butefulgrnidbbw
Canton, OH
age: 31
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We were entirely two different people. Shamefully, I realized that after I married him. 
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40ishswf
Plattsburgh, NY
age: 40
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We married too young (19&23) and started a family too soon @23 then,I felt pressured to become pregnaunt or he would leave me; he decided to go for greener pastures in the end; and I told him he still needed to keep it mowed. He then shagged up w/a control freak who had a son of 8y/o then. Our daughter was only 1 and we were married 4 years when we divorced. Family tells me now he was never responsible growing up as a teen himself. I never knew that or I would have never married him at 19y/o. But there were other pressing issues that led me to believe marriage was my better choice. Thanx for my controling father and agreeing mom there.....In the end, I got over things but my Daughter has suffered the most here at 18 now. Beautiful she is but a handful at that. Her dad is just the sperm doner and she tells this to everyone. Cant say I blame her. Never did I put her dad down because he was a good man just took in the wrong kind of friends who persuaded him differently. SHe has no contack w/her dad and makes me sad.....
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monroe67
Hendersonville, TN
age: 67
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First of all I am not in any way trying to pass judgment on anyone so I will leave the judging up to God. I just wanted to say that over the years I have heard all kind of different reasons why people have gotten a divorce (everything from a cheating spouse to they were no longer in love with each other. I truly believe we will have to stand before God someday and answer for everything we say and do in this life, which includes the marriage, divorce and re-marriage issue. I know everyone has their own way of looking at things but what does the Bible really say about it. I sent the question below to http://www.bibletruths.net and received their reply.
My question was....
If a man gets a divorce except it be for fornication as stated
in Matthew 19:9 and gets married to someone else, are both of them,
the man and his new wife living in adultery (present tense) if they
stay married to each other? If so, then how can they be forgiven by
God and go to Heaven if they are still living in adultery?
This is the answer I received from them:
Fornication is the only scriptural cause for divorce. Mt. 19:9. If any
divorce for a cause other than fornication then the second marriage is
adulterous. To remedy this situation, one must divorce (Civil) the present
mate, confess the sin and ask God for forgiveness, otherwise they cannot go
to Heaven. Consider the next archived material.
Question: Can the sin of adultery be forgiven?
Answer: Moichos (Greek word for "adultery") is defined as, "...unlawful
intercourse with the spouse of another (Expository Dictionary of New
Testament Words, Vol. 1, pg. 32). Fornication (porneia) is illicit sexual
intercourse (Ibid, Vol. 2, pg. 125). Adultery is a specific for the more
generic fornication. Sometimes these two words are used interchangeably (cf.
Matt. 5: 32; 19: 9)
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Adultery is a terrible sin. All sin is horrible (Rom. 6: 23), but some
sins are more injurious to innocent people. The innocent husband or wife is
severely traumatized by an unfaithful mate. Children suffer because of the
marital problems caused by adultery. Society is falling apart, largely
because of the deterioration of the family - adultery is often the cause.
Adultery can be forgiven. There are two areas to be explored in
answering our question. There is the mate who has been sinned against and
there is God. Adultery is a sin against one's mate (Mk. 10: 11). If one is
penitent, the sinned against mate is to forgive them. However, I am
persuaded the wronged mate has the right to put away, especially in certain
circumstances. God will forgive the penitent adulterer. God forgave the
Corinthians, some of whom had been adulterers (I Cor. 6: 9-11).
During thirty years of preaching I have often encountered the argument
that "if adultery can be forgiven, then unscriptural marriages may be
continued." While we without hesitation affirm adultery can be forgiven, we
just as certainly affirm such forgiveness does not mean adulterous marriages
are allowed to continue. Jesus said they commit adultery (Matt. 5: 32, 19:
9). "Commit adultery" is from the Greek moichatai. This word is third
person, singular, present tense, and in the indicative mood (The Analytical
Greek Lexicon, pg. 272). In other words, they continue to commit adultery as
long as they actively remain in the relationship.
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