| 11/11/2007 4:52:36 PM |
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kerob2165
West Terre Haute, IN
age: 42
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my youngest is going to have surgry(major) and ex thinks its wrong of me not to let her boyfriend be thier. this is our situation to handle and i don't think it's none of his concern. she says i'm being a prick! am i wrong for thinking this way?
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| 11/11/2007 4:57:49 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46 online now!
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Put the shoe on the other foot. If you have a woman in your life (don't know if you do or not) and she wasn't allowed to be with you there to give comfort and support then she'd be hurt.
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| 11/11/2007 5:02:23 PM |
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kerob2165
West Terre Haute, IN
age: 42
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i would explain to her that this is our child and let us handle it . if she could not accept that than she wouldn't be my girl friend no more. i know it sounds rude but i feel this is a time for the parents to be parents and not have outsiders butting in!
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| 11/11/2007 5:03:08 PM |
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woodsman1950
Rimersburg, PA
age: 56
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what harm could it do? may as well keep her content and reduce the stress.
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| 11/11/2007 5:05:23 PM |
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kerob2165
West Terre Haute, IN
age: 42
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this is a pretty touch sittuation our youngest could die from this operation!!!
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| 11/11/2007 5:05:29 PM |
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goldarnit
Saint Paul, MN
age: 47
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i agree with you-when our kids had surgery-it was just us-thats all we both felt needed to be there.your the primarey parents.our partners waited at home.i still think it was the right thing to do.good luck-its not worth fighting about though-focus on your child no matter what she decides to do-thats the priority right there,
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| 11/11/2007 5:08:44 PM |
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kerob2165
West Terre Haute, IN
age: 42
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after the operation and recovery he can visit, i don't have a problem with that.
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| 11/11/2007 5:14:08 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46 online now!
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Then this where the comfort is needed with someone you want to hold you and wait with you. If I were in the simular situation and I had a significant other I would want to feel the comfort from him for I could not find the comfort I needed from my X. If I got the comfort from my X, he might think that I wanted him back in my life more than he is now. What is important is that both parents are there with the child not who is now with the other parent.
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| 11/11/2007 5:17:24 PM |
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osohard4u
Dubuque, IA
age: 36
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I had surgery and wanted my girlfreind there or i would not have it.Less it it was a big one.If that helps
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| 11/11/2007 5:20:02 PM |
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kerob2165
West Terre Haute, IN
age: 42
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i guess i need to clarify i call her my ex just waiting for the paperwork to go thru and the courts may make us wait until after the operation!
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| 11/11/2007 5:21:45 PM |
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woodsman1950
Rimersburg, PA
age: 56
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let the one having surgery decide. they dont need the extra stress. its not like they will be helping the dr.
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| 11/11/2007 5:28:02 PM |
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kerob2165
West Terre Haute, IN
age: 42
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shes only 5 kind of hard for her to make that decsion shes confused as it is with not understanding why mommy and her don't live withdad and sis.
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| 11/11/2007 5:32:57 PM |
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goldarnit
Saint Paul, MN
age: 47
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damn shame..it shouldnt be this hard to decide-and DONT DRAG THE KID INTO AN ADULT DECISION!!!you know what dude focus on your daughter-ex is gonna do as she wishes-get your prioities straight man-who you more worried about???
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| 11/11/2007 5:40:26 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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There is nothing you can do to change what your soon to be ex is going to do or not do. What you need to focus on is what you do and how you react. Your daughter is your number one concern... not who is there or who is right or wrong for who they want there. I will pray all goes well with your daughter's surgery.
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| 11/11/2007 5:41:48 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46 online now!
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Yah kids do get confused on whom is whom. I have a 9 year old and he's had 2 surgeries (nothing major) and my sister was there to comfort me as well as my then husband (my son's father). So has your daughter met this man whom your soon to be X is seeing??? If she doesn't know him then she may not feel comfortable with a stranger being there.
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