| 1/5/2008 1:09:43 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
evilchickz07
San Antonio, TX
age: 23
|
I DON'T KNOW IF THIS IS THE RIGHT FORUM BUT I'M GANNA GIVE IT A TRY...
SO ME AND MY X HUSBAND DIDN'T WORK OUT THE RELATIONSHIP THE SECOND TIME AROUND CUZ OF HIS EX GIRLFRIEND.... DURING THE TIME ME AND HIM WERE TOGETHER HIS EX GIRLFRIEND KEPT CALLING AND MESSAGEING HIM, BUT YET SHE SAID SHE DIDN'T WANT HIM BACK.... SHE WAS PISSED THAT ME AND HIM WERE TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT THAT SHE EVEN SENT SOMEONE TO THE HOUSE WHERE ME AND HIM WERE STAYING AT.... I DIDN'T KNOW WHO SHE WAS BUT THE WAY I DISCRIBED HER TO HIS FAMILY THEY KNEW WHO I WAS TALKING ABOUT. WELL HE LEFT TO GO BACK TO HER AND TURNED THE WHOLE POLICE STORY AROUND AND SAID IT WAS ME REPORTING HER TO THE POLICE WHEN IT WAS HIM THAT TOLD THEM EVERYTHING AND EVEN POINTED HER OUT TO THEM...... AFTER HE DID THAT SHE CALLED HIS MOM AND SAID SHE WAS AT THE POLICE MAKING A REPORT AGAINST ME CUZ OF WHATEVER HE TOLD HER.... NOW IT'S BEEN MORE THEN 2 MONTHS AND HE STARTED CALLING HIS FAMILY TRYING TO CONVINCE ME TO LET HIM SEE HIS KIDS.... AND WELL.... I TOLD HIM NO..... THE GIRL HE IS WITH IS PSYCO!!! I DON'T WANT MY KIDS AROUND THAT... DRUGS AND ALL! WELL HE'S PISSED THAT I SAID NO... SHE'S MAD CUZ HE'S PISSED AND NOW A FEW NIGHTS AGO SOMEONE CAME INTO MY YARD TO MY WINDOW AND NO WHERE ELSE AND PEEKED INTO MY ROOM IN.... HE'S THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS ABOUT THAT SPOT WHERE YOU CAN ACTUALLY SEE IN AND WELL I CHECKED IT THE NEXT MORNING AND IT WAS OPEN.... THIS WAS AT THREE O CLOCK IN THE MORNING..... THEY DIDN'T BOTHER TO BREAK IN MORE LIKE A SCARE...... I MOSTLY SURE THAT SHE SENT SOMEONE TO FOLLOW ME OR SOMETHING..... SHE TOOK ALL HIS PAPERS WHEN THEY SPLIT... IT HAD MY SOCIAL SECURITY FOR ME, MY KIDS AND HIM AND IT HAS THE ADDRESS WHERE I STAY AT NOW.... SHE ALREADY MADE PLANS TO HAVE HIM KILLED WHEN HER BABY DADDY GETS OUT OF JAIL IN MARCH.... HOW DO I KNOW SHE AIN'T GANNA DO THE SAME TO ME AND MY KIDS.... HE ALREADY THREATED ME AND THEN SOMEONE SHOWS UP TO MY HOUSE AT NIGHT TO A SPOT ONLY HE KNOWS ABOUT I KNOW IT WASN'T HIM CUZ MY DOG BARKS AT GUYS BUT DOESN'T REALLY DO ANYTHING WHEN IT IS A GIRL..... SO IT MUST OF BEEN ONE OF HER FRIENDS AGAIN!!!!!! THE COPS SAID THEY CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT TILL SOMETHING HAPPENS SO WHAT DO YOU THINK I NEED TO DO TO PROTECT ME AND MY KIDS???? AND DON'T TELL ME I NEED TO MOVE CUZ I AIN'T GOT ANYWHERE TO GO SINCE I DON'T WORK GOT NO MONEY FOR MY OWN PLACE I'M RELYING ON CHILDSUPPORT THAT I'M BERLY STARTING TO GET... DON'T KNOW HOW LONG THAT WILL LAST....THIS IS MY GRANDMAS HOUSE I DON'T WANT TO LEAVE HER HERE BY HERSELF AND THEN SOMETHING HAPPEN TO MY FAMILY THAT LIVES HERE........
|
| 1/5/2008 3:18:39 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
skyemitchell
Windsor, ON
age: 39
|
I don't feel this is something you should be seeking help for in a chat room. Seek professional assistance in the city or town where you live, and involve the police in your concerns. If children are involved contact your local children's aid society and let them know you are concerned about their safety when they are with your ex-husband.
I don't even feel people should be commenting anymore on this thread, but that's just my opinion. You don't need help from people in cyberspace -- you need real life help. Go seek it out.
|
| 1/5/2008 4:51:08 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
dragan
Clinton Township, MI
age: 38
|
This is not the right place to even get help with this. You need to go talk to the Police about this.
|
| 1/5/2008 6:07:00 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
|
Well since you are in Texas, I would get a 12 gauge shot gun. A 45 Glock and learn how to use them.
You need to contact the POLICE with good hard evidence and file a report. Be ready to call them at a moments notice.
I'm pretty sure Texas law says you can blow anyone away if they come on you property at night and threaten you. I wouldn't do it unless it was your final option. Check on that law first. I'm not a TEXAN.
If you really feel threatened, you should move. Break contact with all people involved. You need to protect your children first and then yourself.
I understand that you don't want to move. So the only option you have is to stand your ground. Call the cops if something goes down. Round the kids up in a back room, lock the door. Point the shot gun at the door and use it if a dirtbag comes into the room.
or
Find a big ass gun crazed Texas boyfriend to protect you.
Break off all relations with those involved.
I wish you left another way out, but this may be the only way.
|
| 1/5/2008 6:14:26 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
kfab1023
Jacksonville, FL
age: 51
|
Wow this is really scary sounding I would not only go to the police I would also get a lawyer and a restraining order for starters. And I would let everyone I know in the world know what is going on and Then I would have a place set up to go to if I had to a friends or a womans shelter or something. Good luck to you 
|
| 1/5/2008 7:10:02 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
forestrose
Calgary, AB
age: 54
|
Get the window fixed for starters so it can't be opened from outside. File a police report about any threats or intimidations made. Contact a women's shelter or family court about a restraining order (not sure what your resources are in the U.S. as I am in Canada, but you get the idea). Don't talk to him, or her, or anyone as a go-between. If you have to talk, such as about the children, use a mediator or counsellor, and never meet either one of them (ex or his gf) privately. Also do what you have to, to learn about yourself, so that you do not go back into relationship with him! Nothing will change, it will only re-play. Co-parenting can happen, without ever having to see or speak to him again. There are also agencies that will supervise visits until he learns what is good for his children.
[Edited 1/5/2008 7:11:01 PM]
|
| 1/6/2008 12:14:51 AM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
harley68
San Antonio, TX
age: 39
|
evil - you know what goes on here - there have been enough killings by babies daddys here in the past month. contact the police, move to where no one knows where you're at. if you need to talk to someone, contact me. been there done that. just send me a private email - i know a few officers here. be careful, don't get brave, get SMART!
|
| 1/6/2008 1:06:02 AM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
cjbaker
Decatur, AL
age: 38
|
Yes, please get help from the police... they should be able to direct you to help you out, even if they can't actually do anything until something happens. I would really suggest that you get pepper spray... you can carry it everywhere, you can't carry a gun everywhere.
If you have routines... stop them!!! Like if you go to bingo on Thursday nights, go grocery shopping on Saturdays at a specific place, anything that is a routine for you to do that he knows about.
|
| 1/6/2008 3:01:27 AM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
wsb81067
Indianapolis, IN
age: 40
|
have put a no contact order on them,it should not effect your child suport.
|
| 1/6/2008 12:56:37 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
bucho154
Lamar, CO
age: 34
|
social services has a department that will help you out
|
| 1/6/2008 2:52:14 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
|
debarry, Some people don't know where to go. They need to start some where.
I realize that my reply is way over the top.
Texas is a freedom to carry and protect state. Everyone there carries guns. At least the people I know.
The Gal above states she is not going to move.(period) Her only hope to defend herself from someone that intends to kill her. She beleaves this threat.
Call the police, get that restraining order and move. If you have witnesses to the statements and they are willing to testify for you, you may be able to invoke a law that is now being used a lot. The Terrorist Threats Law. Cops love this one. All they need to do is prove it. It's best if they hear the threats so they can testify to them. Its a felony and will put one in jail for at least a year.
Here's the deal: If someone is set on killing you, you need to get out. If you refuse this, your only option is to make your home as safe as possible. Hook up some motion lights in the area where she said they were peeking in from...So you will know when somebody is there. Create an ALAMO of your home. If something spooks you, call the cops, gather your family in a corner of a back room, lock the door, stay on the phone with the cops, point a shot gun at the door and be willing to use it if someone breaks that door down. Wait until they break that door down. It will show that they had intent to harm you. It will make this an open and shut case. TEXAS LAW backs you to use deadly force in this situation.
I KNOW I SOUND LIKE A FREAK HERE,
You need to protect your family. You need to control the situation while you wait for the cops to show up. Don't go out looking for them. Let the cops do that. Just keep yourself alive while waiting for the cops. When they do show up, PUT THE GUN ON THE FLOOR DON"T WALK OUT WITH THE GUN! The whole idea is to stay alive until the cops have a handle on the situation.
|
| 1/6/2008 3:12:20 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
carlita69
El Paso, TX
age: 23
|
I say go after the b*tch, lol
Just kiddin is better if theres one crazy b*tch not two,
wow, i thought my situation was nasty, anyways i think u should
get an alarm even the ones from walmart cheap
ones it will sound real loud as soon as someone
open the door or the windows, sleep with a gun
or a bat, regardless of what happened they r intruding,
f*ck dat don't be scared, God sees everything and
best believe if ur a good person a good human being
he won't let u die, and what goes around comes around
u have the right of not letting ur children around that,
especially with a crazy b*tch, let ur neightbors know
ur situation and u know neightborhood watch, I hope
my advice comes to consideration, anyways girl, GOD BLESS U and
UR CHILDREN!!  
|
| 1/6/2008 3:35:17 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
skyemitchell
Windsor, ON
age: 39
|
My thoughts exactly debaryjeff.
|
| 1/6/2008 3:51:46 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
carlita69
El Paso, TX
age: 23
|
The reason i think she is
asking for help, is beacuse
she already know what her
family is going to say,
if it comes from someone
else that she don't know
and that r going thru something
similiar, might help her out
on whatshe's gonna do.
I think is good when people ask for
help no matter how they do it.
I think theirs alot of people out
there that don't care of helping out
and no one says u have to,
it has to come from u,
Anyways as for me i rather
answer to this type of forum
than, what do u think the
person on top is thinking
stuff like that, I might
sound Korny but i don't give a f#$% 
|
| 1/14/2008 7:44:03 PM |
please i really need your help??? |
|
feam
San Antonio, TX
age: 25
|
I believe you know what to do just fallow your heart. feam.
|