| 11/17/2007 2:09:53 PM |
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lynn456
Martinsburg, WV
age: 38
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i have talked to alot of women and seen some of you ladies testomonies on here about the abuse that you have went through.i had worked with a womanwho came to work with bruises on her weekly eye blackend,arms with bruises where the dirt bag squeezed her arm.i told her i would help her get into a womans shelter she saidshe was scared to leave because he would kill her.this other girl michelle her boy friend would pick her up by the throat ,choke he did this in front of his daughter.michelle left him and went back to him because she said she needed his money.my sons mother,her previous boyfriend would slam her against the wall,punch holes in the walls,kicked the door in when she went into another room to escape i asked why she stayed with him so long she said he is only like this when he is drinking but he drank every day.i seen on here the other night a woman said her ex caved in her face,the same night another woman said her ex sexually abused all their children .i believe alot of this abuse comes from what they see their fathers do.it sickens me when a so called man does any of these disgaceful things.if you are a man you will not hurt the ones you love mentaly or physically.if you get violent when you drink get help and stop drinking.as far as sexually touching your children or any child go get help imediatly.many abused women physically or mentally feel ugly because of what a shit bag has done to them.just remember you are someone special and you are beautiful inside and on the inside.there is good loving ,honest ,caring men out there and i dont blame any woman for getting someones background cheked or being very cautious.
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| 11/17/2007 2:11:03 PM |
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crazycajun74
Dallas, TX
age: 33
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I was in an abusive relationship a LONGGGGGGG time ago. If a man thinks he can hit on me he better be prepared to lose a hand! 
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| 11/17/2007 2:12:46 PM |
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lynn456
Martinsburg, WV
age: 38
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i dont blame you one bit my sister stabbed her ex for it.
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| 11/17/2007 9:28:13 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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I've been in two abusive marriages. One was verbal and the other physical. I wasn't with the physical one that long and I sure wasn't gonna have my son be part of it either (no the physical abuser was not the father). Funny my X sent me threatening emails and phone calls but he never followed through. I'm still here breathing. 
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| 11/17/2007 9:29:50 PM |
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tac252
Seattle, WA
age: 43
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Dont worry chopper i got your back if he does come around!
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| 11/18/2007 12:59:17 AM |
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krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 39 online now!
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spent years as a woman's self defence instructor....I have no sympathy for those who would smack around an easy target.....I noticed that those f*ckers don't want anything to do with people who can fight back....they are gutless p*ssyholes.
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| 11/18/2007 1:22:24 AM |
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klassykitten
Toccoa, GA
age: 50
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Been there done that from birth on...I could tell you some survival stories....the DA kept an open file on this last ex while we were together...checked in with me every few months until the statue of limitations ran out...long story. They locked him up and insisted I pack and let them put me in a safe house....I said NO. It was my home before him and damned if I was leaving...I didn't either.
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| 11/18/2007 5:24:58 PM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38 online now!
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thank you lynn. I also have been there, done that and posted about it. Still hide from him. He has no rights to the kids.
And yes, it can be more dangerous to leave than to stay. That is when he tried to kill me and if not for the hand of God, would have succeeded.
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| 11/18/2007 6:08:05 PM |
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ollieottis
Traverse City, MI
age: 56 online now!
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I dated a woman that came out of a relaionship like that.Finally she had enough, and when he passed out from drinking, she tied him up,beat him with a baseball bat and then left.
He never bothered her much after that.
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| 11/18/2007 7:43:50 PM |
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gntlkisser
Owatonna, MN
age: 43
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Been in one also...its a scary thing.I always said, that if a man hit me, I was out of there, but at that time, I had no idea how scary it was...to leave..
i was threatened time and time again. Then we had twins...so he would hold one, while threatening me...How could I leave when he held one of my babies...but I finally got out...and will never go back into that again.
Have had some relationships, that have scared me enough to not date that man again...
there are warning signs,....that we as women need to listen too...
and should listen to. But I know when I was married to mine, and you get that verbal abuse, day in and day out...it sticks...even if you think it doesn't...it does...til you figure out one day, that you are worthy of a love ....worthy to be loved.......
everything takes time.....
to all of us survivors........
I raise my glass! 
we made it, and we came thru on the other side!
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| 11/18/2007 7:49:44 PM |
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nopretense
Harleysville, PA
age: 47
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This is such a heartbreaking subject.
I was in an abusive marriage...it was mostly verbal (and severely abusive verbally) but also physical (she hit me many times, threw things at me many times, threatened to blow my f-ing brains out).....
BUT...I don't think I ever felt fear the way a lot of women feal fear. So my heart really goes out to you who have been in such a horrible place.
Hugs and tears and prayers for you, precious friends.
Fritz
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| 11/18/2007 10:42:13 PM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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i guess i'm lucky never been hit - i did date a guy who used to do a lot of drugs and drink he would try to get real violent, the one time he tried i took a 12 pack of beer and whacked him on the head with it - he hit the ground. he stalked me heavily after that and threatened to kill me - well i had to have him arrested. im the kind if a guy raises his hand at me I will knock him into next week.
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| 11/19/2007 6:40:24 AM |
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norah01
Anchorage, AK
age: 48
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This whole thread is to close for comfort!!
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| 11/19/2007 7:06:59 AM |
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soultrynights
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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[Edited 11/19/2007 7:21:29 AM]
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| 11/19/2007 9:44:52 AM |
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wildgypsy
Bellevue, WA
age: 45
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“saidshe was scared to leave because he would kill her.”
“michelle left him and went back to him because she said she needed his money”
“said he is only like this when he is drinking but he drank every day”
“another woman said her ex sexually abused all their children”
“many abused women physically or mentally feel ugly because of what a shit bag has done to them.”
Gotta tell ya, made me sick to hear the lame excuses for not leaving, even to save their kids from living in it. The one who went back for money totally deserves what she gets!!!
Yeah, abused as a kid, (one reason why I won’t tolerate the excuse that if it happens to you as a kid, you could be more easily caught in the situation again, stupid, I learned, why don’t they?) and the first time my ex raised a hand to me was the last time he saw me. Sure, lots of threats, I say BRING IT PUNK. To this day, over 20 years after our divorce, he is still trying to keep his hooks into me, but not succeeding by a long shot. Last time a jealous former bf tried to choke me I clocked him with an iron. When he came to, I told him if he ever touched me again, “I’m gonna cut off your balls and shove them down your throat!” He KNEW I MEANT IT!!!! Even my father, who was abusive when I was a child, took 2 cheap shots at me while I was holding a TV when I was about 30. Something inside just snapped, I put the TV down and said, “Old man, that’s it!” One punch and he was on his ass. Called 911 and told them to get there before he got up, ‘cause if he touched me again I’m was gonna beat him to a bloody pulp.
Crazy “I was in an abusive relationship a LONGGGGGGG time ago. If a man thinks he can hit on me he better be prepared to lose a hand! ”
Considering this is a very sane and reasonable response, maybe you should just call yourself Cajun LOL
Krupa “I noticed that those f*ckers don't want anything to do with people who can fight back....”
LOL And the funniest thing I see is when these punks back away from peewee me, (guess it is the old size of the fight in the dog as opposed to the size of dog in the fight) but their GF is twice my size. Always make me wonder why she couldn’t deal with him herself. Maybe it is because I grew up brawling with an older brother, maybe it is because I was born with a red hot temper. I don't know, but I FIGHT BACK, and wish all women would find their own personal power and do the same. Better to live in a car with bucket seats in December (been there, with an infant no less) than live with a punk that will swing on you.
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