| 1/6/2008 6:25:52 PM |
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angelgirltwo
Norwalk, OH
age: 48
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I am wanting to move on with my own life! I had been dating my 14 year old son,s father for 21 years.We never lived together but only seen each other. We broke it off with hard feelings on both parts!In the end the last thing that ended was the sex! That ended 4 months ago.I just found out today he has a girl-freind!I am shocked and he said he loves her.My cousin called him and he told her this!I had a hard time beleiving this but can people really fall in love this fast or was he cheating on me?The reason we broke-up was because he didnt want to commit.He loves his freedom more!I should mention he also thinks he,s Gods gift to women.He gets my son this week-end and I dont know how or what to say! I also that as time went by he would want me back.Come on my new freinds!!!I need to know what I can do to get him back or should i just move on?I STILL LOVE HIM!
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| 1/6/2008 7:52:22 PM |
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cityguyonafarm
Bethel, NY
age: 53
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First, you might consider what it was which you yourself permitted. You got involved and then had your son...it was at that point this "man" should have committed to you but did not. Then you continue to remain bed partners wasting 21 years with a man who already showed his true charactor and now wonder if he's cheated on you in the past??? And now you want advice on how to get him back...or if you should take him back??? I would first examine why you allowed this "relationship" to exist this long in the first place...and then you can give some thought to what makes a healty and loving relationship thrieve. My advice would be that you be greatful he's out of your life, and rejoice in your newfound realization you deserve a real relationship. I can tell you its not easy to find one...since you never experienced a committed relationship...if and when you do, you will realize the difference! I'm sorry you have learned the hard way and wish you well!
[Edited 1/7/2008 8:37:16 AM PST]
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| 1/6/2008 8:21:08 PM |
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lc69
Silvis, IL
age: 39
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Youve already wasted 21ys waiting on this MAN to settle down and what is right by you and your son.Why would you want to waste anymore time ? Move on and find someone who will treat you like you should be.Do you really think tis is the first time he has cheated on you?This has had to be a very confusing relationship for your son I feel bad for him. I think you need to get on with your life and I wish you th best
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| 1/6/2008 10:14:16 PM |
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bocky1019
Newark, DE
age: 51
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yes its time to move on.When he comes to get your son dont say anything to him.Or you can get all dressed up and put on a nice mini skirts and heels and smeeling nice when he comes.If he asks whats going on tell him you are just going out tonite.Sometimes Angel you have to play hard ball.Give him a taste of his own medicine,get yourself some balls an stop letting this guy use you.Go find a nice man.You say you love him and thats hard to get over I know.But was this your first love?probably not.And you will find love again and hopefully with a good man.Guys like this give us good guys a bad name.Your a good looking woman and shouldnt have any problem finding someone to treat you nice..Bock
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| 1/6/2008 10:16:04 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 45
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Angel you need to get over him. Forget him all together and find a good man. When you take your son to him say nothing. Get out and find the right man for you. That guy will never reform. He'll always be a cheeting liar. Get on with it. Go get your new good man.
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| 1/6/2008 10:21:23 PM |
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kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 48
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What advice will you give your son when he is older and a woman does him the same way this man has done you?
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| 1/7/2008 4:33:33 AM |
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angelgirltwo
Norwalk, OH
age: 48
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I,m so happy I joined this web-site!I really beleive there reason for life in everything!Thank-you for reading my post !I will take the the good advice!I knew the answer all a long ! I tried to get out of the the relationship years ago .I thought, that was a way of life . It became habit!I beleived when you loved someone it was for-ever and I thought he would change!Yes it was wasted years,but I have no regrets.I have my son! He may have broke my heart but time can mend that! l am starting over again .I went back to school and looking forward to a whole new life!!I will be searching for a good man.I know every guy isnt like him! Im a good person. I see the the good in every-one!I,m real thankful to have all of you in my life!!!!!!! Thankyou love and God bless!
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| 1/7/2008 4:43:38 AM |
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drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 44
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angel, i'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. it seems alot of us feel the pain that you are currently experiencing. i wish i cold be there to take that pain away for you. but it is true, time does help heal a broken heart. you're a beautiful woman, don't allow anyone to tell you differnetly. i'll keep a good thought for you. take care. 
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| 1/7/2008 6:00:40 AM |
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queenoftheroad
Cuba, MO
age: 47
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you know girl
been in similiar situation.
learn thru your own personnel pride what's best for you. not him, or son.
it sounds like you want to even the score. wasted energy, don't want to get down to lower level.
you learn to walk away. forget it.
as far as son, you have different relationship, no need to bring up subject of dad.
if you spill pot, get to other room, take break, doesn't do kid any good to b*tch about dad. we know he idiot, he can't help it, kid doesn't have to know how you feel, only if you engage in the drama... think about kids point of view. what would he tell others about how you feel about dad? keep business between you and dad... if you can. harder then you think. it can be done with practice.
it does help to vent here. way to calm you down, whole lot.
here's to you and good luck
I would break off all ties to him. he is user.
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| 1/7/2008 6:27:32 AM |
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exfirefighter
Inverness, FL
age: 57
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Angel, If you still love him after all that BS you need to adjust your priorities, dimp his a** for good and move on. No woman should be treated like that or allow herself to be treated like that
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| 1/7/2008 7:06:27 AM |
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curmudgeon4300
Gretna, NE
age: 61
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Forget about that loser and run away with me.
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| 1/7/2008 7:20:46 AM |
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chrisk1974
Bowling Green, OH
age: 34
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dont hurry anything. sounds to me like you deserve better than that guy, but i can't begin to think i know the situation. just dont rush into anything. take some time, talk to freinds, and decide whats best for you and your son. and please take whatever amount of time it takes to get over him before you move on. in my experiance, the only thing rushing into another relationship causes is more pain, for you and the new person.
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