11/18/2007 6:39:20 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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29tootsie
Brightwaters, NY
age: 59
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Ok - guys - I just need a little encouragement here. I have been in love with a man for the last 3 years who is emotionally unavaiable. We are friends, that is all, but the friendship is so painful to me. He is cold and rejecting most of the time. I am always saying the wrong thing and getting him angry and then he won't talk to me for days or even weeks. I don't want to do this any more. I have to close the door on this quasi-relationship before I can open another door. I am actually afraid to let him go but I think it's more than time. I am going to not talk to him through e-mail or on the phone or have him over for coffee. I know I am doing the right thing because no one should hurt for this long - he's not worth it - just want some of you dear folks to tell me I am doing the right thing and will be ok. Thanks.
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11/18/2007 6:47:21 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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klassykitten
Toccoa, GA
age: 50 online now!
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tootsie girl didn't we already have this talk....not too long ago...you deserve better...kick his ass to the curb...I know it's hard, I'm not talking out my a**. I have been in your shoes.
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11/18/2007 6:49:12 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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mag11
New Port Richey, FL
age: 38
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God get rid of this guy quick!!!
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11/18/2007 6:52:14 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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lynn456
Martinsburg, WV
age: 38
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he is getting angry get out ,you are worth alot more than that.
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11/18/2007 6:54:34 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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blondie150
Allentown, PA
age: 58
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Ir's time to move on and keep yourself busy with other things and family and friends, if you dont have any make some.. Some men just dont get it and waste your time and feelings.
Time to go and find what you really want.. it's out there you just have to maybe look a little harder.
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11/18/2007 6:57:13 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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29tootsie
Brightwaters, NY
age: 59
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Yes, Klassy, we did! And you were right then and you are right now....but now I am ready to do it! Thanks for remembering and thanks for the good advice. Mag and Lynn - thanks to you too....I know! and this time I will do it.
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11/18/2007 7:58:17 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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falcon77
Eugene, OR
age: 41
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Tootsie,
Is this the same relationship we've talked about before? If so, you already know the answer.
It doesn't sound like healthy relationship and yet your still pondering whether you should let go? Trust in what God is bringing IN to your life, not what he is taking OUT of it.
Like the Israelites who longed to go back to Egypt, a place of enslavement for them. They had to go through a period of enlightenment. A desert period if you will, before they finally believed and inherited God's full promises for their lives. We all take this walk, it doesn't have to take 40 years either.
[Edited 11/18/2007 8:06:05 AM]
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11/18/2007 8:05:56 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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Tootsie... you've got the support of many on here.. time to think about you for once..It may be hard to let him go but it sounds like its harder not too. You're strong and you can do this...you've got friends if you need to talk.
Falcon...You are a wise man and I so enjoy reading your posts! Thank you!!
[Edited 11/18/2007 8:06:25 AM]
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11/18/2007 8:08:26 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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ladycat68
New Bern, NC
age: 39
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Been there, done that ugh! I'm sure you cleaved onto any nice thing he ever said or did to you over time and that kept you going...kind of like Pavlovs dog...silence, cold behavior, feeling ignored...then he says or does something sweet or loving and you give more importance to that than you should and hang in there...then the cycle repeats ..emotional rollercoaster......Glad to hear you aren't wasting anymore precious time in a dysfunctional situation..good luck!
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11/18/2007 8:10:04 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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prince4you
Bland, MO
age: 28
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In this case girl, yes you are doing the right thing. My grandfather told me bout women. There are more fish in the sea. So I will say something similar to this. There is more worms in the ground. You have to pitch a rotton worm to find a better worm worth of your likeing. No one deserves to be hurt.
Joe
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11/18/2007 8:21:56 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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racklover
Saint Augustine, FL
age: 58
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Better to die alone than to be with someone with whom you don't share love. Right?
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11/18/2007 8:50:33 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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29tootsie
Brightwaters, NY
age: 59
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Falcon....yes I'm enbarassed to say it is the same guy...but I'm ready now to let it go...wasn't before. Yes, as Heather says - you are very wise! (I'm a very slow learner) Heather - thanks for the support - you made me feel better and Ladycat - gosh - you do know exactly how I feel and what I'm talking about - thanks. and thanks to everyone that took the time to reply.
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11/18/2007 9:18:07 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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You're very welcome Tootsie... take care and God bless ya!! Here if you ever need to talk!
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11/18/2007 9:18:59 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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Rack...It's better to die alone than live with someone and wish you were dead!! JMO
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11/18/2007 10:13:54 AM |
I am ready to give up a man that has done nothing but hurt me |
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lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 55 online now!
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Tootsie, you have received excellent advise from all of the above...I would only add this. When the bad in a relationship outweighs the good, it is time to move on. The day will come when you can look back on this man, and see him for what he is, and smile that you walked away.
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