| 12/14/2007 8:33:15 PM |
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tommy34234
Sarasota, FL
age: 22
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I've come to realize that most people I've met online between 18 and 25 seem to have no manners or respect at all.(note** I say MOST, not all)
Especially men towards women..and women seem to expect it.
When you're kind and polite towards women, they're shocked and just assume you're doing it for some alterior motive.
I wasnt brought up to do certain things, or act certain ways, but I know to treat people how you would like to be treated.
Most younger guys out here need a couple months basic training and a kick in the ass..I know I'm part of it..but I really dont like my generation and the direction its heading..Do you?
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| 12/14/2007 8:39:16 PM |
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cudarook
Saint Paul, MN
age: 24 online now!
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They should have a mandatory class in school for both girls and boys. Not just sex education but on how to be respectful.
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| 12/14/2007 8:40:36 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46 online now!
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Good thread but I don't think it's all the younger generation acting this way. Seen my age and older people as well. I perceive a person is how they respond to a thread or create a thread. Some people tend to forget this and then wonder why they can't find someone.
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| 12/14/2007 8:44:35 PM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 29 online now!
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yeah, I'd agree chopper. If you watch a person's postings sooner or later their true colors come out. Speaking of which I gotta apologize for my comment in the ivory thread the other day. I don't know if you saw it or not.
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| 12/14/2007 8:45:57 PM |
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lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
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speaking as a father of a 12 year old daughter, it should fall on the parent(s) shoulders but in todays society it has become a feel good and whats in it for me. We sometimes forget how to properly raise our children or we just dont take the time...I was raised with 6 sisters so you will never see lonesome disrespect ladies, or anyone for that matter
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| 12/14/2007 8:55:23 PM |
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tommy34234
Sarasota, FL
age: 22
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Thanx for the replies..but I believe you can impose everything on a child or teen..but in the end the're gonna do what they want..
I believe you give them the choice to decide what they will do..right or wrong, They made that choice and will suffer whatever consequences come along, it's about doing the right thing..you cant teach someone that.
I also believe, by the time youre 21..you should be in college or active military..one of the two..or have a family and be a productive citizen..hey, thats just my opinion.
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| 12/14/2007 9:46:11 PM |
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lattml
Hazleton, PA
age: 41 online now!
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I agree with you Tommy. I know younger guys who do and say things in front of women I'd never do. But women are also part of it. I know younger girls who'll drop more F-bombs in an hour than I will in a week. But it's a symptom of the kind of society we've become. We're a vulgar society.
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| 12/14/2007 11:09:17 PM |
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tommy34234
Sarasota, FL
age: 22
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Thanx lattml, appreciate that
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| 12/15/2007 6:18:57 AM |
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billericachick
Billerica, MA
age: 37
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Tommy, you are headed in the right direction. I have young children. I hope they have a good head on there shoulder when they grow up. I'll teach them right and wrong, and hope they learn the ropes. I have neices and nephews your age and they agree with you about the respect of woman. Especialy one of my nephews went into the Naval Acadamy and said they ship you right up with that one auntie. And another one is enlisted and he said they the woman and man are just vulgar to eachother. I want my chidren to respect adults, and eachother. I believe it starts young. Good thr ead!
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| 12/15/2007 6:34:17 AM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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Manners and respect are taught at a young age, I love people who are polite and respectful - it shows they came from a family that instilled it in them. I have taught my daughter manners and respect from the time she could walk and talk. Parents don't seem to instill that in thier children anymore.
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| 12/15/2007 6:39:02 AM |
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lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
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thats the problem, parents should and need to teach their children, and that does not mean imposing anything, its called being a parent and i will stick to my guns on this....it falls on the parents shoulders....
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| 12/15/2007 6:44:56 AM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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Yeah lonesome I have a 12 yr old daughter also........... i notice a lot of it comes from her friends and who's she hanging out with........... it's tv - it's music - its tough but I do enforce it strictly.......it pays off when i see her do nice things for other people and use her manners without being told.
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| 12/15/2007 6:50:14 AM |
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lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
age: 49
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thank you stormy, some of us as parents have chosen to attempy to do the right thing with our children, my 12 year old still says yes maam and yes sir and understands what the meaning of manners are...our society has directed the attention to our children in a negative and violent manner...I for one will never allow, as long she is under my roof, her to be disrespectful........period.
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| 12/15/2007 7:19:40 AM |
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genuine_risk_07
Boaz, AL
age: 46
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Great thread and I am impressed to see this coming from someone your age.
I am glad to finally see someone step up the the plate and start such a subject. To open a door these days will only get strange looks from women. To say yes mam and/or no mam seems to be a foreign language to most. I even catch myself saying "thank you mam" to a 17 yr old cashier checking me out at a grocery store. Guess you just cant change how one was raised. And I see clearly that your parents taught you how to be respectful towards women. And I tip my hat to all parents that teach their children such manners. So yes I am glad to see this thread. Just this morning a woman asked to have her profile reviewed. And she got hung from a DHU tree for asking for respect and wanting to be treated like a lady.
I will go a bit further here and make a comment about "some" men and women both on DHU. I can joke around with the best of you. But those comments about sex that is constantly on here are "horrific". And for the women that feed into such perversion.......well that says a lot about what type of man you care to date and be associated with. And what type of filthy men you wish to have around your kids. I think some threads here are ok but most do cross the line. Where are the boundaries people? The deep throating, the 3 some's, oral sex, etc., is what is discussed behind closed doors. And not in an open forum in front of strangers in order for some to exploit their perverted minds. Some here not only need a date but much more than that. My interests in a woman is what's your passion in life? What's your goals? Likes and dislikes? Your dreams that you care to fulfill? and many other things. Things that truly matter in life. Telling the world how many times you go under the sheets isn't very impressive. Men truly do need to be more respectful and show manners. Not only in the real world but also here on DHU. And that goes for some women on here as well.......................Catch my drift?
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| 12/15/2007 8:07:18 AM |
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bamarose
Sterrett, AL
age: 38
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Agreed. If my son were to ever speak the way I hear some young men talk to others, I'd climb right up in a chair and whip his ass. My girls the same. They were taught respect at home and carry that with them. They hate to see Mom's head spin completely around - that means someone's in BAD trouble!! 
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