| 12/2/2007 4:00:41 PM |
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74komatsu
Fort Worth, TX
age: 33
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My parents spent many years of hard work teaching me to be a gentleman and it seems to not be relivent in todays culture. Saying yes mam to a lady u don't know personally is often taken as offense. I can't stop opening doors and such because it's ingrained in me but i wonder is gentlemanly conduct going the way of the dodo?
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| 12/2/2007 4:06:16 PM |
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sylviasmatch
Winter Springs, FL
age: 50
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I think the things you do are so rare, that people are STUNED by it when it happens to them.
I KNOW I AM.
I just assume no one will do it for me. I catch myself opening a door for a man a lot of the time just to be polite.
I would love to have a man like you around.
S
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| 12/2/2007 4:11:49 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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I think it's awesome that there are still men out there that open doors for ladies. Think it is lost in some of today's fast paced world. Don't lose that good trait. Some of us ladies love it 
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| 12/2/2007 4:16:21 PM |
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74komatsu
Fort Worth, TX
age: 33
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i've had woman look at me crazy followed by "I'm not a mam" for saying such things, but i have always felt with the right look and smile "mam" is quite flirty.
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| 12/2/2007 4:17:23 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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Yes it is quite flirty 
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| 12/2/2007 4:27:13 PM |
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74komatsu
Fort Worth, TX
age: 33
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glad to see parents down home trainin was not a lost effort. seems that some other people chatting need some down home trainin.
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| 12/2/2007 5:09:58 PM |
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etincelle
Montreal, QC
age: 42
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I love gentlemen
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| 12/2/2007 10:16:32 PM |
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shieldoftyr
Jefferson City, TN
age: 24
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I have found myself wondering those same things. I too was raised to be a gentleman and to treat others with civility and respect and have gotten surprised reactions and puzzled looks from people. I was on a date a few months back, and when I opened the car door for her she was more puzzled than anything. It was like that simple gesture was a totally alien concept to her.
Perhaps it is a reflection of the state of the world that many people stay inside their own "bubble" and avoid all but the most necessary human contact with strangers. I feel that in some way, the focus on political correctness has chipped away at old-fashioned gentility to the point where the culture is slowly but surely rendering it obsolete. Simply referring to a lady as "ma'am" or indeed even as a "lady" can be deemed as sexist and offensive by some.
For my part however, I refuse to give up on my values and will continue to conduct myself as I feel is most appropriate. If people have a problem with that, they can just sue me.
In my book anyway, chivalry may be on the endangered species list, but it's certainly not dead.
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| 12/2/2007 10:24:44 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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I am guessing that when you do open a door for a woman it is uncommon to her from her past dates with men. She will appreciate it later after the shock wears off. 
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| 12/2/2007 10:26:50 PM |
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mugan
Gresham, OR
age: 25
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I do the same things as well. I was raised by my grandparents. Just last nite I saw a gentleman walk his gf arm in arm to his truck and open the door. I thought that properness was lost. Keep it up, maybe the ones that dont will catch on. 
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| 12/2/2007 11:10:49 PM |
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a_keeper
Campbellsville, KY
age: 45
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I think its a great thing and I love it when a man opens the door for me. It's rare but guy's still do those things.
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| 12/2/2007 11:25:45 PM |
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waterspirit
Olympia, WA
age: 53
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Do gentleman lie cheat and steal? Or are they honest, loyal, kind as well as polite. Anyone man can call himself a gentleman but a real one has a core of values that is never compromised.
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| 12/2/2007 11:39:17 PM |
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dragonflys
Saint James, MO
age: 46 online now!
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You guys keep up the good work and mind your manners...thats a fine quality and it sometimes makes people remember what they forgot... ....JMO...Dragon 
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| 12/3/2007 5:00:59 AM |
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shieldoftyr
Jefferson City, TN
age: 24
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Waterspirit - I can only speak for myself of course, but for me, gentility is just one part of an encompassing code of "Right Action" that I live by.
I am of the Asatru faith, and we appreciate what are known as the Nine Noble Virtues.
They are: Courage, Truth, Honor, Fidelity, Discipline, Hospitality, Self-Reliance, Industriousness and Perseverance.
I strive to uphold those virtues in my daily life.
Do I occasionally falter and come short of the ideal? Of course, I am human and fallible, but I make a real and genuine effort. I feel that living a just and honorable life is not easy, but that is what makes striving for it worthwhile.
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| 12/3/2007 8:57:45 PM |
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romesburnin
Carmichael, CA
age: 39
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Damn, you is one virtuous mofo, a virtuoso of virtuosity if you will.
I can only come up with about five or so for my faith, whose tenet's are more consistent with that of a Machiavellian theme, but here goes: (The inaccurate version, but works for me.)
lie
cheat
steal
uh,.. fornicate (a stretch i know)
All = Good for Mike
Well, I could only come up with four, but close enough.
I pity the girl that falls for that line of crap, once she finds out how "fallible" (your words) you really are.
Mike
Relax dude, lulz
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