| 10/30/2007 5:59:33 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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I would rather know early on that a relationship isn't going to work for the long haul, respect the one making that decision, be a mature adult about it and salvage a friendship rather than being led on, lied to, and have my ego stroked to avoid feeling any disappointment or pain. What about you?
Why do some people feel it necessary to take an incompatibility as a total rejection and internalize it to allow oneself to feel completely worthless to anyone for any reason? Honestly, does anyone find that attitude attractive? Or are there very few adults out there that can actually act like mature adults?
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| 10/30/2007 6:04:01 PM |
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superscreename
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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Every situation and relationship has it's own variables. I personally am still friends with everyone of my ex's except one. We don't speak often anymore, but they know if they need to talk, I am here.
[Edited 10/30/2007 6:04:24 PM]
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| 10/30/2007 6:05:06 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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That's good to know. But, were you like that soon after? Or did it take time?
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| 10/30/2007 6:05:08 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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Same here dude , everyone except one.
But time has a way to heal wounds.
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| 10/30/2007 6:06:20 PM |
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superscreename
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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Same day as break up usually. I have broken up and gone to dinner with the ex the same day.
[Edited 10/30/2007 6:21:03 PM]
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| 10/30/2007 6:07:52 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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and you didn't decide you were worth absolutely nothing to anyone? 
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| 10/30/2007 6:10:44 PM |
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superscreename
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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I am valuable and special in my own way, I am a unique individual. We all are, realizing and accepting that are where so many of us have problems.
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| 10/30/2007 6:13:49 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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I agree! WHOLEHEARTEDLY Agree! And obviously the person you were involved with finds you to be worthy and special as well or else there never would have been an involvement to begin with! Right???
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| 10/30/2007 6:14:46 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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I guess this is where it is fitting to say that one cannot be loved in a complete, acceptable manner if one cannot love their own self.
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| 10/30/2007 6:16:21 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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I wuv me!
Not saying that damn word ever again!
lol.
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| 10/30/2007 6:17:17 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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ah but see Troy? It is completely safe to love yourself!
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| 10/30/2007 6:17:49 PM |
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leavemloven
West Portsmouth, OH
age: 44
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what are we supose to do sit cry ,or just pickup and move on ? I prefer to move on im with you dude get out and do it fast   
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| 10/30/2007 6:20:20 PM |
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wnd_dragon
Morristown, TN
age: 28
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I personally think, cuddles, that the answer to your question partially lies in how a person has been treated in the past as well as their self-worth. Some people, tie their self-worth in with the person they are currently attached to. When the relationship ends, so does all self esteem that they have built up within the time spent in the relationship. It is really sad and a hard cycle to break...
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| 10/30/2007 6:27:01 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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I believe you are right wnd.... and again, I restate, one cannot truly be loved wholeheartedly, completely, or to satisfaction without first loving one's self and being comfortable with being alone.
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| 10/30/2007 6:27:13 PM |
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crazycajun74
Dallas, TX
age: 33
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I so agree with you wnddragon! You go girl!
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