I have a two week rule which helps not only break the ice but also ensures I don't meet a sociopath or two in real life (so far, so good). Basically I won't agree to meet anyone I met online until we have chatted online for two solid weeks, no exceptions. I won't give out my phone number until at least a week of that has passed. I have good reason for it as well....

Any man who has something to hide (is actually married and saying he's single, etc.) or has something seriously wrong with him mentally will not be able to hold it together that long without tipping me off at some point or at least making me feel funny and that right there is enough to make me put off the meeting permanently. I always trust my gut instinct because it never lies. Guys don't put enough thought into their lies. It's common knowledge. It's also common knowledge that women remember EVERYTHING a man has said to her. Sooner or later if he's not for real he's gonna contradict himself and it will be glaringly obvious if he's sneaking around or if he's an asshole in disguise or if he has severe homicidal tendancies by then as well.

Occasionally talking to a guy online will send up red flags so fast they actually leave a trail of sparks in their wake.


But for those that make it through that probationary period we've had enough time to find out all sorts of things about each other and by the time we meet in person there is PLENTY to talk about. And that's how I break the ice.