| 2/7/2009 5:17:24 AM |
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roadpony7
Lexington, KY
age: 54
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I'm pretty new to this, just decided to test the waters in November, and was apprehensive about doing so. 
#1 )I found that most photos don't quite match the person in the flesh, were taken prior to the poster's present appearance.
#2 ) That 'the pitch' was more about what was likely to catch your interest, than what really was going on.
#3) That (i suspected this ) anyone over the age of 40, especially with an ex-family and kids, has lots of baggage and hangups, even though they will tell you they have come to terms with it.
#4 ) That anyone who spends lots of daytime hours on dating sites, probably isn't doing anything worth while.
#5 ) That 'not having much money ' also can mean not having any money, no current job, and maybe no even a steady place to live.
#6 ) That people who can't spell reasonably well, lack in other areas also.
#7 ) That it pays to ask lots of questions of the person you're trying to get to know, and their answers help you sift through what the whole picture adds up to.
#8 ) That Brad Paisley's song is a very real scenario for some online.
And, since it will probably come up, I just took a photo last night that I will be posting soon.
Your thoughts ?
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| 2/7/2009 5:21:42 AM |
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okaydude
Mesquite, TX
age: 52
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Pretty much nailed it
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| 2/7/2009 5:21:56 AM |
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sarcasticmama
Altoona, PA
age: 44
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I've have been dating online for many years and I have to disagree with your statements. The ones I've dated were not like that at all. I'm sorry your experience so far has been lacking. I hope you do know there are many, many good people out there worth dating.
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| 2/7/2009 5:26:40 AM |
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rugburns48
Fort Mohave, AZ
age: 49
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couple of exceptions are age has nothing to do with baggage
plenty of 18-21 year olds with kids and baggage
and it does not apply to everyone, but a large percentage
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| 2/7/2009 5:29:13 AM |
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nightwings
Gainesville, FL
age: 42
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Ok...some of that is relatively accurate. That's the learning curve that most have to go thru....I don't really understand why it's not readily apparent to EVERYBODY after a few weeks.
Now you have a more efficient 'picker', get out there & use it!
[Edited 2/7/2009 5:29:52 AM PST]
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| 2/7/2009 5:31:08 AM |
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zebra46
Belleville, NJ
age: 46 online now!
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There are good people on here.Some expiriences are good,and some are bad.It's kinda hard when your on the internet.That's why there's a word called chance.You take one and it just may be the one that will make you happy.Keep smiling!..JMFO and no one cares.
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| 2/7/2009 5:42:26 AM |
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dumfries47w
Woodbridge, VA
age: 47
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I could add:
1) For some weird reason either people are shrinking or I am still growing , I met guys who said on their profile they are 6'0" or 5'10" and without wearing my heels (I'm 5'2") it could looked at them at eyes level without lifting my chin... tskk tskk... liars!
2) Guys who said on his profile "I am not into looks", beware!!!! he kept asking me if I would mind letting my hair grows... ha; I was polite and said: OF COURSE... I WONT!!!
block & delete//
3) Guys asking for more pictures of yourself, but they have only one... from 8 years ago!
4) Please brief me: is there's a new trend that guys can go 5 and 6 years without having sex? What's the secret?
5) I agree with my friend on the poor grammar... lacking on other departments as well!!!!
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| 2/7/2009 5:42:48 AM |
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smitty4980
Fort White, FL
age: 56
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Just how many dates did it take to come to these conclusions? 
Smitty
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| 2/7/2009 5:43:43 AM |
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lonely_rose
Springfield, VA
age: 47
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Yup, too true.
1. My latest picture I took 1 Feb 2009, why do people not show the real them? It will be readily apparent once you meet anyway, so either a person likes you for who you are now or they don't.
2. That's why I don't have a pitch. Too phoney, besides too limiting anyway. If someone is interested in getting to know me, they can ask what interests them.
3. EVERYONE at any age has hangups, I don't know anyone who doesn't come from a dysfunctional family. It is just a matter of can you deal with them.
4. Depends on the person, maybe they have a night job?
5. Could be or it could just mean that they can pay their bills and live a comfortable life vs an extravagant one.
6. I don't think a person's spelling should be the basis of their lacking. I know some really intelligent people who just can't type, and then some real idiots who can.
7. I agree, being able to talk with the person does give you a picture of the person. I find that the ones I can't talk to online, I also can't talk to in person. And I will no longer be rushed into meeting someone who won't take the time. I'm personally tired of bad meet and greets.
8. Which song are you talking about, I'm just a little sheltered and am not familiar, at least by name, with Brad Paisley?
I'm fairly new to this too and have only been doing it on and off for just over a year. I have met all types online and off. I think it is more just trying to get to know people. If you don't know them then how can you have a relationship with them? Relax, breathe, and have some fun.
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| 2/7/2009 5:46:43 AM |
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ricky7777
Dalton, GA
age: 31
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Well,one thing that ilearned is,be careful because you just might be talking to a guy and not a girl!!!
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| 2/7/2009 6:59:38 AM |
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ncmark
Lumberton, NC
age: 44
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Let's add a line here
9)That chatting with someone online is NOT the same thing as talking on the phone and certainly not the same thing as meeting them in person. No matter how well you THINK you know the person you don't start to get to know them until you meet.
[Edited 2/7/2009 7:00:08 AM PST]
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| 2/7/2009 7:03:04 AM |
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lonely_rose
Springfield, VA
age: 47
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9) That's true, but talking online gives you a starting point and maybe something to talk about in person. I read somewhere that if there is no connection online, then there would be no connection in person, and I have found that this is pretty true to form for me. I can't speak for anyone else though, just my own personal experiences.
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| 2/7/2009 7:06:12 AM |
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curves385
Saint Petersburg, FL
age: 38
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Well I have to agree to some of those. I have met people that did post old photos. I have also meet others that were better than the photos. I have a webacam and gladly use it to show I am telling the truth and my profile is about me and who I am. I know I am honest and I a postive there are others that are too. I have met a few very honest guys and just not the right chemistry so it is possible.
I do find it amusing that people say no baggage but seriously who gets to the age of 40 without it? The issue is how they deal with it because we all have it.
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| 2/7/2009 7:09:48 AM |
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mwl426
Pelham, AL
age: 39
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Well,one thing that ilearned is,be careful because you just might be talking to a guy and not a girl!!! 
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| 2/7/2009 7:10:50 AM |
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msbevzie
Toledo, OH
age: 45
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1. my pic is from YESTERDAY Feb 6th, 2009
2. my profile is ME.
3. I'm over 40, and I'll tell you like it is...
4. I spend time online, applying for jobs...
5. I have NO job, so I say that, don't want YOUR money, have my own,not the governments,I have a steady place to live.
6. I can spell it was my best subject BUT I can and do make mistakes.
7. ASK away...take your time...get to know someone, internally FIRST.
9. I have no clue about the song I'll listen to it...
MY thoughts why are you online? Make sure the photo is YOU...
Don't go out and meet the first woman who jumps you, without even knowing or having a clue guaranteed you'll come back here make a post and complain.
ONLINE...works if you work it right...as well as "real" life...same thing you see the person BUT you never really know them UNLESS you dig, and search people LIE face to face also...
SO what is the water online like for YOU?
From what I'm gathering NOT so good!
What is "REAL" life like for you in the dating scenerio...
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