| 9/5/2009 7:56:17 PM |
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liveandlove09
Albertville, AL
age: 20
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how can a grown man be so selfish ... i have been sick and in the bed all day , while i was asleep i got a text message which of course i didnt respond back until i woke up , when i did text back ,he basically spazzed out and told me he was threw that i didnt even care bout him enough to text him back i have no clue what to say or even do
what happend to all the nice , caring guys?
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| 9/5/2009 7:58:25 PM |
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blondebadash
Gray, GA
age: 26
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hes creepy.
find someone who can be independent and understand that you are not supposed to be there for their every desire
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| 9/5/2009 8:02:02 PM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
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Lets see...you're sick and he's pissed b/c you didn't respond to his text? WHY do you even still have this man in your life? Why wasn't he there taking care of you and making sure you were okay? And, why do you still have this man in your life?
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| 9/5/2009 8:02:30 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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WHAT?! You're sick and you're supposed to cater to him?
And you're wondering what to do? Thank him for telling you you're through. And say good-bye.
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| 9/5/2009 8:03:00 PM |
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opiate
Johnson City, TN
age: 32
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Yea I had a gilr like this once.
She was so wrapped up in herself and thought that
what she had going on was way more important than anything else.
I too was sick and in the bed one day and she could'nt get ahold of me.
This crazy chick went nuts because of this. LOL
I say let him be.It'll get no better girl.
Good luck though!
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| 9/5/2009 8:03:02 PM |
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xpamela_leighx
Springville, UT
age: 36
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They all live in a sub station in Antarticia.....Cure the luck! 
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| 9/5/2009 8:07:55 PM |
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stasisbane
Irondale, MO
age: 40
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Caring ones are around. He wasn't one, shoulda been there taking care of you, frees ya up for a better one. Rest, then find ya new one.
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| 9/5/2009 8:08:00 PM |
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speedskating
Omaha, NE
age: 55
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If he acts like this now it will only get worse, you should not be treated that way. It sounds like he is one that will control you and expect you to do what he wants when he wants.
If he cared about you he would be asking how you are feeling not spazzing out because you didn't respond emediatly.
Run away and find someone that will treat you like you should be.
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| 9/5/2009 8:40:33 PM |
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libra115
Warren, MI
age: 63
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Get lots of rest, drink plenty of fluids and find a new b/f!
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| 9/5/2009 8:44:44 PM |
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surrealone
Overland Park, KS
age: 39
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Lets see...you're sick and he's pissed b/c you didn't respond to his text? WHY do you even still have this man in your life? Why wasn't he there taking care of you and making sure you were okay? And, why do you still have this man in your life?
QFT
-- SR1
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| 9/5/2009 8:46:22 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 36
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how can a grown man be so selfish ... i have been sick and in the bed all day , while i was asleep i got a text message which of course i didnt respond back until i woke up , when i did text back ,he basically spazzed out and told me he was threw that i didnt even care bout him enough to text him back i have no clue what to say or even do
what happend to all the nice , caring guys?
The caring guys get tossed to the curb a lot by many women due to their choices. They select guys like the one you are referring to. The result is that they complain later.
Not insinuating that this was your case. But it may be or it could not be...
Anyway, there are women out there that do the same thing to men. In essence, it goes both ways. You know who you really are working with when adversity strikes. IN this case something small - your sickness but his true colors showed. His selfishness, lack of concern etc... showed. You have a decision to make now. Hopefully you will make the right one.
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| 9/5/2009 8:49:49 PM |
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gtsuspendid
Orange, CA
age: 40
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uuuuuuuuuuuuuuummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm im not in 10th grade nomore 
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| 9/5/2009 8:51:31 PM |
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tazz963
Rome, GA
age: 46
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and i would have to ask where was your man ? at work ? out with his boys ? guess if he had been there with you he would have known what the deal was . he is a loser let him go !
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| 9/5/2009 8:54:46 PM |
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claudius5
Petaluma, CA
age: 60 online now!
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Kick him to the curb, drama now, drama later; life is too short.
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| 9/5/2009 9:04:34 PM |
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cavscout34
Valley Springs, CA
age: 35
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Sounds like typical obsessive behavior. Watch out for men like that because it only gets worse with bigger issues.
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| 9/5/2009 9:16:35 PM |
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noob_online
San Diego, CA
age: 53
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Get healthy. Then RUN.
The caring guys are in all the "Why does a nice guy finish last threads."
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| 9/5/2009 9:19:06 PM |
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drewharshman
Lansing, MI
age: 23
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tell him to f*** himself and come hang out with me
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| 9/5/2009 9:22:07 PM |
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pike45
Omaha, NE
age: 56
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Take 2 aspirin, and dump the SOB
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| 9/5/2009 9:22:08 PM |
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1414u
Nashville, TN
age: 48
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"what do i do"?
He may have you confused with someone who was/is not as smart as you are... Seems he may need to be shown the error of his ways. What you do, as soon as you feel 100%, is lose him quick!
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| 9/5/2009 9:33:29 PM |
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hcb12
Redding, CA
age: 44
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how can a grown man be so selfish ... i have been sick and in the bed all day , while i was asleep i got a text message which of course i didnt respond back until i woke up , when i did text back ,he basically spazzed out and told me he was threw that i didnt even care bout him enough to text him back i have no clue what to say or even do
what happend to all the nice , caring guys?
He is a selfish insecure control freak...
You are way too young to let yourself get caught up in that kind od B.S.!!!!!!!!!!!
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| 9/5/2009 9:41:25 PM |
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liberalextinct
Anderson, IN
age: 28
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They all live in a sub station in Antarticia.....Cure the luck!
interesting.... well it was sure warm in Antarctica today 83 and sunny
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| 9/5/2009 10:01:08 PM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 62
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Well--you are mistaking an immature, uncaring, self centered a**hole for the other men in this world who are responsive, alert, caring, good communicators---honest, respectful, courteous M A T U R E men. You aren't the only person to ever get sick---why did he act so stupid?? BECAUSE HE IS STUPID. You are better off without him. What do you do?? YOU find a "mature", well educated, employed, caring, honest, respectful, courteous, tolerant MAN. They are out there--YOU have to learn how to find them. They just don't fall into your lap---you have to know what it takes to find them. Good men are looking for good women--all the time. YOU tell this stupid immature kid to screw off--you are through with him.
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| 9/5/2009 11:15:00 PM |
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darton
Greensburg, PA
age: 54
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Send him a bag of barf with a card thanking him for his concern. Then find someone new.
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| 9/5/2009 11:18:24 PM |
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mmilesg
Lima, OH
age: 32
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needy *coughs* needy *coughs*
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| 9/5/2009 11:25:28 PM |
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flybyenite
Dresden, TN
age: 35
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I KNOW WHAT YOU DO....DROP HIM AND COME FIND ME! LOL
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| 9/6/2009 1:00:38 AM |
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midnightgambler
Memphis, TN
age: 33
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If this is the whole story, then find someone else. Or maybe give him a chance to explain. I'm not exactly one to give up.... but it sure seems like he went nuts over nothing. But at the same time we don't know if you did also at some point. So I guess it depends on the full story.
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| 9/6/2009 5:16:12 AM |
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spunkymissy1
Washington, PA
age: 47
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listen to what the problem was and then let him know he was a jerk and expect an apology and go on or not tell him to f off
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| 9/6/2009 5:16:28 AM |
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namcazam
Piermont, NH
age: 36
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liveandlove09
"how can a grown man be so selfish ... i have been sick and in the bed all day , while i was asleep i got a text message which of course i didnt respond back until i woke up , when i did text back ,he basically spazzed out and told me he was threw that i didnt even care bout him enough to text him back i have no clue what to say or even do
what happend to all the nice , caring guys?"
He sounds like a jerk and a control freak. You would be best to let him hit the road.
[Edited 9/6/2009 5:17:21 AM PST]
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| 9/6/2009 6:01:51 AM |
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midnightgambler
Memphis, TN
age: 33
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I doubt it was selfishness. He probably jumped to conclusions as to why she didn't answwer rather than know the story and then get mad. So if you don't know the whole story it can't be selfishness. Thoughtlessness maybe.
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| 9/6/2009 6:56:07 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 62
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how can a grown man be so selfish ... i have been sick and in the bed all day , while i was asleep i got a text message which of course i didnt respond back until i woke up , when i did text back ,he basically spazzed out and told me he was threw that i didnt even care bout him enough to text him back i have no clue what to say or even do
what happend to all the nice , caring guys?
Well, you just learned how this guy really is. Unless you are there for him, he dumps you. If he should call back, ask him where the hell the flowers, get well card and his caring, loving heart were when he was waiting for you to call him back. What an a**hole he is.
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| 9/6/2009 8:09:42 AM |
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lovesillusion
Moab, UT
age: 27
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omg what is his name? he sounds like my ex hubby!
i had a guy interested in me who txt me while i was at work, and i was slamed for about 3 hrs straight by myself. and i txt back later on saying sorry i was busy with work and he asked if that was really more important then him (we were not even dating!) and i said hell yeah it is unless you are going to pay me the money to feed my kids! he got confused and i simple just told him to go away!
run girl run!
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| 9/6/2009 9:09:23 AM |
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itsclear
Fort Mohave, AZ
age: 47
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take up some form of exercise, you will feel much better
you might even cure that thing you do with your fingers
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| 9/6/2009 11:24:50 AM |
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ladybugbp
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 51
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Two guys so far in the responses have asked you to get rid of him and come hang out them. That was nice of them but....
Wait for the one that offers to bring you chicken soup. He's the keeper.
And.... know that there are grown boys and there are grown men--
Be careful not to confuse the two because they are very different. JMMO
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| 9/6/2009 11:36:21 AM |
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stress_test
Northport, WA
age: 45
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Well at 20, you will have plenty of opportunities to meet men instead of boys and children.
Just keep in mind that you are fortunate to learn how childish he is now instead of later.
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| 9/6/2009 11:40:11 AM |
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slick312
Cartersville, GA
age: 31
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They are nice caring guys out there you just hooked up with the wrong one. For one he was very bias and you should not get yourself worked up over nothing especially when you did nothing wrong. Talk to him about the situation in a civil manner.
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| 9/6/2009 11:50:55 AM |
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im_single_again
Saint Louis, MO
age: 78
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Lets see...you're sick and he's pissed b/c you didn't respond to his text? WHY do you even still have this man in your life? Why wasn't he there taking care of you and making sure you were okay? And, why do you still have this man in your life?
^
Exactly what she said ^
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| 9/7/2009 4:28:38 PM |
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billy7077
Lincoln Park, NJ
age: 46
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that sounds like typical behavior from a 20 year old guy.........and if you don't know what to do now.........it seems you care a lot more about him than he cares about you........
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| 9/7/2009 5:52:17 PM |
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spider77
Adamsville, AL
age: 58
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They take a back seat to the motorcyle, doo rag, bad boys who last had a job when Columbus discovered America. IN OTHER WORDS " OOH their hot ! " YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW ".
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| 9/7/2009 6:02:10 PM |
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asleepatthewhee
Las Vegas, NV
age: 48
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 just go back to bed...... ...then text him back in a little while saying you were sick of his bullshit and that why you were not getting back to him soon enough ...tell him that your other bf was there for you and that you dont need him to bother you anymore... 
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| 9/7/2009 6:04:57 PM |
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zipperlynn
Porterville, CA
age: 39
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WHOO HOO!!!
You didn't waste years figuring out it wasn't a good fix.
Next!
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| 9/7/2009 7:07:48 PM |
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wsprs0nthewind
Powell, TN
age: 45
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that sounds like typical behavior from a 20 year old guy.........and if you don't know what to do now.........it seems you care a lot more about him than he cares about you........
Yes, and in 20 years he will be a 40 y/o insensitive a**hole. Nothing changes but the age. If his mother didn't teach him good manners then he never will get them most likely.
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| 9/8/2009 4:29:41 PM |
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billy7077
Lincoln Park, NJ
age: 46
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Tell me you're not still waiting around for this guy to treat you like crap again............You're only 20..... and believe it or not there are good guys out there..........unless you're into the bad boy type and you've decided that's the way you like to be treated.........
[Edited 9/8/2009 4:31:07 PM PST]
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| 9/8/2009 5:55:52 PM |
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bingbinger
Dubuque, IA
age: 35
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how can a grown man be so selfish ... i have been sick and in the bed all day , while i was asleep i got a text message which of course i didnt respond back until i woke up , when i did text back ,he basically spazzed out and told me he was threw that i didnt even care bout him enough to text him back i have no clue what to say or even do
what happend to all the nice , caring guys?
They are dating chicks who arent pretending to be sick so they can lie in bed and watch soaps.
Gothca
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| 9/8/2009 6:00:51 PM |
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lollipoprockz
Jacksonville, FL
age: 31
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lol, are you sure he's not really a woman?
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| 9/8/2009 6:30:05 PM |
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somethingrare
Abilene, TX
age: 47
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He was 3 years old when he did this right? Same thing I told my son about his last bad g/f... Go to college and find someone "Grown up"... while your going to college yourself of course.
Not wise to just stand out in halls trying to pick up a boyfriend or girlfriend.
I can just hear it now. "Well Rare told me to pick up a boyfriend by hanging out here."
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| 9/8/2009 8:03:13 PM |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
age: 51
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what happend to all the nice , caring guys?
they're here posting threads
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| 9/9/2009 3:35:12 AM |
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psychoduck75
Pinson, AL
age: 21
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If he acts like that, then there's nothing really you should do. If he's going to be like that once, he'll be like that forever. Too immature and childish. As for the nice guys... We're out here. Most girls over look us because we're not like other guys. Yeah we might be a little more hefty or not as "pretty" as other guys, but I'll take who I am over being one of those white rapper wanna-be carbon copies any day. What the sad this is, like myself, there are guys that would give the world to the one they love... but because we're not what magazines tell everyone is "attractive" or "cool", most girls will ever know. I've dated a small few girls over time, and it shocked me that none of them had ever had a door opened for them, flowers given to them for no reason, or just been listened to. What do the carbon copy clone guys even do?
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| 9/9/2009 5:04:36 AM |
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wreckerman57
Port Jervis, NY
age: 52
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The word erase comes to mind.
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| 9/9/2009 5:17:32 AM |
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photodude111
Sedona, AZ
age: 46
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Move on, if he exhibits that type of behavior now it will just get worse. For little boy yo invoke change sometimes they need to be hit over the head. For the women, guy can change, we have to want to and make a conscious decision to change. I know for me I am not the same as I was when I was 20, thank god.
Karl in Sedona
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| 9/10/2009 3:44:04 PM |
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johnnybert
Schaumburg, IL
age: 40
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how can a grown man be so selfish ... i have been sick and in the bed all day , while i was asleep i got a text message which of course i didnt respond back until i woke up , when i did text back ,he basically spazzed out and told me he was threw that i didnt even care bout him enough to text him back i have no clue what to say or even do
what happend to all the nice , caring guys?
The first MAC truck lesson learned in dating I encountered is, Man (meaning mankind) is vial. Plain and simple, in dating people will get hurt, some more than others. It’s like a domino effect that never ends. I have dated people and when it gets close; they break off because they were married and do not want to tie the knot. One even said, if she where to remarry, her ex-husband would stop giving her money. My last three girlfriends, the break up where just as bad thus resulting me in just dating. I’m not going to commit until I know the other person wants a true relations not a honey moon AW…
Mind you, I do not think it’s in the gender, it’s in the person.
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| 9/10/2009 6:29:30 PM |
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faust_n_furious
Bakersfield, CA
age: 27
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how can a grown man be so selfish ... i have been sick and in the bed all day , while i was asleep i got a text message which of course i didnt respond back until i woke up , when i did text back ,he basically spazzed out and told me he was threw that i didnt even care bout him enough to text him back i have no clue what to say or even do
what happend to all the nice , caring guys?
He is just looking for a justified way to move onto someone else, stir up drama, or he is a woman in a man's body on his bloody rag. Don't trip, just dip. Find another guy, kiss him and take a pic doing so, then send it to that tardbasket. End of Discussion.
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| 9/13/2009 2:30:23 AM |
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outback2451
Rochester, NY
age: 59
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another question for you... is what about YOU needs to change?
in terms of your expectations, self esteem, goals, self respect etc. a saying that comes to mind "if you don't know where you are going, any road will take you there".
I agree with Rare.. go to college and build yourself as a person.. a person that demands respect. Mind you.. you deserve respect whether you have a degree or not.. but an education and good job gives YOU the idea that you have more option than some loser.
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| 9/13/2009 2:32:49 AM |
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repomanaz
Phoenix, AZ
age: 22
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hey people iam new at this but iam havin problems with my babys mom i dont think i have feeling for her anymore how do i explain that to her
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| 9/13/2009 3:01:50 AM |
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skiwino
Redford, MI
age: 48
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hey people iam new at this but iam havin problems with my babys mom i dont think i have feeling for her anymore how do i explain that to her
A. You should start a new thread.
B. You should tell her what you just told DH and tell her your plans for continuing to take care of your child.
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| 9/13/2009 5:54:43 AM |
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siglere
Henderson, KY
age: 38
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hmm.
Sounds to me like he is insecure,not very trusting and quick to jump to conclusions.
He sent you a text not knowing you were in bed sick therefore, him thinking that with it being daytime you would be awake and able to respond within a fair amount of time, would respond within say,,,,,,,,,,,,,,15 to 20 minutes but didn't.
His imagination ran wild and led him to a wrong conclusion due to his past experiences and trust issues.
He should not have spazzed out as you call it.
A text earlier in the day to let him know you were sick would have been a nice gesture.
Communication is key to any relationship.
How you handle this one is ultimately your judgement call and decision.
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| 9/13/2009 6:06:36 AM |
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tasha1000
Chico, CA
age: 35
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screw that!
He should be saying "baby I was worried about you when I didn't hear from you,
I'm so sorry you are sick in bed. Is there anything you need from the store? some soup or some juice to drink?"
He's a punk, and is being emotionally abusive to you while you are ill!
Not concerned about your health or well being at all!
Screw him, take care of your self and get well and forget about that a**hole!
(the sound of a toilet flushing)
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| 9/13/2009 6:12:05 AM |
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caring__1
Acton, CA
age: 59
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My question is this. Did you truly need all these people to tell you what you should do?
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| 9/13/2009 4:44:01 PM |
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special122987
Dayton, OH
age: 22
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i can tell you to run!! ! cause this is a bad relationship.... when it comes down to it , you had to coem to all these poeple to ask for advice... and they all basically say the say thing... you are pretty but dont be pretty dumb.... so i will tell you to run and change your number,,,, but you look dumb enough to take him back
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| 9/13/2009 5:31:13 PM |
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mscash
Binghamton, NY
age: 41
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You move on to the next one!!!
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| 9/13/2009 7:40:42 PM |
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stewey31030
Milledgeville, GA
age: 32
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Well first of you have the power and he just not thanking straight, keep your chin up and repeat after me I AM THE WOMAN I HAVE POWER.
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