skyemitchell
Windsor, ON
age: 39
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That's funny............but I always tell the kids NEVER ACCEPT DARES!!!!!!!!! I do have really pretty, expressive eyes though. Anyone who knows me would recognize them.
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37
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it's definately about how you feel about yourself.confidence does wonders for looks.i don't think being skinny would get you any further than a few extra.everybody has different tastes.confidence is sexy!!!
if i can post so can you
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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  LOOK! Whiley is one of the creative people I just mentioned!
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oskdfgpa
Licking, MO
age: 55
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To quote the opening post “So here's the question. Although I know some men prefer "something to hold on to", am I going to have more to choose from if I'm slimmer and fitter?”
The short answer to your question is YES!! You will certainly have more to choose from because most me prefer women who are a bit on the slimmer side. Now before I get all the scathing replies to this comment that I’ve seen on other threads let me explain.
ALL OF US have things that we find attractive in the person we are looking for in a match. Facial hair, length of hair, hair in general, tattoos, bikers, height, etc. These are the most common things I see listed in profiles as “qualifiers” for a match, some people love them some people hat them. When the subject of weight comes up it seems to be a touch subject that some people get easily offended by some of the responses. Personally I don’t necessarily want a woman that is skinny and I don’t mind a woman with a “few extra pounds” but I do not find a woman who I consider heavy, large, overweight, or fat not physically attractive in the confines of a romantic relationship. By the same token I don’t judge people by their size when it comes to what I call a social or friendship relationship, this is where what is on the inside is more important than appearance. What strikes me the most about anyone is how comfortable they are with who and what they are, that, and honesty.
If your are around someone on a daily basis, for instance a co worker, you get the chance to know them and what’s on the inside and maybe you can develop a romantic relationship with someone you wouldn’t ordinarily consider “physically attractive” because you have gotten to know them. When it comes to cyber dating it is an all together different story, the physical attraction becomes much more important. Let’s face it people if you spent the time to get to know every one you didn’t find physically attractive on this site, be it weight, height, hair or whatever, in order to find out if they were such a special person their looks didn’t matter, well I think you get the picture.
I don’t consider myself a shallow person but I want someone who is attractive, to me at least, in more ways that just physical and size it part of the equation.
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stellablu
Saint Louis, MO
age: 49
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osk...
For example, I cannot imagine kissing someone with full, bushy, unkept facial hair.
Just not attractive to me. I'm not going to test the theory to be PC!
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leahmarie
Aston, PA
age: 59
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skye..... I checked your profile and find you have said nothing about yourself or what you want. Okay, you are a teacher and don't want to post your picture for fear the kids at school might see it and make fun. I can understand that, but you need to have a short essay to let the guys know a little about you.
As far as your weight is concerned, the fact that you are asking about it tells me you are uncomfortable with your appearance. So yes, go to the gym and lose whatever weight is necessary so you do not have to come on a forum and ask others, if you should or should not lose weight.
As far as "Everyone says it's what's on the inside that matters." that is correct. BUT, and this is the big but, "In order to stand a better chance at meeting a better calibre of men," as you put it, "you need to be fitter and more confident with yourself to attract them." Once again, I quoted you, which tells me you know what's what. All you have to do is do it. One last point, once you feel comfortable with your weight/physical appearance, "what's on the inside" will keep him interested.
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stellablu
Saint Louis, MO
age: 49
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I love kissing someone with a full bushy..... oh sorry read that wrong (RC)
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