| 12/7/2007 9:22:15 AM |
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clarencen
Waterford, MI
age: 29
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cheating is not a new thing it just something that gets old really quick
i personally never cheated on anyone period and i never found a reason to cheat
i think i lost count after 1 to how many times i been cheated on so i guess it dont really bother me lol
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| 12/7/2007 9:54:18 AM |
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big_joel
Ash Flat, AR
age: 55
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you have to be really with some one to cheat on them
if you only have a couple dates and nothing else then would it realy be considered cheating
now if you were commited to that person yes i agree it would be cheating
had that done to me in 2 marriages so its been here for a long long long time
your younge wait til your 50 and see if it will still be here
the fda is working on a cure for it
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| 12/8/2007 4:11:04 AM |
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tallestdiva
Flint, MI
age: 32
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I have read several topics about cheaters and cheating, and I have found that no one replying cheats. So where are all the cheaters?
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| 12/8/2007 6:36:12 AM |
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exfirefighter
Inverness, FL
age: 55
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I never have or would cheat! I think people who cheat are scumbags and deserve what they get. Its been going on for ever but ther is a segment in todays society that thinks cheating is a cool inthing to do and is perfectly ok to do. They are wrong , it not ok to cheat.
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| 12/8/2007 7:23:49 AM |
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lovemekay
Flint, MI
age: 19
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Haha tallestdiva well how I see it people are 2gether and say the girl cheats...so she leaves her guy1 for guy2 therefore she isn't songle and isn't on a dating site. ?? Lol that's the only thing I can think of....its just the broken sad people on here cause the cheaters still have somebody.....lol
That sounds so horrible. 
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| 12/8/2007 7:43:48 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32
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The whole 'one person's needs are not being met' line is total bullshit. Found that one out.
You can provide all you want, you can give them everything they ask for, etc. A cheater will find a way to cheat anyways.
If the reason is easy, then that will surface - need more hugs, need more sex, etc
If the reason is NOT easy, they will actually do the opposite - He hugs me too much, he wants too much sex, etc
Also, they can use the old standby... blame you - "He accused me of cheating, so to get back at him, I went and cheated!"
And of course, there's the old 'innocent' thing - "It's not really cheating, because I decided weeks ago to break up with him"
And yes. Guys do it too, so replace all the he's with she's, etc. The simple fact is, a cheater is ALWAYS a cheater. It's not a fad, or some amazing new skill, it's simply that some people are dishonest f*cks who need to change the person they are.
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| 12/8/2007 7:54:45 AM |
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lovemekay
Flint, MI
age: 19
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I couldn't have said it better myself.
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| 12/8/2007 7:55:51 AM |
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falcon77
Eugene, OR
age: 41
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Malacai,
You have a lot of wisdom for a young man. Sounds like you've been through the ringer a time or two in your life? Honestly, cheating is a just reflection of an amassed insecurity inside a person, often times that person will become what has been done to them at some point in life (the victim becomes the oppressor sort of thing)People must really be careful here. It's a combination of fear, frustration, and hurt that lead people to these things- often time they really ARE truly seeking love but just can't rise to a level of personal responsibility to loving themselves and the others around them when faced with it. The really sad thing about all of it is that it often leads to a very "seperated" life from people that actually care and love them the most. They put themselves in the exact situation that make them act out over and over and over. It's a vicious cycle satan loves to play to keep people locked up.
[Edited 12/8/2007 8:02:23 AM]
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| 12/8/2007 8:02:08 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32
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well I have been on both ends of the cycle.
At one time, I cheated. I think I did it because (my excuse) was that I was going to break up with the girl anyways, and needed an 'excuse' for myself(yes it was wrong, and the truth is I'll never forgive myself for that) I broke up with her later and did it as painlessly as I could.
I have also been cheated ON, many times.and I can honestly tell you it does NOT matter what you offer, give, etc, if they have a mindset to cheat, they will cheat.
Like I have always said, the person has to change who they are, almost completely, to not 'cheat' anymore. (Once a cheater always a cheater... the person has to really look within and find out themselves why THEY cheat before they can honestly be happy with the one they are with. Then change the person they are.)
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| 12/8/2007 8:12:31 AM |
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falcon77
Eugene, OR
age: 41
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Malacai...Do yourself a favor brother? Do not CARRY that any longer. You must forgive yourself of these sort of heart related issues. They can lock you up for a while if you don't. Besides, Christ already went to the cross and has forgiven you so why are you hanging onto that baggage? You want to know why? Because a certain fallen angel is whispering in your ear to do so. People make mistakes in life because it is the ultimate learning ground. It's trial and error process and it sounds to me like you have learned from your experience quite well. Move forward now boldly. You have greatness inside of you so start to live it daily and with no regrets or looking back. That's the whole point of why I don't agree with most on here that once a cheat always a cheat? People can change and learn from mistakes and move forward if they simply choose to live from a real and authentic heart that God has placed within them. I like to use the words - be transformed into your true beauty.
There is a great biblical lesson in here for people who lie, cheat, or steal their way through life and hurt others in the process. Paul...The greatest Apostle of our time was also at one point the largest enemy force in the spreading of Christianity. He was considered a notoriously bad person. Up until that fateful day that he met God on the road to Damascus, his life was really was worth nothing at all. When the blinders finally cames off him though, he was transformed into one of the most truly astounding and powerful forces the world has ever seen. We all have that capabability inside of us to be authentic and beautiful if we choose to just be it.
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| 12/8/2007 10:45:19 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32
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First off, enough with the bible thumping... it's not needed.
2nd, I have moved on. But if you allow yourself to 'forgive' your 'evils' then your bound to do them again. I have no respect for the religious zealots who sin all week long, go to church, confess, and bang, good to sin for another week, all the while telling the rest of us how we are all hell bound.
Also, I stand by my 'once a cheater, always a cheater' comment.. the person who cheated has to make some SERIOUS AND COMPLETE changes to themselves before they can have a long lasting relationships.. IE they become a new person.
Remember anyone who believes in god, or even those like me who do not but have very deep morals, if you open the cage holding your demons, you are allowing yourself to become a monster, and hence, evil. Regardless if u have a faith or not, becoming someone who can 'forgive' all your own sins will make you someone who feels that they are 'ok' to commit.
Again, as always, no offense intended, nor is this an attempt to start a flame war, just food for thought.
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| 12/8/2007 12:16:02 PM |
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clarencen
Waterford, MI
age: 29
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wow kay this is some debate u got going here
but i dont really believe the statement once a cheater is always a cheater because it just dont happen that way often
what ever happen to the phrase what goes around comes around
i seem to see that alot these days
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| 12/8/2007 12:34:50 PM |
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x2c4u
Arlington, TX
age: 49
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King Henry the eighth was a cheater and he had two of his wive's heads chopped off...go figure. They probably didn't give good head..
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| 12/8/2007 1:11:55 PM |
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clarencen
Waterford, MI
age: 29
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hey u know the topic is about cheaters
so what happens when theres kids involve???
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| 12/8/2007 1:41:10 PM |
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superheroscoo
Garden City, KS
age: 24
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Well,
Cheating and kids isn't so good. Based on my observation, one parent or the other gets the kid and the other one is out of their life. This is one option and the other is custody battles or you have/I have weeks.
Sometimes they are just ignorant and keep going.
CHEATING SUCKS! I don't put up with it, personally.
Not a fad, just very selfish people who want it all. That never changes.
(I wish they would realize their partner is "it all.")
As a teacher, seperations are tough. Kids coming in crying because "mommy and daddy don't love each other anymore."
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