| 10/30/2009 5:15:22 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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yesurafiki
Central Village, CT
age: 42
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Depends on the day for me. Sometimes I am much happier being single than I ever have been with someone...
Then there are the days when I really miss having someone to just be with, to talk to..and all that good stuff.
I can't make up my mind!
The worse part of being single is having my family feeling sorry for me because I am "all alone in this world without anyone to look after me." Ugghhh!!
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| 10/30/2009 7:11:17 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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hitman_13
Paris, TN
age: 41
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Then you're gonna be that guy, hitman...
Trust me, cin, f you kne the type of women that were here, you'd want to stay single! Damn I gotta move to east Tn!.
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| 10/30/2009 10:38:43 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
age: 50
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Just because two people are in love,does'nt mean that everything has to have an emotional aspect to it.
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| 10/30/2009 11:18:50 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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dbspecial
Troy, NH
age: 28
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After the time of confusion is gone, have to say I like the air, being single allows you to
concentrate on more important things in life.
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| 10/31/2009 2:20:55 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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mrchris2u
Hicksville, NY
age: 48
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Single and uncomplicated is good if you know how to enjoy the freedom. This is something I've always had a knack for. You must lose yourself in this World. Enjoy it. This takes balls. If you don't take advantage of the freedom that being single affords you, than you will become lonely, and miserable. I can't speak for Single Moms though. I am a single man with no children.
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| 10/31/2009 2:48:20 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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bryguy67
London, OH
age: 42
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For me, being single is less stressful. But part of me still craves having a partner to do things with, spend time with and have someone that will be there for me when things are going rough.
It's a trade off. Being single = the ultimate in freedom to do what you want, when you want to.
A relationship means making compromises but can ultimately be a much more rewarding experience.
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| 10/31/2009 3:50:36 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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ubersun
Edinboro, PA
age: 38
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Leigh, no matter what your decision will be, this will remove alot of stress you may be having:
[Edited 10/31/2009 4:16:54 AM PST]
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| 10/31/2009 3:59:45 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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caky1
Walton, KY
age: 48
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YES!! I always seem to be happier when I'm single...its more peaceful alot less drama,
if I could find someone that wanted to live a peaceful
co-existence,I would be a happy woman when with someone.
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| 10/31/2009 8:00:21 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 51
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Single and uncomplicated DEFINITELY. I have made too many bad choices in men and it's cost me a lot of pain and aggravation. The more I meet men, the more I like being single.
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| 10/31/2009 8:24:47 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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firstlight
Strasburg, VA
age: 49 online now!
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I don't mind being single but I am so over it! I'm tired of not having any help, no one to bounce ideas off with, to laugh with, work with, and make love with.
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| 10/31/2009 2:15:24 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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askmrknowitall2
San Jose, CA
age: 59
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Single and uncomplicated....or loved and confused?
Those are not the only choses. As a matter of fact if I might be so bold as to point this out, You are really stating that you are confused about being single and lonely. On the other hand some people are better off alone. For example when I was a young man I enjoyed dating a lot of different women, I prefered being single. And I was up front with the ladies that I dated. Explaining that we were just dating and that I didn't want a relationship beyoud that. There is nothing confusing about being in love, or being single. The confusion comes into play because people lie to each other by having relationships with more than one person at a time and lying about it.
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| 10/31/2009 2:25:31 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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sarijj
Carson City, NV
age: 45
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Love should not be confusing, but dating sure is! I stepped away from the dating scene 6 years ago and found I was quite happy being alone with no drama. I recently dipped my toes back in the scene (which is how I found this site). I have learned that one does not have to accept drama or confusion that can stem from dating the wrong person. If the connection is right then there should be no drama or confusion. Yes a relationship is work, but dating should be fun. I would much rather be alone and happy than dating and confused. 
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| 10/31/2009 2:27:01 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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sarijj
Carson City, NV
age: 45
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I am with you, but I refuse to grab someone just to have someone. I will take my time this go around to form a lasting bond.
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| 10/31/2009 2:35:35 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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ava_adore
Concord, CA
age: 20
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It's way less stressful. I am very happy to be single now. Every time I see my best friend's Myspace IM status change from "He loves me not omg I'm crying" to "Oh he loves me he makes everything better" five times in a single day I just laugh.
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| 10/31/2009 2:40:19 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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life2short6
Granbury, TX
age: 53
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Yes it is less stressful, somehow, though, I still want to believe that there is some magic out there I have yet to experience, and maybe someway, somehow, one day one can find it.
I guess I am idealist, it does not seem like it would be stressful, though if we found the right one that we give them what they need the most of, and it is returned in what we need most of, and the stress is not there simply because it is a labor of love.
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| 10/31/2009 2:43:55 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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chyrei
Harrisonville, MO
age: 45
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I would rather be alone, than have a man in my life that fills
(my life) with drama and misery.
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| 10/31/2009 3:35:14 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 47
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I have no problem being single, I wouldn't give it up for something that wasn't right for me...but, as much as I do like the simplicity of my life, I know that finding what is right for me, would trump the single life.
Even if there are a few bridges to cross...
I was going to read the thread and post but only had to go this far to say, 'Ditto'.
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| 10/31/2009 3:37:19 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 33
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I'd rather just have a FWB.......at least for right now.
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| 10/31/2009 3:57:02 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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victor_fury
Albany, GA
age: 58
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I deal with this daily.
I'm looking for a woman who'll make the stress worthwhile.
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| 10/31/2009 4:00:13 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 33
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expectations, misscomunication, and hurt feelings seem so not worth the good that can be felt so fleetingly. (Not geared towards anyone particular person) I would just like others input....Single and uncomplicated....or loved and confused? 
People say you can't have your cake and eat it to.
That's Hawgwash!!
Of course you can!!
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| 10/31/2009 4:57:31 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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kerblam
Olympia, WA
age: 31
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I don't like being lonely, but I dislike having a boss (or someone to answer to) more.
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| 10/31/2009 6:52:46 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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chemical_xxx
Canadensis, PA
age: 33 online now!
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i think the biggest (and most elusive) key to a happy stable relationship is finding someone with NO expectations...just let nature take its course. so many people don't realize, or don't want to admit that NOTHING is ever guaranteed to work!
just because two people go out on a date or two doesn't make them automatically compatable. people need to understand this, and the fact that dating is a "feeling out" period...it drives me crazy if i actually go out once or twice with someone, and they get all crazy or act weird if it doesn't work out and call you a player or something else just because you BOTH didn't have the same feelings....but i also agree with being straight up front with people. don't leave them hanging and wondering what's going on.
if it's not working out for you just say it. like i said NOTHING IS GUARANTEED!
if both people realize this there won't be any stress. just go with the flow!
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| 10/31/2009 7:57:33 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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suzybee47
Schaumburg, IL
age: 55
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It's a trade off. Being single = the ultimate in freedom to do what you want, when you want to.
A relationship means making compromises but can ultimately be a much more rewarding experience. brguy
reply:
I agree but there are difficulties and I would like someone else's opinion and companionship at times. We were made to have relationships and desire love. That is the hard part of being single.
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| 10/31/2009 8:06:14 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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yellow_moon
Trenton, NJ
age: 35
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Most people are unhappy either way because the expect others to make them happy and fill the emptiness they have in their lives. I believe that someone is ready to be in a healthy relationship when he/she is not afraid to be alone.
As someone said once..."The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself"
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| 11/1/2009 10:16:18 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
age: 43
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It seems to me if I thought love was going to be a hassle, I would not bother . I am not trying to find love to make things complicated nor am I comfortable being alone(single). I think once we find the truest love it will be more satisfying than Ice cream on a hot day.
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| 11/1/2009 10:17:01 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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snhgirl
Orlando, FL
age: 39 online now!
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happiness depends on ourselves.
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| 11/1/2009 10:18:01 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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raen
Sunman, IN
age: 40
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there are pros and cons in everything...............its what u make of it and its also about the choices u make in others that u include in ur life.
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| 11/1/2009 11:58:36 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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the7thkey
Jacksonville, FL
age: 26
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Well, I can only say this if I had the choice of love as you put it stressful and my freedom is serenity, who wouldn't choose freedom? okay there are vampires out there who feed on stress, personally i choose freedom over stress anyday. stress leads to heart attacks
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| 11/1/2009 1:38:51 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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xpamela_leighx
Springville, UT
age: 36
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Most people are unhappy either way because the expect others to make them happy and fill the emptiness they have in their lives. I believe that someone is ready to be in a healthy relationship when he/she is not afraid to be alone.
As someone said once..."The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself"
~Sighs~ You aint just whistlin' dixie sister!!! 
[Edited 11/1/2009 1:39:08 PM PST]
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| 11/1/2009 1:41:35 PM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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trueblue5ft2
Poplar Bluff, MO
age: 52 online now!
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Been single since 91. It has its advantages. But why believe that married life has to be turnmoil? I know alot of married folks who have been together for 30 plus years and wouldn't trade it for anything.
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| 11/2/2009 1:41:30 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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jammil180
Valdosta, GA
age: 26
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It really depends on your exposure to politics as in opinions of others. If you are by yourself for most of your life with very little interaction in your work life then yeah it's great being single. If you are working with a group of people on a regular basis, then being single sucks as it tends to put pressures on the "under achievers".
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| 11/2/2009 1:45:21 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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scarred
Taft, TX
age: 26
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It's much harder to take care of yourself if you're sick and single than loved with a lover.
Stress in a relationship is only caused by the two making the stress appear.
Love is always better than not having love. 
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| 11/2/2009 4:02:36 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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gloriaschild
Atlanta, GA
age: 54
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For me.....Single life sucks!
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| 11/2/2009 8:36:06 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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petron
Garland, TX
age: 48 online now!
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pamela, it has it's good days and bad days...and many LONG weekends.
holidays can be rough
Being a single parent adds another layer of complication that single without Kid's doesn't have.
all in all, this is the first time i've been single for more than a year in my life.
did a little inner housekeeping of some bad habits, thoughts, feelings and most of all blame.
Still working on the cleaning process, but i've come to learn to live with me. figure, i won't make another happy until I am happy, so to get back on topic, at this stage of my life i'm single and enjoying it.
don't plan on staying this way but OK with the way things are.
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| 11/2/2009 8:42:01 AM |
Is it better, and less stress to remain single? Too many |
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openhart
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 46
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It is far simpler to be alone; and less fulfilling.
The movie 6-days & 7 nights is Very cute at the end when the male protagonist said 'I decided I want to complicate the hell out of it" ( his life) after the female lead asked " I thought you wanted to keep it simple?"
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