| 12/12/2007 11:48:45 AM |
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cjmel
Angus, ON
age: 29
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If anyone can give me some ideas on how to start seeing other people without thinking I should be back with my ex-wife after she was unfaithful more than once, the latest with a friend (or so I thought he was) it would really help. I feel like i am spinning out of control.
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| 12/12/2007 11:55:55 AM |
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ferrari348
Milford, OH
age: 46
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Dude it happens...hurts but you will get over it. She clearly was lacking and your better off without the two. Time heals, just don't jump into anything.
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| 12/12/2007 11:58:39 AM |
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cjmel
Angus, ON
age: 29
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I know but it is hard. I went back after changing my whole life to be with her again to find out it was all a ruse for financial gain. I feel like I have been holding my ankles for the past three months. But still cant stop hoping that she will ask me back again. How stupid is that????
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| 12/12/2007 11:59:26 AM |
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bucktail
Poynette, WI
age: 46
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u can, but just not the same way as before
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| 12/12/2007 12:13:37 PM |
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ferrari348
Milford, OH
age: 46
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It's not that your stupid, just not thinking clearly. You definitely have feelings for her but apparently they are not mutual. Hence, self destructive for you. Trust me on this one young grasshopper...move on. Won't work today, tomorrow or next week. If it was only three months your lucky.
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| 12/12/2007 12:15:00 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46 online now!
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If you enjoy the drama and constantly looking over your shoulder to make sure they aren't cheating again ... then hey go for it. For me ... I'd move on.
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| 12/12/2007 12:20:02 PM |
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cjmel
Angus, ON
age: 29
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Yeah it was three months this time. But we were married for four years and have two wonderful kids together. The hard part is knowing that I have to see her all the time cause of the kids and that I know he is going to be there. DRIVES ME F*&@ing nuts.
But I appreciate all that everyone is saying. Keep it comin'.
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| 12/12/2007 12:31:42 PM |
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msr32
Williams, IN
age: 48
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You know it's really hard when someone you love doesn't love you back & you know down deep that she doesn't love you. Stop asking yourself what you did to cause her to act like this & move on. You ARE better that that. She obviously had issues that she did not ant to work out with you. Enjoy your kids, they need you....Don't forget how they are a product of your love & are great to be around.
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| 12/12/2007 1:00:36 PM |
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tecman
Manassas, VA
age: 47
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I agree with Chopper. Life is way too short for that kind of drama. Once is enough for me.
You're kids will be fine. I felt so bad for my two, but it's life. They need a father that's not a basket case. And trust me after a while you'll see her and say to yourself "What was I thinking?" 
Just remeber your children need a healthy, supportive adult. Doesn't sound like you ex is even close. 
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| 12/12/2007 1:03:38 PM |
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junkyardhussy2
Chandler, AZ
age: 55
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I can kind of relate....but mine is just a little different...just forgive and move on .. but you have to forgive first and I mean really Forgive and then you will be able to move on freely.. it's just getting to that part.. is what hurts... gl to you. But never go back for seconds especially if she doesn't love you. U cannot make anyone love u.
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| 12/12/2007 1:13:50 PM |
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tecman
Manassas, VA
age: 47
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Well said junkyard. I was pissed off way to long and it hurt me more than her.
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| 12/12/2007 1:22:17 PM |
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landing007
Palmyra, NY
age: 55
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Dude your only 29....
If you really want to P**s her off - get a better gal than she'll ever be and enjoy life. That alone will bug her. Guaranteed...
cheers;
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| 12/12/2007 2:04:01 PM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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Get out and things you like and meet some new people - but you have to move on.
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| 12/12/2007 2:07:56 PM |
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007shark76
Beverly Hills, FL
age: 31 online now!
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Time will heal the wounds. I know that doesn't sound very reassuring or probable in your current mental state. The biggest thing, as mentioned before, is not to blame yourself. You got to get out and mingle. I would suggest a new hobby or social interest. Take up some martial art which will also help you relieve tension. Just don't go into self-destructive behaviors because of blaming yourself because then life just gets worse and it is not you who caused this.
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| 12/12/2007 4:07:06 PM |
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weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 58
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Are you sure it IS love? Or habit? Or you don't want to be alone? IMHO, once a cheater, always a cheater! I should know because I spent way to many years feeling like it was my fault that he cheated. I really believe that some cheaters have low self esteem and can't stand the thought of being alone and want a back up person. Like the others have said, do you want to spend all of your time wondering when and if she is going to cheat again? Is it worth it? This is only my second day at this site, but I read something yesterday that was posted that I can't get out of my head: Forgive and Forget; Return and Regret. I should have read that 10 years ago!
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