12/20/2007 2:06:26 PM |
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warmtouch
Lakewood, OH
age: 38
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I also open up and start caring for the guy I am dating at the time, sometimes too soon. I usually am the one that gets hurt, well this time it was me saying something stupid and acting like a b----. well no I may have lost him for acting the way I did. Sometimes I wish I could not be such a sensitive and caring person right away and put a wall up, but I can't. So what should I do about him and what should I do about being the caring person I am so soon?
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12/20/2007 2:10:09 PM |
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phenox_riesing
Bellingham, WA
age: 41
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Warmtouch if he cares abut you all will be okay.If not hun there are more fish in the sea.I understand where your comeing from because i also wear my heart on my sleve .But over the years i have grown a much thicker skin .But i still tend to fall to quickly.Just hang in there all will be okay. phenox
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12/20/2007 5:00:52 PM |
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skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 88 online now!
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Sounds like you are trying to make an undesireable traite sound like something desirable.
What you are saying could be a manifestation of several things that men find negative.
What do you mean you acted like a b*tch?...
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12/25/2007 7:41:21 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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You have to be you. If someone takes advantage of your kindness, simply walk away. They don't deserve you plain and simple. No need to ever do a 360 because of what happned in the past. Be you, and if a person can't handle that, bounce.
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12/29/2007 2:44:29 PM |
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qazyguy
Rockville, MD
age: 50 online now!
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Don't change a bit. Feel the Wonder! Open yourself wide.
But do try and keep a bit of skepticism in case it doesn't work out.
Shine On You,
Qazy Diamond
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12/29/2007 2:47:22 PM |
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dragan
Clinton Township, MI
age: 38
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Be honest with him, tell him you pretended to be what you are not, that your sorry and see if you to can start fresh and be yourself. If he is not attracted to you for being yourself, then it is not the right relationship for you. Sometimes, no matter how much someone cares for another, the relation just isn't right.
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12/29/2007 3:11:25 PM |
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writerman57
Jacksonville, FL
age: 57
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I disagree with those who say don't change a bit. Having been out of two verbally abusive marriages I too would have run the other way if you started acting b*tchy. Listen man's number one need is not sex but it is respect and admiration from the woman that we care about. Sex is down about #3 on the list.
You need to learn to talk to him in a friendly fashion and not verbally beat him up. I had a thread entitled: "women are their own worst enemies" and I got totally beaten up by some bashers. The number one complaint that men have about women is that it is not safe to open up to a woman, especially if it is about a complaint about the woman. Invariably the woman turns around and verbally lashes out at the man instead of listening to the complaint and dealing with it intelligently and calmly. Most men have just learned to shut up and take it rather than to try and deal with it because of the verbal abuse that they have to endure.
My suggestion is to go back to that thread in sex and dating and go back a couple of pages and you will find it and then read through it.
John
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1/2/2008 12:27:20 PM |
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qazyguy
Rockville, MD
age: 50 online now!
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Fair enough John. My comments apply to the title and everything up to the first comma.
Like you, I would appreciate a more rational approach to communication and conflict resolution.
Let Me Go Qazy On You
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1/2/2008 1:12:40 PM |
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prxf
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 51
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I agree with writeman57. Respect should be higher than anything else, at least it is with me.
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