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datein
Deridder, LA
age: 62
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I think it has to do with what you have in common with the person.it's not always about money but love and trusting the other.
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| 10/23/2007 7:50:19 PM |
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chucky_t
Akron, IN
age: 61
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I find it interesting that so many people find it hard to understand how a younger woman can care for a older man or an older man can love a younger woman. Why is it suspect that a couple with a great age difference is all about the money and young body? The mans ego is faulty because he loves a younger woman? She is a gold digger if she loves a older man?
I am close to sixty and date a number of younger and much younger women. They ain't here for the money, I can tell you that. I have no ego problem that I need arm candy. I had that problem when I was in my twenties and thirties. If you did not look good on my arm back then, I would not date you. A lot of the younger women I date today would never be mistaken as arm candy...LOL But you will find they are intellegent, funny and engaging.
With real relationships with real friends that I know, I find that most of the relationship are about the love and not the money or ego. Yes, there are women that are in it for the money, power, or fame. But I actually think it is a lot less then most think.
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| 10/23/2007 10:18:08 PM |
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fab4bird
North Augusta, SC
age: 51
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Hello to everyone! I've just been on the site for a short while. I'm located on the border of South Carolina & Georgia and am so glad I found the 50's forum! You all seem like nice people who already have a great connection with each other.
This particular topic of age blows my mind. I don't spiritually feel 50 in my heart...it's just a number until I look in the mirror & wonder "Where did I go?" This also causes a dillemma when choosing a date...seems like it's either a choice of "younger, immature & fun" or "older, wiser & boring"....God knows I hate to place people into such awful pegged-hole categories, it seems very unkind. But I don't know any other words to convey the feeling in order for you to understand and offer some friendly advice. Surely there has got to be some men my age that are still into laughter and having fun while being grounded and stable at the same time......
or am I asking too much??
(If this would be more appropriately placed on another thread, plese forgive me and let me know where to find your responses.)
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