| 1/8/2010 12:19:45 AM |
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syrrus23
Overland Park, KS
28, joined Jan. 2010
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Ok the title doesn't quite match the question, but why does every girl stop talking to me after they find out that my daughter's mom and I where friends with benefits? I mean hell I mess up as much as the next guy, but why do they put such an emphasis on that? I also try to hint or explain that I now don't want to do anything until getting to know the other, and still nothing. I'm tempted to resort to my palm and pillow for life.
btw those who are fine with it usually play games with me too...
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| 1/8/2010 9:40:12 AM |
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kaylaj91
Arkansas City, KS
23, joined Oct. 2009
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ok wait your friends with benefits with your daughters mom?
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| 1/8/2010 4:12:38 PM |
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kat888_30
Wichita, KS
35, joined Oct. 2009
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Hey I don't blame ya, this is such a confusing world today, not knowing whats what, whos, who... I've been separated with my husband for 8+years, and hes got custody of my lil girl, his too... and he jus popped in/up couple months ago, wanting"benefits" when after for so long we disliked eachother...for so long.. so I dunno if hes' playing games or what, I sure a heck ain't playin those games.... ANYMORE that is!!!
so I don't blame ya, and if you were done with the benefits with your daughters mom thats all good then you can continue an relationship with other females... but me I'd have no pblm with it really....
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| 1/11/2010 6:20:53 PM |
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dimpdimples
Wichita, KS
23, joined Jan. 2010
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i dont hate single dads my mamas a single mother in its all good fuk them females who do there just looseing out on a good a** men
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| 1/13/2010 10:53:50 PM |
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syrrus23
Overland Park, KS
28, joined Jan. 2010
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I was friends with benifits with the mom, then everything went crazy and now I think we are in more of a business relationship thankfully.
But I have found that many women with kids are more understanding.
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| 1/15/2010 10:39:45 AM |
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ginaschoen
Olathe, KS
59, joined Jun. 2009
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Women don't hate single dads; if they do, you don't want them in your life or your kids life for that matter. And don't you think perhaps it's a little TMI? If that was the first thing out of your mouth, I'd run too! Try using a little discretion next time. Frankly it's none of their business unless you're going into a LTR, and then the problem should take care of itself, right?
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| 1/17/2010 10:34:12 AM |
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jacer
Arkansas City, KS
28, joined Dec. 2009
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IDK
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| 1/18/2010 7:49:21 AM |
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dealy1978
Newton, KS
36, joined Jan. 2010
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I have no idea!!!
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| 1/20/2010 2:37:26 PM |
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luffy66
Garden City, KS
48, joined Jan. 2010
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I cannot speak for other women of course, only for myself. It has been my experience that Single Dads rock and are not prone to perfection. Nothing says sexy and sweet like a Father willing to take on the responsiblity of his child. Also, only my opinion, sex with an ex is not a horrible thing. With one you know, you feel safe. Safety in this day and age, is of extreme importance.
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| 1/21/2010 8:45:10 AM |
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skilea
Topeka, KS
46, joined Sep. 2009
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Honestly I think that is great--I mean we all have needs that need to be met and since you guys have been together before why take a chance on catching something from someone else--until there is a serious commitment with another person..I say do it!!
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| 5/26/2010 7:53:30 AM |
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jazzy1961
Kansas City, KS
53, joined May. 2010
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Most girls want a bad guy not a sweet nice daddy look at it this way how about you met a girl with three kids and you want her as a girlfriend if you wanted to take her out to eat. Now you got four kids to find a babysitter they might treat your kid as an outsider maybe her ex still want to hook up with her once a week also, you will some day do it with your Ex I'll put twenty dollars on it. single girls with know kids don't want know nice sweet daddy unless you got something beside a good heart an good manners.
But if you find a girl let us single dads know where you got her from.
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| 6/3/2010 10:40:43 PM |
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kc_man
Mission, KS
39, joined Mar. 2010
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 Holy shit are guys dumb. (Ladies I really feel sorry for you for having to deal with this type of shit and apologize on behalf of the masculine sex) For frag sake man you're screwing your EX on a current basis and you wonder why they are running?
Here are your options
A. Stop screwing your EX
B. Stop telling them you are screwing your EX and cut it off with ex as soon as they come in the picture... (That's what a friends with benefits is for)
C. Stop Dating and just keep screwing your ex
D. Find way stupider women than the ones you are currently going after
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| 6/4/2010 10:15:51 AM |
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kitykat112788
Leavenworth, KS
26, joined Oct. 2008
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dude seriously??!!! friends with benefits with your daughters mom come on. i know i'm looking for a relationship with a SINGLE guy. i dont wanna be just another notch in the bedpost. i like single dads they understand how hard i work i have 3 kids now then you get the ones that are so absorbed with their kids that they ignore me so not cool maybe thats your problem but i'd say its not cuz you have a kid thats your problem its cuz you're screwing your ex. i dont want a man wh*re i want a guy that wants to be faithful and settle down. and guess what screwing your ex equals man wh*re specially if you're trying to screw other women too. you got 2 options in my mind get back with your ex and only screw her or break it off with her and screw your gf and only her and leave the babymomma as the babymomma and coparent. and lastly grow up life doesnt revolve around sex sure its good and feels nice blah blah blah but its not the center. you cant have your cake and eat it too. translation: if you have your cake then its on the plate in front of you and you can have it forever well until it molds disintergrates and such on. if you eat it well then you enjoyed it while it lasted and its gone you dont have it anymore. point being you had something with your ex you enjoyed it if its over its over you ate your cake so let it go. if you wanna have her then have her but you cant eat someone elses cake when you still have your own.
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| 6/7/2010 12:54:20 PM |
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sugarmag76
Kansas City, MO
38, joined Jun. 2010
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Halarious, really? You think it's the kids?? Kids are great, however it comes down to the dad. 1st, don't be doing the ex...why would any girl think that you are ready to start a new with them when you are still attached to the one you shared something as big as a child with? 2nd what kind of dad are you? That matters on so many levels. It shows how you would be with the potential of kids together. What kind of boyfriend with kids are you? Do you get off on the compatition for your affection? Are you respectful of the difference between your child and the new women in your life? I don't think it has to do with kids, I think it has to do with you. I dated a guy for years that had a kid. I raised her, until she turned into a teen and the dad thought his little princess could do no wrong... 14, head spinning and smart *ss mouth. If he would have played dad and not buddy maybe she wouldn't have got away with what she did. But I blame him not the child raised that way. Would I date a guy with kids again, yes. Would I look harder at the dad and what kind of man he really is befor getting attached to both of them.. definately!!
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| 6/22/2010 11:37:20 AM |
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single_mama2010
Holstein, NE
26, joined Apr. 2010
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why do men hate single moms?
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| 6/24/2010 7:46:21 AM |
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jazzy1961
Kansas City, KS
53, joined May. 2010
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| 6/24/2010 7:51:30 AM |
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Kansas City, KS
53, joined May. 2010
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| 7/1/2010 9:32:36 PM |
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syrrus23
Overland Park, KS
28, joined Jan. 2010
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First off, I haven't had sex with her for about a year a and a half. She got a boyfriend six months after our daughter was born and we both decided to no longer have sex.
I've never stated that I still have sex with her, but that is how conseption was made. It was an on and off relationship.
I will not have sex with someone in a relationship, nor will I have sex with someone else while in a relationship. Hell right now I'd rather just go out and enjoy myself with another without taking off any clothes.
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| 7/4/2010 7:54:58 PM |
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twain76
Kansas City, MO
38, joined Jun. 2010
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Girls hate single dads? Well I am in a world of hurt then! I have a nearly three year old son who is the love of my life right now. I do not get time with him as often as I would like, but hopefully that will change soon. Speaking solely from my experience....who goes back to their ex? If you had a child together but things didnt work out, take the joys of having children with you and move on. Always have the reason of separation in the front of your mind, not as a tool for arguing or opening past wounds, but as a reminder of how bad things could get if you did get back together. In my experience, people will try to change and may appear to have changed for a moment, but get back into the regular groove and we are all creatures of habit, ready to fall back into our ruts. If you separate, stay separated. It could cause irreparable damage to your children with all the back and forth.
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| 7/5/2010 9:13:38 PM |
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jw11480
Wichita, KS
35, joined Oct. 2009
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I cant believe this thread has drawn this much attention. Girls look at single dads the same way that we look at single moms. Loss of freedom, loss of disposable income, loss of attention, etc. I mean come on is this really a shocker? That kid represents lack of commitment, poor morality, lack of direction, and need for instant gratification. Its not a issue of girls not liking single dads, its a issue of nice, well rounded, level headed girls that are willing to be patient not liking single dads.
Personally I agree with someone else who posted before me. The problem is you. There are plenty of girls out there who see no problem with taking on a broken home. What kills the deal is your sudden proclamation of being a virtues man. Do you really expect to find a woman that will accept your child and will also accept not bumping nasties till you "find your inner emotional connection?" Personally I think you should drop the whole "I dont want to have sex with anyone" trip cause nobody is buying it and it makes you look silly.
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| 9/16/2010 1:20:04 PM |
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ponys
El Dorado, KS
53, joined May. 2010
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lololololol, ok so I got a giggle from these, Kc man,,, good going and good answer.
from you and one other...
#1 keep your personel business to yourself
#2 don't have ''benifits'' around if you want a relationship elsewhere
#3 Its the ''player'' mode these girls are running from... smart girls...
#4 make a decission of what you want, real relationship, or your ''benifits''
#5 Best to go FORWARD in life.. not reverse..., let ''mom'' move on too.
realy i can relate.. I am 'friends' still with some of my "ex's", but we don't do FRINGE BENIFITS...cause i won't, not them..., and I still can go to a lunch, dinner, or movie date even with them.. cause we don't confuse ''friendship'' with "relationship"
If you can be friends with mom that is GREAT.. for you, her and your child. to do things for and with your child in future, but knowing you don't have a FUTURE left between you other than friends, ... all your doing is having sex and using each other... and sooner or later its gonna bite you in the butt... Whether its losing the chance to meet someone right for YOU. or the green eyed ''monster'' popping up... or basically and in reality..not having enough self esteem to move on. wether its alone or meeting someone new.
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| 9/19/2010 10:51:55 AM |
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kscutie69
Edgerton, KS
46, joined Aug. 2010
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LOL KC MAN.... I like the way you think. 
Sex with an ex and your on a dating sight....hmmmm WTF? Have you no brains dude? Sounds like the guy needs to either marry the ex or get off the dating site. No single woman wants to know your messing around with your ex.
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| 9/20/2010 3:52:27 PM |
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kandiecane2003
Hays, KS
29, joined Jul. 2010
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Hey not all girls hate single dads....I'm actually very impressed when guys step-up and take care of their children
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| 9/20/2010 9:16:02 PM |
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h_town_tx
Salina, KS
31, joined Sep. 2010
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How about single men period. I just got to Salina and I havent meet anyone to talk to everybpdy is so in their own world.. 
And NO ladies Im not talking about 1 night stands Im talking a nice dinner a movie something nice
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| 9/23/2010 10:31:52 AM |
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angiltds
Wichita, KS
36, joined Feb. 2010
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but they should have viewed your profile, and knew ahead of time that you have kid(s). As such, obviously, the problem is NOT the kids. You hinted that it may be that you were not married, and I assure you, that is not the problem either. Most likely, they just were not into you. If you really want to know, give them a call and tell them why you think they stopped talking with you. If they laugh, that means you are way off base. Explain to them you are having problems finding someone, and ask them if they could give you some 'hints' on things that you should, or should not do, next time.
A quick note for an earlier post. You should ALWAYS be upfront about having kids. This is NOT TMI(Too much information).
Lastly, something to keep things in perspective. There are 20 guys on this site to every girl, and the guys are about 5 times more active. That translates to ALOT of guys, sending ALOT of winks and messages. So, if you are seriously interested in someone, make sure you send them a well thought out, and personalized, message. Anything short of that, will be muffled out in the crowd.
Personally, I believe that the guys who are here for the wrong reasons, and really not interested in settling down, receive most the attention. As such, they set a bad example, and ruin the chances for the rest of us. Hence all the, "Why can't I find a good guy" threads.
My reccomendation, get active in community events. YMCA has several co-ed things like volleyball and boot camp. RiverFest has TONS of events that are always needing more people. You could even go so far as going back to school. College is a great place to get active and meet new people.
Lastly, I would suggest joining a premier pay site such as Match.com. You will find many more active people there.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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| 9/23/2010 4:08:16 PM |
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romeoinjeans
Lyons, KS
46, joined Sep. 2010
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I will go along with the question in hand and also wonder the same thing! BUT! in your case the screwing the ex part is what has you all messed up dude. If you can do that on the side, and feel you have option of open benefits, then you aint the gentleman you think you are, get some sense! Ask yourself, if a woman you are dateing and or involved with is getting benefits from other every tom, ---, and harry. Especially that you didnt know. Im sure you would run too,lol
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| 9/26/2010 5:47:37 PM |
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single_mama2010
Holstein, NE
26, joined Apr. 2010
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that's because women with kids realize that the world doesn't revolve around them.
but why is it that men with kids don't realize the same thing like why should i have to deal with my daughters father expecting me to sell my body to him in order for him to provide for our daughter? it really makes it to where women get hurt so bad by their baby's father they have problems trusting another man which could be part of why it appears that we hate single dads cuz we just been thru so much bs with ex's that we are really hesitant to trust 
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| 9/26/2010 5:49:39 PM |
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single_mama2010
Holstein, NE
26, joined Apr. 2010
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How about single men period. I just got to Salina and I havent meet anyone to talk to everybpdy is so in their own world..
And NO ladies Im not talking about 1 night stands Im talking a nice dinner a movie something nice
yea salina is kinda like that most people are stuck up or just pretend like u don't even exist it sucks there thank god i left
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