| 11/6/2007 10:28:02 AM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
lynny729
Cedar Springs, MI
age: 26
|
I dated my ex for almost 7 years he was best friend we broke up about 6 months ago we both just wanted diffent things from the realationship. We haven't spoken to one another since we broke up until 3 weeks ago he called me drunk and wanted to talk he thinks I should give him another chance, He still loves me same old blah, blah everyone has heard well I gave in and went to see him just to hear what he had to say and of course he said everything I wanted to hear and was so sweet. Then I didn't hear from him at all until this past weekend we went out for his dad's bithday. When we are together everything seems perfect and I still do love him. The issue is he has hurt me so many times how do you know if you should give an ex another chance I honestly feel like I have nothing left to give him,When we were together I gave so much and didn't get anything in return. he never calls when he says he will the only time he wants to talk about us is when he is drinking. Am I crazy please help!! 
|
| 11/6/2007 10:45:44 AM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
cats43injax
Jacksonville, FL
age: 43
|
If the only time he wants to talk is when he is drinking, I would really take steps with caution. You know his past with you. You know what he has done to you. If you feel he has corrected the things that were wrong, proceed with extreme caution. If you don't think he has changed, don't let your heart over ride you brain. Run!
|
| 11/6/2007 10:52:21 AM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
flowers123
Medford, NY
age: 44
|
It seems like he is only around when it's convenient for him. Run as fast as you can.
|
| 11/6/2007 10:54:23 AM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
thefinelinerep
Lafayette, IN
age: 32
|
I'd be scared to allow yourself into that again! From a mans point of view ...you know what he was after!
|
| 11/6/2007 3:03:27 PM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
computerfox
Central, SC
age: 24
|
Wow! Six years is a long time, but it sounds like he's not willing to give his fair share into this relationship. Are you truly happy with this? If so, then you can stay with hime, but if not (which it sounds like you are troubled) then you need to get out and find someone who will be with you when he's sober. There are several guys who are more worthy of you then this guy you're with. You deserve someone better. The whole I still love him thing is what's keeping you in this. You can love someone, but not be with them. Good luck with whatever decision you make!! 
|
| 11/6/2007 5:56:29 PM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 49
|
I can understand why you are torn. Your ex is "familiar". You are apart for a reason. He knows what you want to hear and tells you but he talks the talk but doesn't walk the walk. What you see with this guy is what you will get today and down the road. May I respectfully suggest you consider counseling? It is a sign of strength to address your problems and learn how NOT to repeat these mistakes in future relationships OR pick another similar guy. You will learn that you cannot change your ex but you can change your behavior and boundries. Most health insurance plans cover some counseling. If not, you can contact the county you live in and there are places that charge on a sliding scale. You will be better off not communicating with this guy. It's like pulling off a bandaid soooo slowly. Better to yank off the bandaid and be done with it. I know it's difficult. I've been down that road too. Good luck to you.
|
| 11/6/2007 6:00:35 PM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
lo_sue
El Paso, TX
age: 33
|
Start by moving on if you feel that you love him then it's harder i went though something similar gave him enough chances after 10 years and only 6 months ago i realized i was wasting my time and i left him. I am now spending time on my own and enjoying it...keep asking myself what took me so long...
|
| 11/6/2007 6:04:58 PM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
betrippin
Ithaca, NY
age: 29
|
I have been there took him back over and over. You have to stop and think about all of the things that you want out of life and go for them. If he is ment to be the he will come back. You will not have to work at it, it will just happen.good luck. it took me a while to get him out of my head and heart but it dose happen and I feel much better today. Trust me.
|
| 11/6/2007 6:21:16 PM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
falcon77
Eugene, OR
age: 41
|
I would start at the things that you wanted in a relationship that were different? What has changed there? If it was enough of a reason to cause you to break up the first time, then remember that people typically do not change these type of behaviors in their belief systems overnight either. Someone must come to a realization that they can accept the other persons views without trying to change or control that person or those areas"will" become an issue again. The past must stay in the past when you move forward as well. Good luck.
[Edited 11/6/2007 6:26:40 PM]
|
| 11/6/2007 6:32:46 PM |
I need some advice on a realationships with an EX |
|
pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38 online now!
|
I just have to say "Great advice" here tonight! Rocket, I couldn't have said it better myself. I just want to reinforce, you can "only change your boundaries" that is where it at... Act on it.
And find your love and happiness within. You will fly!
P.Win
|