| 3/30/2007 2:12:33 PM |
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wolfy9459
Dayton, OH
age: 48
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see below
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| 3/30/2007 2:13:06 PM |
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wolfy9459
Dayton, OH
age: 48
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Yep Luvin we do. We are just better at hiding it.
Wolfy
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| 3/30/2007 7:28:39 PM |
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letsplaybaby
Seymour, IN
age: 44
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For me it is a man that talks about his ex for a long time. Or if a man cannot carry on a conversation. I also dont want to talk about sex on the first date. As long as he is not dressed like a slob then the cloths dont matter.
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| 3/31/2007 11:10:47 AM |
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fragileheart
Uniontown, PA
age: 67
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I agree that we all test each other daily but I also think that women, because we are looking for Mr Perfect,(who doesnt exist) we also test more deeply. I also agree that if a guy talks about sex on the first date...he is not interested in you AT ALL! Hes only concerned about Mr Winky..and regardless...I want him to have some idea on how to dress..I take time, and would appreciate him doing likewise...He flunks the test right off if he chews with his mouth open, if he lies right up front and just doesnt have basic table manners...I certainly dont care if he confuses the forks..or doesnt lay his napkin on his lap...but to shovel food, to be rude to anyone for any reason..is a big no in my books....
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| 5/12/2007 9:32:50 PM |
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cricket770
Dixon, CA
age: 43
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Hey i dont think if a guy talks sex the first date hes NOT interested. BUT, i do agree its probably not a good idea. I can speak from experience that if the physical connection is strong from the get go, it can go several years, first date or otherwise. Overall its better to keep your trap shut on that but thier are ways a guy can nuance a woman and drive her crazy without talking about that she'll ache by date number 2, now thats frekkin magic.. Test for the ladies that most fail on: After i open the door for them, they do not unlock mine. LOL. The lock test.
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| 5/13/2007 1:17:29 AM |
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camaro440
Miami Beach, FL
age: 41
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One thing I've learned about tests is that you can fail them but you're not a failure. You can pass them and still be clueless.
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| 5/13/2007 3:57:57 AM |
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gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 56
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Well put fragile....
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| 5/13/2007 3:36:03 PM |
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shycowgirl
Oak Run, CA
age: 52
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i have a problem with guys that only talk about themselves on the first date. i ask them questions and they end up talking all about themselves. you find out alot about them, so that's good. but, when they never ask anything about me, i don't make any future plans with them. also, talking sex on first date is a big no-no. i don't care how they are dressed as long as they are clean. socks don't matter. LOL. i have just learned (about myself), that i love men's cologne. any kind, it doesn't matter. so, that would be a plus in the "test". simple manners, at the table, is good, too. opening doors is a plus, although, i know some women that don't like it. heck, i'm still looking for that knight in shining armor, so being chivalrous would win me over in a heartbeat. shy
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| 5/13/2007 3:45:59 PM |
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nitaisahandful
Norfolk, VA
age: 55
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Laffin...what I luv is when I ask a man "tell me about you". Answer: I am -- tall, weigh --- have --- hair. DUH!!! I did not ask for your description!!! That first sentence tells me whether or not I want to go further with any conversation.
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| 5/13/2007 7:13:50 PM |
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lacy444
South Burlington, VT
age: 50
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How do men test women? If the man does talk about sex and the women responds , is the women still considered too easy? I never understood that one.
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| 5/13/2007 8:25:39 PM |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 64
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I want to know the big things first. How does he feel about God, is he a racist. then I want him to tell me what he considers most important in a woman and why.
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| 5/13/2007 8:57:22 PM |
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cricket770
Dixon, CA
age: 43
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To Queen of hearts:
Those are definitely hardcore test questions, unless the right guy is in front of you, then its a lock. From my feeling though, even though i do believe in God and thier has to be some of this for a long term gig, and im a committed one woman kind of guy, i have to tell you if someone were to hit me with that kind of test early, im running the opposite way. If i put my stock in God and the next woman after all ive been through trying to include God again in the 3 way, im in trouble. I save God for the bigger picture beyond a woman. God alone wont save a marraige, or a prospect, it will take the will of the individuals as well. So if im tested that way, i would feel kinda weird. Sounds like i have the devil in me. Maybe. Its a fight to the finish everyday battling the evil. Thats why for one example, i got off Adultfriendfinder.com, one of the sponsors of this more educational, elequent site - LOL. Dont know how to test a woman at this but: How is her will power? Her staying power? Is she a quitter ?
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| 5/13/2007 8:57:50 PM |
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viklet
Arlington, TX
age: 54
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No testing just observing. How does he treat the people around him, including his family friends and strangers. Is he compassionate toward those in lesser circumstances and toward animals?
Just that will give you a world of information. Tests aren't fair, they give the impression of a lack of trust and suspicion. Not the way to improve a relationship.
I would be insulted, if you want to know anything just ask.
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| 5/13/2007 9:05:37 PM |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 64
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Since I don't believe of God in the since that most men do I find this is extremely important to me. You have no idea how much trouble it can cause if you don't agree on this point. It is not the first question I ask but I want to know before I waste my time on someone that I can't even talk to about one of the most important areas of my life.
You can call it a test or whatever you want to call it but I do not intend to give my life to someone who thinks differently on these two points.
If we don't agree we can be friends but it will not go any further than friendship. If you want to run it wouldn't have worked any way and it is fine with me.
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| 5/13/2007 9:21:58 PM |
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mom1st
York, SC
age: 33
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Definately pay attention to manners, how they act around kids and the elderly, oh yeah, and body odor and breath make a bbbbbbbbbbiiiiiiiiiiggggggggggggggg differnce too. And please, please do not pick your nose...
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| 5/13/2007 9:47:36 PM |
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cricket770
Dixon, CA
age: 43
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Beyond the first few dates yeah queen of hearts im with you on that. I meant if the test was right off the bat id run, but if it was later, honestly id be the one asking you the question, it is important enough to me, and also to the last post, how he acts and just observing is critical.
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| 5/13/2007 11:44:48 PM |
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camaro440
Miami Beach, FL
age: 41
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This site is off da hook!!!!!!!! LOL........ Hope you feel me on this one
Tests are in the same classroom as learning. You asks questions hoping to hear something that you like or accept. You gives these tests, but the tests are your own right?? There is no universal test to find out who is compatible with who. Everyone has their preferences, specifics about what they are looking for. So someone doesn't pass your test, they failed your standards and you disqualify them. Who wants to be graded??? Where's the homework, the research, active participation, open discussions???
So, someone doesn't believe in God, but they believe in you and are attracted to you as a person. They can learn about your faith. Ask him what his idea of romance is he doesn't have a clue. But if he learns things about you that make you melt, he can learn how to romance you. You think talking about sex is being too forward while on a date, but you want to talk about family which is extremely personal to many. You may be testing him, but you're not allowing him to learn anything about you to test him on??? How can you test anyone on material they know nothing of??
Women, you're not testing, you're just lining out characteristics that your date doesn't own when compared to your illusion of a perfect man for you.
If I had chemistry with a woman and I was that attracted to her, I would want to learn more about her to understand her to be close to her. If I don't like Celine Deon but she does, if I learned why she does and how her music affects her, I would listen to it with different ears.
But if she cuts me off because I didn't pass her test, initially blows me off cause of my response to her questions, then she never gave this willing man a chance.
Cam
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| 5/14/2007 6:21:37 AM |
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cajunman831
Gonzales, LA
age: 53
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feel for the rod
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| 5/14/2007 7:56:07 AM |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 64
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You all don't understand what I am saying. When I started talking to a man on here and we found out we liked each others way of thinking we had IMed for about a week then before it got too involved I wanted to know how he felt on these two points before I liked him too much.
For me it is like sex{the same thinking] why have that connection and start caring about a person too quick if there are deal breaker questions in your mind. That just hurts too much to do that over and over.
I find by the time a person has gotten to my age there is one thing about them that is solid in their mind and that is how they understand the Creator and that is not going to change. Also if someone is a racist at 60 that too is very unlikely to change.
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| 5/14/2007 1:06:58 PM |
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cricket770
Dixon, CA
age: 43
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Yeah Cams still in the first date thing, and i agreed with him on that. I think i made it clear that over a short period of time beyond first dates that these questions Queen of hearts asks are important. I think the posters of this topic are caught between women testing men early, like first-second date VS. Queen of hearts version of a bit past that. Also Queen of hearts, you mention something VERY critical here that perhaps you don't realize. You mention that the man can't be racist. While that is nice to expect, you are asking for tolerance of races. Should it not also be some extra time should be taken to be tolerant of religion, or peoples perception of God? And i myself am a Christian and im bringing this up.
Overall, it back to the same thing i said before. If the right guy comes along for Queen of Hearts, he'll have a sign on his forehead that says " I love God ". And thier are men out there like that. If not, then its clear hes not the right one for you. Your perception of this subject is not wrong, just different, and compatibility will speak volumes in this. A huge advantahe for Q O H is emotional grounding, very well indeed.
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| 5/14/2007 1:57:57 PM |
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x26wildcat
Naples, FL
age: 30
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Background Check!!!!!! Drug test...you know the ususal! LOL!
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| 5/14/2007 4:45:50 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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I agree with Vicklet,
In all fairness to both sexes, pay attention to the signs, what is being said, and what is NOT being said. Observation and listening are your best sources.
CCAPS dosent hurt either. LOL (Circuit Court Access Programs)
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| 5/14/2007 4:57:24 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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ok women are all about detail, and signals
it's in the way they walk, their tone of voice, their eyes
men are more verbale, a women wont come out and tell you what's wrong she will use signals too tell you, and it's up too us as men too regonize those signals,
but ya have too watch out cause a woman will change signals now and then just too se if us guys are paying attention.
the easiest way too please a woman is too pay her attention and remember her signals
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| 5/14/2007 5:01:20 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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Yanisa - [but ya have too watch out cause a woman will change signals now and then just too se if us guys are paying attention.]
Shhhhhhhhh...you cant tell everyone the secret, what will we do then??? LOL
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| 5/14/2007 5:14:38 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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remember also, what is a big deal too women might be meanigless too us, but you should still show her that it means somethng too you.
we both say "i just don't get the opposite sex" well did ya ever think that maybe were not suppose too understand each other?
if we understood each other then that would take all the fun out of communication and, all the fun loving stuff. * wink, wink* lol
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| 5/14/2007 5:18:18 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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Wasn't there a book about that??
"Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars."
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| 5/14/2007 5:27:31 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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probaly, but i don't read books too learn about women
i believe it's easier too learn by watching the woman, cause not all women are alike, and those dang books say that they are
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| 5/14/2007 5:30:03 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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They lie, we're not..
You just passed Observation 101, congratulations!!!
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| 5/14/2007 5:31:55 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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*takes a bow*
thank ye, thank ye
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| 5/14/2007 5:34:38 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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Your welcome, you may now take your seat at the head of the class!
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| 5/14/2007 5:36:44 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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oh boy, i'm the teachers pet now lol
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| 5/14/2007 5:42:24 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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Did you remember the apple???
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| 5/14/2007 5:43:47 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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apple heck,
i brought the whole pie lol
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| 5/14/2007 5:56:51 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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Did you bake that yourself???
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| 5/14/2007 6:04:46 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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heck yeah, that's the only way too make a pie lol
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| 5/14/2007 6:11:25 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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| 5/14/2007 6:15:35 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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i don't mess with the fake store bought stuff
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| 5/14/2007 6:25:47 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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I do agree, nothin like home made....
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| 5/14/2007 6:26:47 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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i love too cook, my favorite is indian fry bread, with honey and sugar all over it.
*yummmmmmm*
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| 5/14/2007 6:32:48 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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My daughter-in-law is Native American, makes the best fry bread, yummmmy!!
She makes a mean Indian taco, and wild rice casserole too...
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| 5/14/2007 6:35:13 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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ya got too try the meat pies, omg you will fall in love with em
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| 5/14/2007 6:38:14 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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I'll have to ask her??
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| 5/14/2007 6:40:57 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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believe me you will love em
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| 5/14/2007 6:46:05 PM |
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shilowsmom
Beloit, WI
age: 55
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Well Yanisa, I have enjoyed talking to you, getting ready to call it a night.
By the way I like the choker on your profile. Very nice. You have a good night.
Luann
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| 5/14/2007 6:47:04 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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thank you, and you have an awsome night as well
michael
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| 5/14/2007 9:17:24 PM |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 64
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I also like the chocker but pleeeese tell me those are not fighting c*cks!!!!!!!!!!!
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| 5/15/2007 12:57:03 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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no thar not fighting c*cks, they just adopted my place so i feed em
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| 5/15/2007 3:30:03 PM |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 64
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They are nice birds I really like beautiful roosters. lol
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| 5/15/2007 3:34:36 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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the rooster is a road island red, and the hen is a dominecker, i have some baby dominecker chicks also
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| 5/15/2007 3:37:52 PM |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 64
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What is the one that is barely in the picture?
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| 5/15/2007 3:42:47 PM |
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yanisa
Ponca City, OK
age: 36
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i don't know what she is, i need too look that 1 up on the net
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| 5/18/2007 7:12:05 PM |
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dixie51
Marion, AR
age: 55
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Ok I guess I'll be the last or latest response to this topic...
Tests? I don't think that women actually think of it in this manner (or maybe I'm the weird one?). Tests? No. Are there dealbreakers for most of us? Definately!
For me: Cleanliness/Socialibility/Liars/Violence/Drugs/More than just occasional alcoholic use/Unwilling to work or advance(Unable to work because of any medical condition is not the same)/Closed minded...
Well, there they are. They're mine and they work for me. Socks are optional!
Dx
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| 5/25/2007 2:42:22 PM |
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guenavere
Hemet, CA
age: 64
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I see if they live up to the type of person they say they are in their profile.
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| 7/25/2007 12:43:29 PM |
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sumbeach063
Columbia, SC
age: 47
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First for me Is his smile, sorry, thats me...Then His intelligence. Then if he can laugh, thats really important to me... too... And how he carries himself , his know how of his job and life in general , family if thats important to him...not that I need to know if he wants children, or stuff like this...But if he does want to be around them . You can tell by a few seconds if he is or not....Well i can...Many other things too...But mostly how, and what is important to him...JMO
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| 7/25/2007 9:09:26 PM |
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bubbles651997
Memphis, TN
age: 25
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I have a 100 point test. First there's the written portion which consists of emails, poems, love notes, etc. Grammar, content, and appropriate use of language are all equally weighted. Then there is the background check. If they pass the Google test and can correctly respond to probing family questions, they can then move onto the performance portion. Opening doors, holding hands, etc. I only date guys that score an 80% or higher.
LOL!!!! jk. I usually just check out the way they treat and talk about other people especially friends, family members, and ex's.
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| 7/27/2007 9:35:05 PM |
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katebug
Brooklet, GA
age: 34
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Okay I'm going to go with nose picking! It's gross and I've noticed men do it when they are nervous. They sometimes don't even realise they are doing it is the sad part. So to me that is a big turn off.
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| 7/31/2007 4:35:28 PM |
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nurseg2865
Altamonte Springs, FL
age: 45
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I can't say that I "test" men on the first date, but there is an subconscious checklist I guess that includes: Was he on time for our date? If he wasnt did he call to let me know he was running late? Is he neat and relatively clean? (lol I say relatively cause I sometimes meet them after work and if they are in a blue collar profession I know sometimes they dont have time to get home to shower) How do they treat waitstaff? Are they rude or obnoxious and superior to them? Are they constantly talking about their exes or worse, on the phone with them during the date? Do they b*tch and moan about paying child support? Do they brag about their income and expensive possessions? And do they mention sex? Just a few things I notice on the first date... A dealbreaker for me is racism. I don't care to have someone who is racist potentially around my kids.
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| 7/31/2007 4:39:41 PM |
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peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 43
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I have an "unwritten" rule after the first date...If he does not call w/in 48hrs I won't see that person again...Just a respect thing i guess.
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