| 7/5/2009 11:59:51 AM |
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tracylynn
Fort Myers, FL
age: 44
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I've been at this now for over a year and haven't found any really good prospects! The guys that email me are usually a lot older than me! What am I doing wrong? Are there really that many drug addicts and alcoholics out there? Maybe I'm scaring off a lot of guys with that line in my profile! I don't know! Ready to give up on this site! HELP!
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| 7/5/2009 12:01:38 PM |
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easygoinalways
Coloma, MI
age: 39
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Hey.... I cant find a decent women!!! All they want to either do is party all the time or just play games.... Im about frickin done too!!!!!
Just frustrated!!!
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| 7/5/2009 12:09:29 PM |
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john346
Riverdale, GA
age: 38
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tracylynn:
Try to adjust your expectations. Where you really interested in finding a real man to begin with?
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| 7/5/2009 12:11:22 PM |
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reeler
West Columbia, SC
age: 33
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Why is it so hard to find a decent gal? Plenty jokers and opportunists out there. Cant even begin to describe the agony it causes us level headed good men!!!
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| 7/5/2009 12:26:42 PM |
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tracylynn
Fort Myers, FL
age: 44
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Yes, I've been looking for over a year now! I get looks and stares at stores and restaurants but no guy will ever come near me! What gives?
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| 7/5/2009 12:31:35 PM |
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john346
Riverdale, GA
age: 38
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tracylynn:
And if a midget came up to you, would you even consider him human enough to gain your attention?? Again, i suspect men come to you but you may be in a mental trap where you feel your are only worthy of some men and not others. I have a hrad time beleiving that men don't come up to you, because I suspect you are pretty and good-looking.
Okay, shoot me an e-mial and lets talk. I am a scorpio just as you and I am episcoplain and you are catholic--pretty close.
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| 7/5/2009 12:32:26 PM |
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stewie444
Seaboard, NC
age: 35
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tracylynn:
And if a midget came up to you, would you even consider him human enough to gain your attention?? Again, i suspect men come to you but you may be in a mental trap where you feel your are only worthy of some men and not others. I have a hrad time beleiving that men don't come up to you, because I suspect you are pretty and good-looking.
Is the midget wearing pants?
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| 7/5/2009 12:36:24 PM |
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tracylynn
Fort Myers, FL
age: 44
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My friends tell me guys are scared of rejection and that's why they won't talk to me! Like I always say, ya gotta play to win! If you don't talk to me how will we ever know if we were compatible? I'm not mean at all! Very sweet! I don't go to bars! Don't go out with the girls often, if we do go out it's dinner and a movie! I'd rather be with a great man! Mostly a homebody these days, ready to give up and let love find me someday like everyone tells me! 
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| 7/5/2009 12:38:32 PM |
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john346
Riverdale, GA
age: 38
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tracylynn:
Okay, shoot me an e-mail and lets talk. I am a scorpio just as you and I am episcoplain and you are catholic--pretty close--chemistry beginning.
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| 7/5/2009 12:48:51 PM |
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wayward_son
Prince Frederick, MD
age: 22
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cuz your "just friends" with the good guy.
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| 7/5/2009 12:54:42 PM |
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sweet912
Savannah, GA
age: 25
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are you supposed to settle for a guy because you can't find the guy that you're looking for?
do you think its wise to lower the standards?
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| 7/5/2009 1:00:13 PM |
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john346
Riverdale, GA
age: 38
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are you supposed to settle for a guy because you can't find the guy that you're looking for?
do you think its wise to lower the standards?
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So, what are the standards of females today, given that they are having babies with no dads these days (60% or more)?
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| 7/5/2009 1:06:30 PM |
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stewie444
Seaboard, NC
age: 35
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are you supposed to settle for a guy because you can't find the guy that you're looking for?
do you think its wise to lower the standards?
exactly... stick to your guns and accept no less..... don't "settle"
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| 7/5/2009 1:09:39 PM |
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sweet912
Savannah, GA
age: 25
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All im asking for is a respetable, honest, loving,trust worthy man.
with a good job, or working towards getting a good job.
This man has to want kids in the future, and not already have 2 or 3 baby mamas.
I want a man that can take care of himself, has a car, and isnt stayin with mom(if he is then he must be working on getting out very soon)
to me this is reasonable....I refused to settle!
oh yea and from a comment earlier i have no kids....so i wouldnt know their standards.
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| 7/5/2009 1:10:59 PM |
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wildbluemist
Battle Mountain, NV
age: 49
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My friends tell me guys are scared of rejection and that's why they won't talk to me! Like I always say, ya gotta play to win! If you don't talk to me how will we ever know if we were compatible? I'm not mean at all! Very sweet! I don't go to bars! Don't go out with the girls often, if we do go out it's dinner and a movie! I'd rather be with a great man! Mostly a homebody these days, ready to give up and let love find me someday like everyone tells me!  You are 100% right never settle for less.Half the guys out there would beg for you to be with them.The other half are too afraid of their wives.!Like that kitchen shot
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| 7/5/2009 1:15:37 PM |
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john346
Riverdale, GA
age: 38
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All im asking for is a respetable, honest, loving,trust worthy man.
with a good job, or working towards getting a good job.
This man has to want kids in the future, and not already have 2 or 3 baby mamas.
I want a man that can take care of himself, has a car, and isnt stayin with mom(if he is then he must be working on getting out very soon)
to me this is reasonable....I refused to settle!
oh yea and from a comment earlier i have no kids....so i wouldnt know their standards.
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Many females say this, and yet, many end up in exactly what they worked against. I see your point, but we shall wait and see if your mind will rule your heart into the future or if your heart will rule your mind. Almost always, the heart always rules the head when it comes to females. Are you going to be different?
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| 7/5/2009 1:22:32 PM |
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aeacus
Dundalk, MD
age: 46
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Not again...
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| 7/5/2009 1:24:38 PM |
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happylisa
Broken Arrow, OK
age: 44
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I have a few suggestions for you. Please dont take it as being critical because its not at all. Maybe you should try a change. I read your profile and the first few things that you wrote were in the negative. Try changing your profile to sound positive only. No negatives. Maybe what you're looking for in a man, make it sound positive and cheerful.
My 2nd suggestion is the pictures you post. If you're looking for a decent, good man, they usually want someone who is conservative in dress but yet classy, someone that they can take to their family. One of the pictures you posted is pretty revealing and the other, one can barely see it. Maybe post a smiling picture that shows your bubbly personality. There's always going to be guys that are incompatible with you write but that's the price you pay to find the right guy. I am happily in a relationship now for 4 months and its someone that I met right here on DateHookup. Best relationship ever and I believe this one is for good. It worked for me and hope that things work out for you too. Good Luck.
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| 7/5/2009 1:27:31 PM |
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john346
Riverdale, GA
age: 38
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I have a few suggestions for you. Please dont take it as being critical because its not at all. Maybe you should try a change. I read your profile and the first few things that you wrote were in the negative. Try changing your profile to sound positive only. No negatives. Maybe what you're looking for in a man, make it sound positive and cheerful.
My 2nd suggestion is the pictures you post. If you're looking for a decent, good man, they usually want someone who is conservative in dress but yet classy, someone that they can take to their family. One of the pictures you posted is pretty revealing and the other, one can barely see it. Maybe post a smiling picture that shows your bubbly personality. There's always going to be guys that are incompatible with you write but that's the price you pay to find the right guy. I am happily in a relationship now for 4 months and its someone that I met right here on DateHookup. Best relationship ever and I believe this one is for good. It worked for me and hope that things work out for you too. Good Luck.
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Happylisa:
You are truely a happy person. Excellent advice. I hope the OP takes it. Well done.
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| 7/5/2009 1:32:47 PM |
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happylisa
Broken Arrow, OK
age: 44
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Happylisa: You are truely a happy person. Excellent advice. I hope the OP takes it. Well done.
Thank you John346. Nothing better than being positive in life as it only brings happiness.
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| 7/5/2009 3:12:54 PM |
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sweet912
Savannah, GA
age: 25
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well maybe you are right....i always have the hardest time in these dating sites. well i will try to stay positive and more conservative...thanx for advice!
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| 7/5/2009 4:39:17 PM |
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rodrigoa1
Locust Grove, VA
age: 35
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The problem you may have is this... you have an agenda and your agenda doesn't fit the guys you meet. I am sure in your church you can find a nice guy to agree with your agenda.
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| 7/5/2009 5:57:04 PM |
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johnbilo
Fort Myers, FL
age: 42
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Jimminy CricKetts....I just joined!!!! Hi...How is you?
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| 7/5/2009 6:09:19 PM |
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seabiscuit1
Waterbury, CT
age: 60
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There are more decent guys than spending all of your time on dating sites.
If you want to meet a nice decent guy then frequent places
where they may be. As an example take up an activity like golf,
join civic organizationa, even go places like Lowes and
Home Depot and most men who be more than happy to help you
with any questions and you might carry on the conversation a little
further.
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| 7/5/2009 6:47:10 PM |
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musclenhustle
Grand Forks, ND
age: 28
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we all seem to have the same aspect about the opposite sex. My reasoning is that men and woman dont get each other and communication is sometimes at a stand still. You gotta tell your signifcant other what you want or else it doesn't get out there. face it guys, we don't listen sometimes or don't pick up on what a woman is trying to tell us. Woman are deep in thinking as us guys are "whatever" now we are not all like that but a good majoridy are. Well i think im done on this subject, everybody have a nice day!
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| 7/5/2009 6:47:43 PM |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
age: 35
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Hmm..... I wonder?
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| 7/5/2009 6:59:44 PM |
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dlm5057
Ashville, AL
age: 53
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I am about ready to give up on all sites. There are some really STRANGE men out there having been out of the dating scene for 22 yrs I thought it would be easier but I wonder if there are any DECENT men let out there to be found If so where are they at?
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| 7/7/2009 8:13:00 AM |
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misunderstood24
Savannah, GA
age: 25
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Well I'm back again lol. Another one of my problems is I work 9hrs a day.....5days a week, go to school on Saturdays. Drive 1hr and 30mins to work. So there isnt much time to go out to different places to try to find a decent guy except maybe Saturday after class and Sundays. I work in a Courthouse, so thats pretty much out the question. So yes I try this online thing and still I haven't found that decent guy as of yet.
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| 7/7/2009 10:09:51 AM |
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legaleye
Columbus, OH
age: 58
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The women complain about finding men. The men complain about finding women. Perhaps the complaining women will get together with the complaining men and solve the problem by finding eachother?
Everyone is different and has different expectations, but we all need to be realistic. However, one of the things I have seen in dealing with women who have children is that they often (not always) think of adding a man to their existing life, as opposed to starting a new life with a new relationship. There is a difference.
We all read posts about "not settling" etc. but often we need to re-evaluate your criteria. As to me, I have an extremely short list, everything else is negotiable.
Another thing to consider is that many of us are pretty set in our ways and it will take time, effort and cooperation to create a long lasting and viable new relationship.
Good luck.
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| 7/7/2009 10:35:56 AM |
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tazman06
Alva, FL
age: 39
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One thing I have noticed is that sometimes you have to change what you are looking for. This doesn't mean settle for something less just change what you are looking at. For example if you only date Blonde men try one with red hair. If they are usually tall try a shorter one. The physical aspects may be different but the person is the same.
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| 7/7/2009 11:25:00 AM |
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rumblytumbly25
Nederland, TX
age: 26
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One thing I have noticed is that sometimes you have to change what you are looking for. This doesn't mean settle for something less just change what you are looking at. For example if you only date Blonde men try one with red hair. If they are usually tall try a shorter one. The physical aspects may be different but the person is the same.
thats a very good point
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| 7/7/2009 11:48:37 AM |
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hitman_13
Paris, TN
age: 42
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You maybe looking for all the wrong thing's, or expecting to much. Everybody has given you really good advice, now all you have to do is apply. Good Luck!
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| 7/7/2009 11:52:04 AM |
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ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 34
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I've been at this now for over a year and haven't found any really good prospects! The guys that email me are usually a lot older than me! What am I doing wrong? Are there really that many drug addicts and alcoholics out there? Maybe I'm scaring off a lot of guys with that line in my profile! I don't know! Ready to give up on this site! HELP!
Do you ever e-mail guys vs. waiting for them to e-mail you?
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| 7/7/2009 12:47:32 PM |
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yourfriendbob
Fayette, OH
age: 56
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Try posting a pic where you aren't bent over so they can look down your shirt. The emails will dwindle to a trickle, and they won't be very interesting, but they may have different expectations.
Just a suggestion.........
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| 7/7/2009 12:51:33 PM |
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polefrog
Harriman, TN
age: 54
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Yes, I've been looking for over a year now! I get looks and stares at stores and restaurants but no guy will ever come near me! What gives?
Check to see if dress is caught in pantyhose.....,.,
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| 7/7/2009 3:12:31 PM |
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whamback
Columbus, OH
age: 62
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Hmmmm...I read your profile and some of your post's, interesting how it is all about you. This thread is another example.
There is nothing wrong with your pic's, you are a beautiful 42 year old woman.
Although you wrote your profile in all caps, which is impolite at least, your word's all sound like demand's. Not your wants or your needs.
I also took the opportunity to read some of your post's, your response on the "oral Sex Thread" was interesting. And the statement on the on the thread "I'd rip his clothes off on the 1st or 2nd date", say's alot about how you view realtionsips. And makes your claim of looking for a "decent" guy invalid...
And then you ask why men are intimidated by YOU??
I agree with the positive thought post, but I also feel that you need to change the way you view the world around you, and the world around you will change.
May be if your post's reflected more of who you are as a person and not lean so much toward's the MILf attitude, may be just may be. some on would find you more approachable.
And then there is the fact that this is a free site, and what the heck did you expect??
But hey, what the hell do I know, I am just a man
wham
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| 7/7/2009 9:49:42 PM |
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whitewolfking
Victoria, TX
age: 21
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Decent people are hard to find because society has screwed up
What people see as a good relationship, America now has a standard
I don't belive that standard that's why I haven't found a good girlfriend yet
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| 7/7/2009 9:54:05 PM |
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drummaster777
Auburn, WA
age: 35
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Honestly, you sound b*tchy in your profile. That's a major turn-off for most guys no matter how good you may look.
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| 7/7/2009 9:57:49 PM |
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itsariot
Toledo, OH
age: 28
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well, maybe just maybe you're not giving these older men a chance. you said you can't come upon a decent guy but then your first line is the one's who email you are older.
i'm not saying to settle for a minute. just maybe be more open minded is all. maybe one of the older guys will surprise you.
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| 7/7/2009 10:11:33 PM |
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mjw_6230
Louisville, KY
age: 33
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Yes, I've been looking for over a year now! I get looks and stares at stores and restaurants but no guy will ever come near me! What gives?
thats your problem. this is 2009 not 1959. if you see him looking at you or staring at you or you know hes interested than go and start a convo with him. damn, women want men to do all the work. it takes two. he may be kinda shy. women want equal rights but dont want to approach a guy. hes expected to still do all the work. 
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| 7/8/2009 4:19:30 AM |
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mrboiny
Vancouver, WA
age: 49
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Perhaps the problem isn't the finding of the decent guy but rather a fault in your "picker."
Try looking back in different relationships and seeing your part in them. You may have to go back to the very beginning of the relationship - where that little voice said something like... "He's a pretty good guy, but..." That "but" is a pretty big deal down the road most often, at least that's been my experience.
Don't get me wrong here young lady, I don't mean that the jerks you've dealt with don't have a part in it - of course they do and they pay for that. It's just that one improves one's possibilities in this deal by examining and changing personality defects that may have played a big role in our own part.
In my own experience, I used to move way too quickly - afraid they'd lose interest in me or something like that. Often that meant sex too early. So I take responsibility for that on my part, even though it took two to tango so to speak. Now, I'm adamant about not having sex before marriage. That may sound corny to some, but it's not like I'm curious or inexperienced, or don't like it. It's just that every relationship I've ever had if I could turn back the clock and not done that kind of thing, well it probably would have turned out differently.
Taking it slow now works for me. Becoming best friends first, making deposits in her "love bank" by listening without fixing, showing I cherish her, and above all being patient and letting things flow is what I'm trying to do these days.
And I'm still waiting for the right one again, but I'm willing to wait and invest in the next good one that comes along.
Just my experience and opinion for what it's worth.
Hang in there and do the work, it'll come in time.
Best Regards,
Bernard
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| 7/8/2009 4:37:39 AM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 63
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I know it is exasperating--but never lower your standards--thats just asking for trouble. Its better to wait. There are nice people out there--I have no idea what it takes to get them to contact you---but millions are looking for nice and they are having just as much trouble. Relax--it will happen. Enjoy your day--Good luck.
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| 7/8/2009 9:18:03 PM |
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oldfire
Cowichan Bay, BC
age: 68
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Did you ever stop to think that the nice guy is the one that you did not stop to take a second look at.
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| 7/8/2009 9:33:01 PM |
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catseyes2
Elk Grove Village, IL
age: 40
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One thing I have noticed is that sometimes you have to change what you are looking for. This doesn't mean settle for something less just change what you are looking at. For example if you only date Blonde men try one with red hair. If they are usually tall try a shorter one. The physical aspects may be different but the person is the same.
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| 7/9/2009 7:31:20 AM |
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countrycharmer
Litchfield, OH
age: 45
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Have to love this internet type of way to meet individuals that can be very in-personal.
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| 7/9/2009 8:13:19 AM |
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noredneckhere
Knoxville, TN
age: 50
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Well, let's take a look. First we see pics with tons of cleavage. Then we read your profile:
"LOOKING FOR FRIENDS AND POSSIBLY MORE... NO, I'M NOT HORNY, SO DON'T E-MAIL ME IF THAT'S THE ONLY QUESTION YOU HAVE! I'M NOT INTO ANYONE WITH AN ADDICTION OF ANY KIND! BEEN THERE DONE THAT! JUST LOOKING FOR A REALLY NICE, ADORABLE, SWEET GUY WITH A GREAT HEART! SO, IF YOU THINK YOUR HIM, SHOOT ME AN E-MAIL AND WE'LL CHAT! CHEMISTRY IS EVERYTHING! IT SHOULDN'T BE THIS HARD TO FIND A GREAT GUY!"
Then you lead off with "I'm not horny". So, the pics are contrary to the profile, so are there multiple personalities a guy would have to deal with ? Secondly, who the hell would want to go out with a non-horny chick ? Third, saying that right up front makes you sound like you're already trying to control things before you've even met anyone.
I'd pass too.
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| 7/9/2009 8:26:57 AM |
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sacred78
Nashville, TN
age: 32
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There are loadZ of bad ones....So, it is like finding a needle in a haystack...
The one who stands out above the Fray...
Hang in there!
Another thing, confidence goes a long ways...Get eXcited about all of the attention...because when you and him find each other...you will never have the guyZ dropping at your feet....I mean, yes, in marriage the men have the googly eyes...but it doesn't mean anything cuZ you are in luv with your man...
I remember toward the end of my marriage...my eXhubby took me out to eat, and he did not open the door for me...lol, so some dude opened it for me...and I followed. I will not be disrespected. Men must mind their manners. My eXhusband was irate, because I did not play his game of disrespect. This is the ONLY time he got mad at me over another guy. He learned the hardway...that others will treat me with respect, even if he does not.
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| 7/9/2009 9:55:21 AM |
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maxx104
Las Vegas, NV
age: 61
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You are on the internet in your bra. Redo the profile. You want a nice guy. Be a nice girl.
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| 7/9/2009 1:32:49 PM |
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ar_farm_hand
Elkins, AR
age: 41
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T,
sorry you're not having any luck.
you look ok to me.
but you're toooo farr away , even for my bird dog to hunt.
maybe you're not fishin' with the right bait?
TTYS
JL
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| 7/9/2009 2:14:10 PM |
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abundance1961
Mesa, AZ
age: 49
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I've been at this now for over a year and haven't found any really good prospects! The guys that email me are usually a lot older than me! What am I doing wrong? Are there really that many drug addicts and alcoholics out there? Maybe I'm scaring off a lot of guys with that line in my profile! I don't know! Ready to give up on this site! HELP!
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| 7/10/2009 8:52:44 AM |
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mzdeberella3
Clearfield, UT
age: 29
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There are not many decent guys left..... but alot of times the problem lies in yourself. If you want to find a certain person you need to strive to be that type of person....
maybe your not ready? try and take a break and focus on yourself. Be single for a while and work on yourself
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| 7/10/2009 8:58:28 AM |
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brockr23
Chandler, AZ
age: 35
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There are not many decent guys left..... but alot of times the problem lies in yourself. If you want to find a certain person you need to strive to be that type of person....
maybe your not ready? try and take a break and focus on yourself. Be single for a while and work on yourself
Do you and Sacred drink out of the same Kool-Aid dispenser?
For the love of God ladies, how much research have you done to make these statement?
There are not many decent guys left...
It's like looking for a needle in a haystack...
Look, just because your choices and your experiences have left you with a feeling that since you are alone there must not be many decent guys left, does not in fact make it true.
Further, perpetuating that fallacy by advising every person you see a question from that there are not many decent men left in the world is self-serving at best.
I'd wager that you emotional baggage from your divorces carries a lot of weight with you and probably rules your thought processes about men. I'll tell you this much, your issues with men start with your issues with yourself.
There are plenty of "good" men in this world, if you but open your eyes to have a real look around.
First you have to fix you.
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| 7/10/2009 9:05:05 AM |
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tallestdiva
Flint, MI
age: 35
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I agree Brockr and not only women; people in general. To get on with our lives we must forgive and move on. Notice I did not say forget! Eventually, we figure out you cannot keep taking the same path and end up in a different place.
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| 7/10/2009 9:19:22 AM |
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spider77
Adamsville, AL
age: 59
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Why is it so hard to find a decent Woman?
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| 7/10/2009 9:39:34 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 37
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Don't you mean "Why is it so decent to find a hard guy?"
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| 7/10/2009 9:40:41 AM |
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fredalan
Barling, AR
age: 58
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Maybe your expectations are to high. Have you had any dates or get togethers? Have you given anyone a real chance for both of you to get to know one another?
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| 7/10/2009 11:05:46 AM |
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mzdeberella3
Clearfield, UT
age: 29
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brockr23
i agree with what you say...problems do lie in myself and this i know and so I dont get into serious relationships...my expectations are high so......... in my mind there are few men that meet up to my expectations.... im sure there are still alot of great guys out there but not that meet my qualifications.
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| 7/10/2009 12:22:36 PM |
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peteredout
Simi Valley, CA
age: 58
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If you've been at this a while... then you should consider the common denominator in all this... the problem may be YOU.
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| 7/10/2009 12:23:42 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 37
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There are not many decent guys left that I am attracted to..... but alot of times the problem lies in yourself. If you want to find a certain person you need to strive to be that type of person....
maybe your not ready? try and take a break and focus on yourself. Be single for a while and work on yourself
Fixed.
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| 7/10/2009 12:37:58 PM |
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josh_p
Los Angeles, CA
age: 24
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Well, let's take a look. First we see pics with tons of cleavage. Then we read your profile:
"LOOKING FOR FRIENDS AND POSSIBLY MORE... NO, I'M NOT HORNY, SO DON'T E-MAIL ME IF THAT'S THE ONLY QUESTION YOU HAVE! I'M NOT INTO ANYONE WITH AN ADDICTION OF ANY KIND! BEEN THERE DONE THAT! JUST LOOKING FOR A REALLY NICE, ADORABLE, SWEET GUY WITH A GREAT HEART! SO, IF YOU THINK YOUR HIM, SHOOT ME AN E-MAIL AND WE'LL CHAT! CHEMISTRY IS EVERYTHING! IT SHOULDN'T BE THIS HARD TO FIND A GREAT GUY!"
Then you lead off with "I'm not horny". So, the pics are contrary to the profile, so are there multiple personalities a guy would have to deal with ? Secondly, who the hell would want to go out with a non-horny chick ? Third, saying that right up front makes you sound like you're already trying to control things before you've even met anyone.
I'd pass too.
I agree.
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