| 1/21/2009 6:27:39 PM |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 45
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M, are your eyes brown? they should be---you're so full of shit.
I figured someone would chime in. Nothing can offend someone quite like the truth, eh?!
Go back to sleep, now, Rip. Nighty night!
[Edited 1/21/2009 6:29:05 PM PST]
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| 1/21/2009 7:00:26 PM |
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slowhand31
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 31
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Don't worry. The other woman are responding because they want to create the illusion that they are proper and lady-like...and the guys are just kissing their asses in the hopes of getting laid. Get used to it. You'll see it in a lot of threads. 
You're only speaking for yourself.
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| 1/21/2009 7:09:19 PM |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 45
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You're only speaking for yourself.
Interesting!
Untrue, as I usually never take anyone's side...but interesting, none the less. Probably the MOST interesting thing, is that if I weren't correct, it wouldn't have bothered you.
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| 1/21/2009 7:10:38 PM |
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slowhand31
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 31
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I never said it bothered me. Just assumed being as you are always spouting off silly comments you might be reflecting on your own wrong doings. Simple as that. You'll need to try harder to offend or annoy me, pal.
[Edited 1/21/2009 7:11:49 PM PST]
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| 1/21/2009 7:21:52 PM |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 45
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[Quote from slowhand31:I never said it bothered me. Just assumed being as you are always spouting off silly comments you might be reflecting on your own wrong doings. Simple as that. You'll need to try harder to offend or annoy me, pal.
Bwahahahahaha!
Thank you. That was PERFECT!
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| 1/21/2009 7:26:00 PM |
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slowhand31
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 31
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Quote from moraldk325-
Bwahahahahaha!
Thank you. That was PERFECT!
 And this guy is older than I am!
lol
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| 1/21/2009 7:34:14 PM |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 45
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Yes! That is correct!
THANK YOU!
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| 1/21/2009 7:47:17 PM |
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vanwinkle
Graham, TX
age: 57
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Quote from moraldk325-
Bwahahahahaha!
Thank you. That was PERFECT!
And this guy is older than I am!
lol
Slow, this guy is not worth your time or mine. His logic is flawed.
doesn't have a clue---
You can't reason with unreasonable idiots.
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| 1/21/2009 7:50:13 PM |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 45
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Quote from vanwinkle: You can't reason with unreasonable idiots.
That has always been my thinking! Thank you for supporting my thoughts!
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| 1/21/2009 7:50:28 PM |
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slowhand31
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 31
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Quote from vanwinkle: Slow, this guy is not worth your time or mine. His logic is flawed.
doesn't have a clue---
You can't reason with unreasonable idiots.
Im begining to see this yes.
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| 1/21/2009 7:56:29 PM |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
age: 45
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Quote from slowhand31: Im begining to see this yes.
YEA! It seems that way! Congrats!
[Edited 1/21/2009 8:03:35 PM PST]
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| 1/21/2009 7:56:33 PM |
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namers3
Minneapolis, MN
age: 40
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This is a reply to hunt4fun14 fostoria, OH age:54
I went through the same thing with my husband, I broke into his email & contacted some of the women he was talking to & confronted them & him. I too put up with this crap for a long time, wanted to get couseling or some kind of help for our marriage, but he didnt think he was doing anything wrong. Mind you these women were viewing OUR bedroom on cam and everything personal. And this was several women he had been talking to online, when I was NOT around & doing this stuff also behind my back!! He is NEVER going to change, they say they will stop, but it never happens believe me, I went through this for several years with him until I woke up & got the hell out of there!!! I met him online & he lived in WI, I live in Mn I moved my three kids & I to WI for him, left all my family & friends and my job & found out he was doing this stuff........we moved back to Mn in May of 08 cause I woke up & wasnt going to put up with that shit any longer!!! So, my advice to you is....wake up & get out of that situation, its NOT going to change & he is not going to change, like everyone has said once a cheater always a cheater!! You deserve better than that & just believe... what comes around goes around!!! He will get back what he has done!!!! Do you really want to be miserable for the rest of your life?? Well, you will if you stay!!! Well....thats my advice & I wish you the best of luck!!!!!
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| 1/21/2009 8:49:02 PM |
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zeesmuse
Brunswick, GA
age: 47
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It's deceitful. Shows their wives no respect and it's obvious they have no respect for the women they try to pick up.
I dated a man (met him on another site) for 6 months. He billed himself as 'single' and 'available'... he lived 2 hours away and didn't work the typical 9 to 5. We took a trip together, all of it.
It was 6 months before I found out he was married... and a friend of mine had had him investigated and found out. He was 'so sorry' and humble when I nailed him... and swore I was the only one... his wife just wasn't in the mood anymore and he had needs, y'know.
Except last summer and fall I discovered he was doing the same thing to a 29 year old widow with three children... (he's 50)
It's disgusting.
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| 1/21/2009 8:53:14 PM |
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be4eyedieagain
Janesville, WI
age: 45
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If a married man is in total disclosure and transparent with his wife's consent..it is still wrong. Most of the time, maybe in groups...like sports, cars and guy stuff. I know, weak argument, probably because I don't see a valid reason.
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| 1/21/2009 9:26:49 PM |
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wanabeinlove
Chilliwack, BC
age: 60
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Had a coffee date with a guy who had the misfortune of telling me that he was married. That his wife was suffering from depression for the last 6 years. He tried to explain how he had tried everything in his power to get her out of it. But he was soooo lonely as she wasn't responding to his kind actions of which was getting her out of the house and baby sit the grand kids. After 20 minutes of hearing this BULL he then asked me if I'd consider having an affair with him.
Such a nice man... wouldn't you agree.
Politely, and I was very polite when I told him, first of all, in order to have an affair with me he would have to divorce his wife who would probably wouldn't be depressed because she had finally gotten rid of a real big AS.....E!
I cannot tolerate cheating men. They are liars and very untrustworthy. When you tangle with one of these jerks, one must always keep in mind that he'll eventually cheat on you.
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| 1/21/2009 9:43:50 PM |
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hunt4fun14
Fostoria, OH
age: 55
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Thanks for your advice. I appreciate what you are saying and many people say the same thing about me getting out of this relationship and they don't even know about the part I told you. My husband is not at all who I thought he would be when we met. I don't understand him now and maybe he is quiet because he doesn't want to say the wrong thing to the wrong person (me)...(sometimes he would say he told me something and I could have sworn he didn't)...maybe there have been more in the past even when we were married, because he wouldn't come home if I was there...I have no idea where he was for hours after work. It kind of scares me now because my first husband cheated on me my whole marriage and I never knew about it until I filed for a divorce (because I kept getting infections from him) and his best friends wife told me I didn't want to know the details, that it would kill me, but yes she knew he cheated on me my whole marriage. He was gone all the time too and would leave me with the kids...couldn't go anywhere unless I had the kids with me....accused me of cheating on him once and tried to check my panties...I slapped him so hard in the arm, he never touched me again (he was abusive and hit me when we were first married.) I finally stuck up for myself and it worked. But what hurt the most was, he told my children that I F* every man in my town and he was the one cheating on me! So lately when I think of the past with this husband, I wonder if the signs are the same and he is out doing his thing thinking I will never know....Oh if I could know!
I may have to confront him soon on what he is really doing when I am not around. I may have to give him an ultimatum...I can't live with my son forever and soon I have to move out....will my husband care if I am homeless? Will he let me come back and live with him? Who knows. I have to understand what God wants me to do, only HE can change a man, or help him see what the right thing to do is....Thanks for your listening to me. It helps to air things out. I am really mostly alone and can't talk to anyone, so this is good for me. Maybe I can make a few friends on here if anything. We gals have to stick together.
[Edited 1/21/2009 9:46:59 PM PST]
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| 1/21/2009 9:54:20 PM |
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hunt4fun14
Fostoria, OH
age: 55
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Oh one more thing....I was just looking at the things above to see where to go to another forum...one reason why married men cheat????They make it easy on here...look...Married men who need more in their life GO HERE! OH my, why do they even allow it? This country is so immoral it's pathetic. I pray for the USA! We are falling apart. What happened to fidelity and love? I made a commitment to my husband and wanted to be married forever to this one! I never thought it would end this way, or that I wouldn't be living with him forever. It's so sad that he can't understand that I would never leave him and do accept his quirky ways...that no other woman would put up with this kind of life for so long....but he doesn't see this for what it is. If they would ban porn and things that make a man cheat, this world would be such a better place!
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| 1/21/2009 10:13:00 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
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If they are married, they should at least be honest in their profile. As for the dishonest ones, karma is a b*tch ya know....
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| 1/21/2009 10:20:44 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
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It's deceitful. Shows their wives no respect and it's obvious they have no respect for the women they try to pick up.
I dated a man (met him on another site) for 6 months. He billed himself as 'single' and 'available'... he lived 2 hours away and didn't work the typical 9 to 5. We took a trip together, all of it.
It was 6 months before I found out he was married... and a friend of mine had had him investigated and found out. He was 'so sorry' and humble when I nailed him... and swore I was the only one... his wife just wasn't in the mood anymore and he had needs, y'know.
Except last summer and fall I discovered he was doing the same thing to a 29 year old widow with three children... (he's 50)
It's disgusting.
In order to cheat, you must lie. You lie to your spouse, to the person or persons you are cheating with and most of all, to yourself. My ex was an online cheating addict. And yes, I met him online, left my family and friends in Los Angeles to move 3,000 miles to be with him here in Florida, only to find out 2 years into our marriage he was cheating online. Of course, he told me it meant nothing to him. Well, it meant something to me. It's called D I V O R C E. The louse!
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| 1/21/2009 10:27:31 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
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Well, I am separated from my husband and have been for four years, but he never legally filed...he got on websites as soon as he left me and wanted to meet others. I found all his passwords and the sites he was on when he let me stay at his apt. while he supposedly took his one son to the movies to spend time with him alone. He has four kids....He let me stay so I was on the pc, opened the drawer and found all these women's ID numbers...boy was I upset. Then I went into his single site and he had written the same thing to 30 women...how they were all beautiful and he had a webcam! Well, I didn't keep my mouth shut when he got home because I was just so upset and I told him he had to get his profile off or else! He did supposedly on those, and we tried counseling, but he didn't finish that...we went to marriage class at church and he wouldn't do his homework...over the years he started up again and I found his profile online...stating he was divorced and looking for a long term relationship....OH WAS I HURT! I wanted to tell all his contacts that he IS married and he IS lying to them as well as me...I did talk to some and it was when he decided we were broke up this summer when I thought we were getting along fine....things happened in his household and he wasn't seeing me as often, so all I did was say I couldn't be married to a man I didn't ever see...(once or twice a month he saw me)...and that we had to see each other more...thinking he was agreeing to that...however, he started talking online and on the phone and texting women and I used his phone so I found it out...he asked a 26 yr. old for coffee after he fixed her car...he agreed to not do it again...but recently after staying at his house for a week, he emailed someone and gave out his number...luckily it was just an ad for the singles website and never went through...but you can see how I can grieve that my husband has a separate life when I am not there and the deceit that he shows all of us is so unfair. I have to put in a profile to see what one's he is on...and I don't like that either, but I usually hide it from others...do I stay with him or leave him for good? I don't know. I love him very much and he has been better to me, but is that to hide the fact that he is talking to someone else when I am not around? I hate not living with him, but he won't let me. We are trying to work things out, but is he really trying? Luckily I just got my job back and will be making money soon...have been literally starving at times for lack of food, and he doesn't seem to care to make sure I have food in my belly when I am not with him....Any advice? How can we warn other women of the potential dangers of married men lying? And if you have been talking to someone would you listen to a wife and trust in her and NOT tell the husband he was found out, but just act like you don't like him and stay away? To keep her secret of knowing a secret? Would you tell him and yell at him and get the wife in trouble? I would like a reply if anyone reads this, because I am not sure how to handle this anymore. Everytime I think we are making progress, he is doing something behind my back....Thanks.
First of all, if you are separated, he still needs to support his children financially. Right now he has his cake and is eating it, too, and you are playing the victim. You have children who look to you for the right way to do things. This is not the right way, trying to catch him cheating on you. Hell, he IS cheating on you. Do you need a boulder to bounce off your head before you realize he is playing you for a fool?
Think about your options and get back to me...
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| 1/21/2009 10:52:56 PM |
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hunt4fun14
Fostoria, OH
age: 55
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Hello. I don't have any children by this husband. Mine were with my first husband...I had three boys. He has three boys and a girl. One lives with him and he is 21 yrs. old now. He only has to pay for his daughter now as all the others are over 18. I thought that if I could just hold on until his kids are all grown up, he would finally realize they will always be there for him, but he won't be obligated to them financially so much and he can spend more time with me...they don't live near by anymore either...out of state...I am trying to forgive him for the past and I thought we were getting along pretty good and that he wasn't getting online to chat....so I am trying to keep my sanity and be myself again the way I was when he fell in love with me....I want to trust him and make him feel good about himself when he is with me. I know that a man has to feel comfortable when he is with a woman and that is what makes him want to be around her, so I must keep trying to make him feel great with me. The past is the past and what happened when and why he left me is over...we have come a long way from when we were living together and sometimes he is really nice to me and helps me out....it's just that I don't have money to drive the distance all the time and I just got my job back which requires me to drive around town in Toledo, so I cannot go back and forth to see him. Sometimes he pays for my gas and sometimes I pay. He makes good money, but doesn't give me some on a weekly basis so I can eat and all...I am tired of starving myself and wish he would truly understand how hungry I get. One meal a day is not sufficient. I wish he would want me in his life daily and want to share the rest of his life with me. Unfortunately, he didn't consider me his best friend when he married me (I didn't know that until we went to counseling and he told the guy he thought he would grow into that...) and I thought he was my best friend and though I went through a lot of hard times with him and his kids (not liking me, but who likes a step parent anyway when they want their parents to get back together...you can't take it personal, but I did at the time), I was going to stay through thick and thin. That's what love is all about. I didn't know that he would get to "Stage three" and say, well, I don't feel that I am IN LOVE with her, so it must be over"....and he doesn't really do much but work and go hunting....I had to really beg him to take me to the show and spend some quality time with me. Many women would just give up and say, "to H**** with you, I want some excitement in my life...I want to date someone who will take me out more often", "I want someone to talk to me more", "I want someone who will compliment me or open doors for me"...etc. But I don't give up. I keep praying and hoping God will change him someday, or at least help him open his eyes. I am maybe too forgiving and now it's becoming kind of hard to forget (the present, not the past) as times keep coming and I wonder if he truly loves me now and is being faithful or if he is trying to deceive me...that's all. I don't want to blame him when he isn't doing anything wrong. And I don't want to condone his wrong actions by letting him continue. I guess I will have to be honest with him and have a long talk, but he doesn't like to talk about relationships....he just wants to let them happen. You know, it's a guy thing. They think we over analyze ours....
[Edited 1/21/2009 10:56:24 PM PST]
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| 1/21/2009 11:02:00 PM |
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ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
age: 53
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Oh yea, I've encountered this as well..I get disgusted with them and write them a long letter describing what I went through when my husband cheated on me and the messy divorce... I described the emotional pain I felt and asked him if he wanted to do that to his wife or go through it himself..the idiot! Gets my dander up!..
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| 1/21/2009 11:28:36 PM |
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chrishall
Pasadena, MD
age: 39
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I am a married man on this site but only on paper until the divorce goes through. Since I don't physically live with my ex anymore I feel fine being on here. However , I find it appauling for a person , man or woman who still resides with their partner to be on these sites trying to hookup regardless of the situation at home, NO EXCUSES. If they aren't who you want to be with get the seperation and file for divorce, don't stay so you have someone to clean up after you and care for your kids. It's not fair to the other or the kids. Sure it's fun to have your cake and eat it too , but not when it comes to the sanctity of marriage, to me that is the once place where loyalty should be held in the highest regard, as long as you live under the same roof. Just because she is being "COLD or UNFEELING TO YOUR NEEDS" is no excuse, work it out or go your seperate ways. Most people on here are not here to plays games and get their rocks off ,they are looking for some one to be honest and true which is hard enough as it is without any of the head games from married jackasses looking for that something extra on the side. 
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| 1/22/2009 11:58:27 AM |
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kristina41
Terre Haute, IN
age: 42
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WOW.......I didnt realize this subject I started was going to be so overwhelming and I would like to thank everyone for their comments etc...and for the one who stated what kid of woman does it make me, because I am still single ....WELL it makes me a GOOD WOMAN because of the fact I dont put up with the shiit from the cheaters and manwh*res..I know for a fact I am one hell of a good woman and that I WILL be a good catch to a man when the timing is right..but I will be damned if I am gonna "just settle" I have my own house my own vehicles, and I work full time and support a teenage daughter all on my own..I dont HAVE to have a man to support me in those ways..but it would be nice to have one to be by my side thru the good and the bad...but I would rather stay a recycled virgin for the rest of my life then to have ANYTHING to do with a married man..no matter what his excuses for wanting to stray are !! so until then I will continue my life as it is.. 
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| 1/22/2009 3:09:51 PM |
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vanwinkle
Graham, TX
age: 57
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WOW.......I didnt realize this subject I started was going to be so overwhelming and I would like to thank everyone for their comments etc...and for the one who stated what kid of woman does it make me, because I am still single ....WELL it makes me a GOOD WOMAN because of the fact I dont put up with the shiit from the cheaters and manwh*res..I know for a fact I am one hell of a good woman and that I WILL be a good catch to a man when the timing is right..but I will be damned if I am gonna "just settle" I have my own house my own vehicles, and I work full time and support a teenage daughter all on my own..I dont HAVE to have a man to support me in those ways..but it would be nice to have one to be by my side thru the good and the bad...but I would rather stay a recycled virgin for the rest of my life then to have ANYTHING to do with a married man..no matter what his excuses for wanting to stray are !! so until then I will continue my life as it is..
Thanks for starting this thread. It is a subject that needs to be addressed.
I appologize for some of my posts--kinda crude.
But, these guys just get me crazy. Acting like they have some excuse for cheating.
There's no excuse.
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| 1/22/2009 5:15:09 PM |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 51
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Right or wrong it happens and it happens A LOT!!!
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| 1/22/2009 5:26:30 PM |
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dreamin55
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 51
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I love some of the profiles from men and women that are married. They say they are honest, and looking for honesty. I suppose they don't see cheating on their spouse as being dishonest. As for married folks being on dating sites. I don't agree with it. But I believe they have a right to be here, just as separated folks do.
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| 1/22/2009 5:32:31 PM |
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ironridertd
Brighton, CO
age: 50
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You want to be on here be seperated or divorced, ran into to many women with truth comes out still connected. Sorry not right if you want another guy be done with the last, respectfull thing to do
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