sweetcheeks85
Centreville, VA
age: 22
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What do we really truly want from a man?
We want someone to treat us good, respect us, and be there for us threw the thick and the thin... but, once we find them we either get scared, chase them away, or something of the sort. Whether it's from a past relationship/man, family mishaps, or our self insecurities, we always end up messing something up or let it go too far...
I know I have been lied to, beat, mental abused, etc. from men and my father, but what I know, is that it has made me a stronger person yet at the same time it has made it even hard to trust a man let alone let someone into my life and let my wall down.
It's like when there's someone decent or whatever, we always find a flaw. We want someone who got that "danger" or "wild" aspect, but we want the trust and love aspect as well. Is that too much to ask for or is it possible?
For me, I haven't been in a "real" relationship in awhile and I'm so used to doing things on my own and not depending or a man for anything, but it could be nice to have a man around to help out and be there and even just to listen and talk to... the rest is extra.
It's not always about sex and pleasing the other one, even though it is great, don't get me wrong. But I'm not looking for just the casual sex and going out and seeing who I can "hook-up" with.
I am 22 years old, and I have been through more then most 40 year olds. But there are some people who have been through so much more, and they are strong people and made it threw their dramatical/emotional/life changing situations. Everyone has been hurt in some way, we just have to learn to get through everything and keep moving on and not dwell on what we can not change.
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rizzle_dizzle
Vincentown, NJ
age: 19
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sorry you tyeped to much that i dont want to read and you had no posts
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majik17
Elk River, MN
age: 20
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Well, I read it... And thanks for the post... It's totally awesome... And to fill in some blanks for you... Yes it is possible to find someone who has a "dangerous" or "wild" side but knows when to be serious and has that willingness to emote that women look for in a man... Just keep looking and you will find him...
Just assume that most men like to hide their "sensitive" side, and you have to pry it out of him... Ask a lot of questions early on to screen him for commonalities... You can't trust someone who tells you the story about the "Huge football player's ass he kicked" if he can't add the part about, "But I was scared shitless the whole time!"
And yes, we have all been hurt in different ways. It's our ability to confront every situation with a fresh new outlook that makes the difference and allows us to gain forward momentum in our lives...
Kudos,
Majik
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