| 11/3/2007 11:41:34 PM |
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viktoriya75
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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Please bear with me while I'm trying to put my words in order...
A certain thing keeps happening to me and I honestly do not understand why...I meet a guy online...We seem to really hit it off. We laugh, we cry, we have a lot in common, etc...We finally meet and have a great date...And I mean it, a really good date...There is not a single weird pause in a conversation, the chemistry is still there, we still laugh...Yadda, yadda, yadda.....We decide to meet again...We say goodbye to each other and then....there is nothing...and I mean, absolutelly NOTHING...Not a phone call, not a single e-mail...No response to mine either...So, OK..after some time, I think to myself, "Oh, well...it was good while it lasted" and I move on....A few weeks go by, sometimes a few MONTHS go by and then BAM, all of the sudden, out of the blue, there is either an e-mail or a phone call from him... No explanation for the "disappearing act", no apologies, as if absolutely nothing like that happened...as if we talked last night...At this point, I am the one pulling the disappearing act. I do not respond...You had your chance, you blew it, now crawl back to where you were...
But at the same time, I can not help but second quessing myself...I am not a magician, yet, why do I keep making people disappear????? 
To be honest, right now I am soo scared of going on another date with someone, that I think I would rather blew MY chances...I am supposed to see someone in a few days...And I wonder if I should cancel it...I really like him and I am looking forward to meeting him, but I am scared shitless he will disappear too...
I don't know what to do...sorry for my rambling...Any thoughts or any advice will be greatly appreciated... 
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| 11/3/2007 11:43:42 PM |
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sumbeach763
Columbia, SC
age: 44
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He's married, Thats why, and lying to you.......FACT.............Beach
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| 11/3/2007 11:46:24 PM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 48
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I have to agree with Beach here usually married. Thats the patten . I am a one woman man but others well they stray from the next. Sorry to hear that though.
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| 11/3/2007 11:47:09 PM |
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viktoriya75
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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Hey, Sumbeach...I honestly don't think that's an issue here for several reasons...First of all, it wasn't just one guy...It happened a few times...and second of all, I could call these guy and any time, day or night...And we would have conversations for hours...(married people are usually the ones that do the calling, right)...
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| 11/3/2007 11:51:06 PM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 48
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Well guess you dont want my opinon as a male
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| 11/3/2007 11:52:16 PM |
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viktoriya75
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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Of course I do, Gator....I replied to Sumbeach before I saw your post...
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| 11/3/2007 11:53:56 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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For me, when I get the "disappearing act" it means they are no longer interested. 
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| 11/3/2007 11:58:57 PM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 48
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thank you , it does get hectic at times. First I wouldnt do that to a woman. But those that do are not worth your time. Hang in there you'll find the right one 
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| 11/4/2007 12:06:46 AM |
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tahwasapon
San Jose, CA
age: 41
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Hey Victoria...dont be the one to contact first...let him do that, guys go figure, like to be in control and if you act like you are gonna control it by not emailing or calling, they will. C if it works, this is just an opinion and it worked for me.
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| 11/4/2007 1:18:12 AM |
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kenj45159
New Vienna, OH
age: 48
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Maybe it's just one of those "not so good" parts of human nature. Just for whatever it's worth, there had been times I've gone out on a date with a woman, the first date would go OK,I would ask her if she wants to go out again and she will say yes and give me her phone number. But then every time I call her and ask her out again, she always says she is busy. This has happened enough times with enough different ladies that it's hard to believe it's just a coincidence.
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| 11/4/2007 4:38:17 AM |
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viktoriya75
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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Thank you for all of your responses...
I can understand and I can accept the fact that someone doesn't like me enough to keep contact. Sure...I am fine with that...What I can NOT understand is why do they try to re-establish the contact AGAIN, after some time has passed...It is so annoying and frustrating....
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| 11/4/2007 4:51:46 AM |
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metalwraith
South Easton, MA
age: 33
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From what I've observed from some of my female friends... they had good dates with the guy and things well went,etc. They got the bout of no contact and then out of nowhere contact again... And some of them usually wound up having other dates or whatever, as say a mutual friend saw the guy out with some other woman. Those didn't work and then they want to get back with the one that did work out good.
I don't do that crap, but I've known a few to do that stuff.
Best of luck in your searching hopefully you'll get the right one sooner than later.
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| 11/4/2007 4:59:13 AM |
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angelleyes
Plymouth, MA
age: 34
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i hear ya sweetie !!!! been there too many times, all i could think of was HES MARRIED OR HAS A GF AND JUST LOOKING FOR FUN!! well who really knows? i get those same mails you got, as of today..... like i thought we got along great and what happend? i thought u liked me? what the hell does that mean anyway? they lost there chance when they dispeared!!!!!!! good luck hun!
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| 11/4/2007 6:19:47 AM |
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viktoriya75
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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Thanks angel...I'm relieved to see that I am not alone in this...although I am sorry you had to deal with that BS too...
Oh..and guys...Thank you ALL for your imputs...It's good to see that there ARE decent guys out there... YOU ROCK, guys.!!!
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| 11/4/2007 6:25:33 AM |
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slinky1971
Kingston, GA
age: 36
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From my own experiences, I have gone on dates and then life got in the way. I am not defending it, but honestly i will have a date and then just get caught up in other things- 2 weeks later i think to myself " oh wow! i totally forgot about so and so".
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