| 5/22/2009 11:26:58 AM |
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looking4_prince
Twin Falls, ID
age: 56
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I saw some one's profile, and he met all the criteria of someone I might like to meet...I hate to be the one to make the first move,but I kept going back..his pics were just too cute..  .We chatted a few times,and he said all the right things,and have alot of mutual interests  .Now it comes time for a phone call...and his voice turns me cold.. .We have talked many times,and he's saying all the right things,and I still find him very attractive..but I'm having trouble getting past the sound of his voice  now it is time to meet,but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do...Please don't laugh at me..I am really having a hard time trying to decide if it will be different in person,or if what I hear is what i get... 
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| 5/22/2009 11:34:06 AM |
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i_am_bill
Astatula, FL
age: 50
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I saw some one's profile, and he met all the criteria of someone I might like to meet...I hate to be the one to make the first move,but I kept going back..his pics were just too cute.. .We chatted a few times,and he said all the right things,and have alot of mutual interests .Now it comes time for a phone call...and his voice turns me cold.. .We have talked many times,and he's saying all the right things,and I still find him very attractive..but I'm having trouble getting past the sound of his voice now it is time to meet,but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do...Please don't laugh at me..I am really having a hard time trying to decide if it will be different in person,or if what I hear is what i get...
I wouldn't go for the meet if his voice bothers you. It will start there and then get worse. Bill
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| 5/22/2009 11:40:56 AM |
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tombleweed
Kettle Falls, WA
age: 59
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Hi there What does he tell you? Is it how he talks or is it what he says? I wouldn meet him alone. Make it a public place.. I met a guy here and I went thru the same thing about his voice. He sounded like a woman on the phone but he WAS NOT. So sweety you judge for yourselfe what to do. You never have to see him again if you dont want to. If you dont meet him think about what you might be missing out on    
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| 5/22/2009 11:49:27 AM |
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brockr23
Chandler, AZ
age: 33 online now!
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You have to ask yourself this:
Is his voice such a turn off that you will not be able to accept him?
If the answer to that question is yes, you don't meet. If it's no, you do.
In any relationship you will not like every single thing about a person. As you search for that special someone, you will have to evaluate prospective partners based on what you are or are not willing to accept in the realm of "faults" or rather idiosyncrasies.
This is not a decision based on him, it is a decision based on you, your preferences and your ability to either accept him as he is or not.
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| 5/22/2009 11:52:30 AM |
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deano1234
Pierson, IA
age: 45
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I'd hold off,and talk somemore on the phone. If his voice bothers you in a general conversation, ask yourself what he would be like Mad?
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| 5/22/2009 11:55:02 AM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 52
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You need to meet!!!
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| 5/22/2009 12:06:42 PM |
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knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 73
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My thought is that the best thing you can do at this point is DEFINITELY to meet!...No promises, no high expectations. But, unless you're prepared to drop him and walk away NOW, you'll NEVER REALLY HAVE YOUR ANSWER AND MAY CONTINUE TO WONDER IF YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.
It doesn't sound like you have anything to be afraid of...you probably have to put the whole package together and sit across from him, (in a public place), look at him, and listen to what he has to say...if it's just the sound of his voice and all the rest is good, perhaps you'll want to adjust.
By the way, I've been there and I understand. Fortunately, (or unfortunately), as I listened to him during several phone calls, I discovered that what was WORSE, was his attitude...what he was saying and how he was saying it. I made the decision it was not worth meeting him.
Let us know what you decide and how it comes out.
Just my thoughts,
KK
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| 5/22/2009 12:47:10 PM |
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edgeofsandias
Placitas, NM
age: 41
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Ever notice how you can forget the details of a person's face when you know them for their mind? The same may happen for the voice. I vote, go meet, and see.
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| 5/22/2009 12:50:33 PM |
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annigma3
Madison, WI
age: 35
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No one can decide what you're going to do except you. However, if everything about this guy seems like what you're looking for, it seems silly to me to not go at least MEET them, just becuz of their voice.
I'm huge on voices, myself, so I can understand where you're coming from. But I also know tht I would not miss out on the chance to meet someone I can really connect wth, just becuz their voice isn't what I would prefer to hear.
There is just too much more to a person than that.
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| 5/22/2009 1:10:13 PM |
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caky
Walton, KY
age: 48
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We have talked many times,and he's saying all the right things,and I still find him very attractive but I'm having trouble getting past the sound of his voice.
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| 5/22/2009 1:14:18 PM |
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kinkycapitalist
Atlanta, GA
age: 54
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A girl with a sexy voice or better yet, an English accent already starts with 2 points on the Clydesdale Scale.
Clydesdale Scale = How many Budwiser Clydesdale Horses it takes to pull her off my face.
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| 5/22/2009 1:20:34 PM |
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italianvintage
Queen Creek, AZ
age: 58
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It may not turn into the relationship you want but then again by just meeting in person you might fined one of your best friends.I have had the same experience your not alone thats life
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| 5/22/2009 1:21:15 PM |
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califgirl1
Martinsville, VA
age: 63
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I always want to hear the voice...it makes
a difference..I know..and I understand just
what you feel...I think I would go for the meet..
You don't want to look back and think what did
I miss out on...
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| 5/22/2009 1:59:12 PM |
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looking4_prince
Twin Falls, ID
age: 56
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thanks for your input...I'm feeling very superficial about this...you are all right..his voice was just a little on the fem side,from what I expected from this tall,lanky cowboy.And maybe I should make him mad to see if it changes...lol..I have decided to meet him,because there is just too much positive not to at least meet.It's way too hard to find people that you have alot in common with,without not even trying...my only real expectation is a fun fishing trip with a new friend...and getting to bar-b-q the results..chemistry and time will have to go from there...it's only 4 more days..
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| 5/22/2009 3:22:16 PM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 45
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I am so glad you decided to meet him, as you never really know...
BUT I know exactly what you mean about the voice...
I've had the opposite in the past I heard a sexy voice, and not from here BUT the voice didn't match the person...
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