| 11/19/2007 3:50:46 PM |
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cohiba24
Seattle, WA
age: 23
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After 3 dates this girl I met on another dating site said she want to become exclusive... When she asked if I was okay with this, I fumbled my words, I do like her, but she got a little bothered when I said this was way to fast.
I really do not know how to word it. She could not take the blunt version.
[Edited 11/19/2007 3:51:39 PM]
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| 11/19/2007 3:58:07 PM |
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ladykathryn0414
Denison, IA
age: 29
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Be honest, not brutal lol.. tell her that you want to take your time and get to know each other. If you like her, but are still unsure exactly what you want with her.. its okay to tell her that. If she is a big girl, she can accept this. If she throws a conniption fit well then you learned early on she's a psycho freak and RUNNNNNN!!!!!WE all like to know where we stand, so be honest with her, but don't be too brutal since that will bring out the pscho in a lot of "normal" ppl.
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| 11/19/2007 4:00:12 PM |
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air1medic
Lakewood, WA
age: 36
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hey the truth hurts she needs to deal with it and understand where your coming from
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| 11/19/2007 4:02:31 PM |
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greenacres1
Martin, TN
age: 26
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goes for the man to
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| 11/19/2007 4:21:54 PM |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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I agree...and think that is a mutual decision as we cannot control what another person thinks or feels... I'd just explain your side like you just did with us and take it from there. If she's not understanding... she obviously ain't the one for you. Early in a relationship is a great time to find that out. I always had more respect for men when I knew where I stood with them.. Its the not knowing that is a pain in the a**.
Good luck to you!!
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| 11/19/2007 4:24:49 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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Yeah but were those real "Hot Dates"?
Sometimes you click , sometimes you don't i commend you for being honest though.
Have it all out in the open so there is no regreats later!
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| 11/19/2007 4:28:22 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
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yeah, that seems a little fast to want exclusive. do you want to cont seeing her? Or did this just really really turn you off? Obviously she likes you but seems a little eager..hmmm..i guess i'd say go with your instinct on this. If that doesn't fell right to you, then be honest and back off.
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| 11/19/2007 4:29:40 PM |
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tac252
Seattle, WA
age: 43 online now!
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If you couldnt and didnt tell her! then the relationship would have suffered in the future if there was to be one! But you did so now you feel guilty for being honest with yourself and her,Don't, sounds like your a good guy...good luck
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| 11/19/2007 4:39:39 PM |
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emt854
Appleton, WI
age: 53
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Yep what they said
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| 11/19/2007 5:02:41 PM |
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cohiba24
Seattle, WA
age: 23
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Yeah I agree, and I was not brutal, just cut and dry, I sat and listened, and allowed there to be questions and conversation about why I'm not comfortable with this after 3 dates no matter if they were hot or not, I dated a girl once that the first 4 - 5 months was "hot" in the end there was a lot of background she had not disclosed to me.
A lot of lies, ect..., I will not commit until the first year of dating is up. My mom is a LMFT and once told me to date for a year then proceed with a exclusive relationship, something about the brain, and a lot of other things I really know nothing about that goes with that. She also told me to watch out for online dating, and I did not listen to that, so it is what it is.
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| 11/19/2007 5:21:04 PM |
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trinagirl
Riverdale, NJ
age: 47
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hey your both not wrong. different time-tables. she is one that wants it exclusive sooner than later, and your the year guy.
who is to say what is the 'right' amount of time.
if she doesnt want to wait, theres your answer. shouldnt have to change whats right for you for someone else. and neither should this lady. maybe can figure out something.
if really like her, get her a lil teddy bear and keep changing the subject.  .
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| 11/19/2007 5:26:30 PM |
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sweetcj83
Laramie, WY
age: 24
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lol. Ditch her. I know that's blunt and all but it sounds like she might be a cling on
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| 11/19/2007 5:28:01 PM |
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geo13
Hanover, PA
age: 46
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you did the right thing it is your time table you have to live by, stay happy but don't be surprised when the tables turn it happens.
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| 11/19/2007 5:30:29 PM |
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cohiba24
Seattle, WA
age: 23
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I wish all women thought like you trinagirl, table turn a lot geo, it's a going problem, lol, sweetcj I'm not going to ditch a girl based on prediction, I'd become broke from dating.
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| 11/19/2007 5:42:04 PM |
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trinagirl
Riverdale, NJ
age: 47
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thanx cohiba . no need to judge or ditch her cause she wants sooner than later. everyone is different in what their looking for.
if likes you, she will stay around. its not like been together for years. 3 dates. she knows its soon. maybe that your just sooo coool and she doesnt want to share
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