3/1/2010 10:09:07 PM |
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submissivegirl
New Orleans, LA
age: 27
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ok i was talkin to this guy for awhile and he is white and so am i. But i have for quite awhile now dated outside my race. I just feel like i connect with black men better than i do white men. But he was steady hittin on me so i decided to give it an attempt. Then out of the blue the discussion about interracial dating came up. I was upfront and totally honest wit him about everything. I have no reason to hide it. And i always speak my mind and dont tend to care how anyone feels about my life or my choices or my choices in words. Well, he turns around and tells me that all white girls that date black guys are sl-ts and he is no longer interested in me cuz he does not wanna date someone out of his race let alone someone in his race that dated outside his race! Are you kidding me?!? Thats ok cuz i sure told him off and told him that i would prefer to date a black man anyway! I was just tryin to be nice and date him anyway. I always knew in the back of my mind it wouldn't work wit us. But that is just sad that my choices in my life can stop me from dating someone! But like i said no prob i will find a better man and i'm glad i didn't put no more time into datin him than i did!
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3/1/2010 10:18:43 PM |
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sedonaphoto
Sedona, AZ
age: 46
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Well if two people like each other it should not be a problem. OP if you have in he back of your mind that the only man that will make you happy is a black man then that is what you will attract. You have put yourself in a box and that is not good. Sometimes that which you see will pass you by because you are expecting it in a certain package.
I have always been open to whatever life throws my way, because of this I have had a few interesting adventures. The weird thing is you have a form of reverse racism and that is very sad. I have had a few women disqualify me because I did not speak black enough.
2010 I guess I will wait until 2011 of change!
Karl in Sedona
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3/1/2010 10:50:36 PM |
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pretzelman59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 59
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culture, I believe is the biggest problem. From what I see...our cultures are totally different.
BTW....just because you are not attracted to people of another race......that does not make you a bigot. I am not attracted to blondes, some may not be attracted to dark skin
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3/1/2010 10:57:50 PM |
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midnightriddler
Sitka, AK
age: 41
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I tended to date inside the human race.
Without regard to skin colour or nationality.
I don't date anymore.
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3/1/2010 11:01:37 PM |
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sdringneck
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 51
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I don't know. I don't have any. I guess you'll have to ask a biggot. I'd guess some backward, antiquated idea of racial supremacy. But why would you give a biggot the satisfaction of letting him know he got to you?
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3/1/2010 11:05:23 PM |
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pretzelman59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 59
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Isn't it strange how there is such a race problem in our country....but there are no racists??? LMFAO!!
And no....I am not accusing anyone. I know I'll be accused of that!
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3/1/2010 11:10:54 PM |
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lynmariesingle
Atlanta, GA
age: 60
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are you on line?
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3/1/2010 11:29:16 PM |
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pumpkinstar26
Rock Falls, IL
age: 27
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culture, I believe is the biggest problem. From what I see...our cultures are totally different.
BTW....just because you are not attracted to people of another race......that does not make you a bigot. I am not attracted to blondes, some may not be attracted to dark skin
"Our cultures" Who is "our" referring to?
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3/1/2010 11:55:32 PM |
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pretzelman59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 59
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figure it out!!
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3/2/2010 12:16:54 AM |
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noalco
Moberly, MO
age: 48
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i have for quite awhile now dated outside my race. But that is just sad that my choices in my life can stop me from dating someone! And i always speak my mind and dont tend to care how anyone feels about my life or my choices .
Clearly you do care, or this thread wouldn't have been started to complain about it.
You said it best, They were your choices.
Then you blame those around you that don't accept your choices.
Two old sayings come to mind.
1."Once you've had Black, you never go back."
That is because the majority of White guys won't want you after you have mixed.
This was a choice you made, so don't blame the White guys.
2. "you make your bed.. You sleep in it."
It is not different then me having tats.
some women look past them and want to date, some see them and almost run to get away.
But I don't blame the women that do not like tats, I am the one that chose to get them.
We all make choices, we all have to live with our choices and the consequences.
[Edited 3/2/2010 12:19:05 AM PST]
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3/2/2010 12:24:31 AM |
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xfrancisx
Attleboro, MA
age: 21
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I just preffer to stay with dating white people. no offense to any other race cuz i am far from prejiduce. i just think its wierd to date someone who is a different color. and again this is my own oppinion... my last girl friend i just broke up with i was her first white boy friend. but with her attitude and the way she thinks lol im prob her last white boy friend. but to each their own you wanna date someone a different race, be my guest. i just find white girls a hell of a lot more attractive than other races
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3/2/2010 12:37:08 AM |
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pretzelman59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 59
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. i just find white girls a hell of a lot more attractive than other races
Seems like a lot of guys agree with you. And not only white guys. I work in retail sales(I sell reptiles) and I believe I see more white women with black men than black women with black men. Just MY obsevation.
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3/2/2010 5:08:31 AM |
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i_am_bill
Astatula, FL
age: 50
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People are putting these threads up just to antagonize me aren't they? I mean really. Right?
Bill
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3/2/2010 5:25:35 AM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47
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I guess this sort of thing stays a topic instead of becoming a second thought because people keep posting about it.
........10 page threads where everyone is saying, "Why is it a big deal?"
I'm just sayin'.
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3/2/2010 5:30:43 AM |
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one_pot_peggy
Chandler Heights, AZ
age: 57
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ok i was talkin to this guy for awhile and he is white and so am i. But i have for quite awhile now dated outside my race. I just feel like i connect with black men better than i do white men. But he was steady hittin on me so i decided to give it an attempt. Then out of the blue the discussion about interracial dating came up. I was upfront and totally honest wit him about everything. I have no reason to hide it. And i always speak my mind and dont tend to care how anyone feels about my life or my choices or my choices in words. Well, he turns around and tells me that all white girls that date black guys are sl-ts and he is no longer interested in me cuz he does not wanna date someone out of his race let alone someone in his race that dated outside his race! Are you kidding me?!? Thats ok cuz i sure told him off and told him that i would prefer to date a black man anyway! I was just tryin to be nice and date him anyway. I always knew in the back of my mind it wouldn't work wit us. But that is just sad that my choices in my life can stop me from dating someone! But like i said no prob i will find a better man and i'm glad i didn't put no more time into datin him than i did!
I pretty sure his family had something to do with this. and influenced him. some families are very prejudice, sad but true. Don't put your eggs in one basket, don't worry about him, he just not worth it. Move on.
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3/2/2010 5:56:05 AM |
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submissivegirl
New Orleans, LA
age: 27
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well, let me just say one thing. I have NO type of racism in me honey! I am not only looking for black men. My children are white so obviously at some point i was dating a white man in fact i have dated quite a few. But i have just had alot of problems with them when i was dating them and so far i have been able to agree and match up better with the black men i have dated than with the white men i have dated. I dont look for anything specific just someone thats gonna treat me and my children like we deserve to be treated. Whats so wrong with that?
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3/2/2010 6:00:42 AM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47
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well, let me just say one thing. I have NO type of racism in me honey! I am not only looking for black men. My children are white so obviously at some point i was dating a white man in fact i have dated quite a few. But i have just had alot of problems with them when i was dating them and so far i have been able to agree and match up better with the black men i have dated than with the white men i have dated. I dont look for anything specific just someone thats gonna treat me and my children like we deserve to be treated. Whats so wrong with that?
I don't think anyone disagrees.
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3/2/2010 6:06:34 AM |
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submissivegirl
New Orleans, LA
age: 27
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Well thank you very much! First encouraging words i have heard for awhile now. and you are right it does have alot to do wit the family and how they are raised. Cuz to be honest my kids dad is VERY racist and his family. But i dont allow him to speak about it around our children. It's just very sad how people can teach their children such bad things!
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3/2/2010 6:07:04 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 62
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What was your point in posting this, OP? If you don't care, neither do we...
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3/2/2010 6:09:55 AM |
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i_am_bill
Astatula, FL
age: 50
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Here we go with the "announcing" again. I think you may be racist. Or you are angry.
When someone has to point out on a public forum or get on a pedestal and announce, "I date outside of my race" or feel the need to exclude in favor of another race then yes, you have an issue.
Everyone has preferences. But this goes beyond a preference. It is, "Hey,,look at me! I like black men!"
It is no different than a white person going on a forum or public pedestal and screaming, "I would never date a black person!!" Same thing. Except most people do not have enough anger and resentment to get up and do that,,it is rude. Even if that is their preference.
I think it is more of an anger or childhood issue than it is a racism thing, but the act or the public exclusion and proclaimed preference is a bit racist.
You're too involved in what you are doing to have an ability to see this unbiased or at least admit it.
But a good counselor would help.
Bill
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3/2/2010 6:19:53 AM |
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i_am_bill
Astatula, FL
age: 50
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And let me add as well, it's not very fair to the black men you date, since you have no ability to be truly connected with someone and are using them to make a point. That is the biggest thing wrong with this.
Bill
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3/2/2010 6:28:13 AM |
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becky_2010
Madison, MS
age: 41
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One word describes it.....Ignorance
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3/2/2010 6:31:22 AM |
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mplsrabbit
Minneapolis, MN
age: 54
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I have no problem with interracial dating and if my family didn't approve, too bad. It's my life and my happiness and I wouldn't allow them to have control over either. So if I was truly happy with a person of another ethnic group and they didn't like it then they could all eat shit
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3/2/2010 6:37:04 AM |
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lynn_f
Washington, DC
age: 42
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Variety of reasons.
1. Lack of physical attraction towards a different race.
2. Concerns about what friends and family would think.
3. Racist viewpoints.
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3/2/2010 6:57:05 AM |
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submissivegirl
New Orleans, LA
age: 27
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whats so antagonizing about someone living their lives the way they want to? Are you so insecure about yourself that people talking about this subject antagonizes you?
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3/2/2010 7:09:11 AM |
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submissivegirl
New Orleans, LA
age: 27
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so i just want to clarify that i am not racist toward any ethnicity. I just happened to end up dating that race. Is it wrong for someone to match up better with another race at the time? That does not mean that i would never date another race just that that is who i have related with better at that point and time! I think it's pure ignorance to think that i would be racist toward my own race when i have children with a white man! I just chose at the time to date who i wanted and always will date who i want. Whether that be white, black, or any other race that i am compatible with. It's not the race its the type of person they are! And also let me just say that the point was how racist was it to not date someone for their choices on their past dating experiences?!
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3/2/2010 8:26:20 AM |
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pretzelman59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 59
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Me thinks thou doth protest too much!!!! (or something like that)
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3/2/2010 7:22:08 PM |
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lynmariesingle
Atlanta, GA
age: 60
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Maybe you just pick the wrong person to date and it has noithing to do with race at all. Could you be treated just as bad by someone of your own race as you could be treated by someone of another race the answer is yes. Some people in the world are still living in the days of old, they have not grown in the mind and learned how to live on this earth as a family. You know I really doubt very much if Heaven is segregated or if God is prejudice. If he is then some of us are going where ?
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3/2/2010 7:48:53 PM |
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56valleygal
Woburn, MA
age: 26
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1."Once you've had Black, you never go back."
That is because the majority of White guys won't want you after you have mixed.
This was a choice you made, so don't blame the White guys.
They would be doing me a favor. I wouldn't be interested in dating a man with this type of attitude anyways. The race of men that I date doesn't change the type of person I am or my physical appearance.
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3/2/2010 7:54:03 PM |
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confusedfemale
New Orleans, LA
age: 26
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i wish people would just think about the moral of the whole thing here! Submissivegirl is my closest friend and i can tell everyone right now that she is FAR from prejudice in any way! Yall just read into her statements the way yall wanted to not the way she meant it to be!! And as far as her she has WHITE children! So she cant be racist that way and she dates mostly black men! No racism there either! So where do you get that she is racist? Back off! HER WHOLE POINT WAS THAT RACISM IS SO BAD IN SOME PEOPLE THAT THEY WONT EVEN DATE SOMEONE FROM THEIR OWN RACE THAT DATED OUTSIDE THEIR RACE! STOP TRYING TO DIS ON EVERYONE! MAYBE YOU ARE THE INSECURE RACIST ONES SINCE YOU ALWAYS SEEM TO POINT THE SHIT OUT!
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3/2/2010 7:58:52 PM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47
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Quote from confusedfemale:
i wish people would just think about the moral of the whole thing here! Submissivegirl is my closest friend and i can tell everyone right now that she is FAR from prejudice in any way! Yall just read into her statements the way yall wanted to not the way she meant it to be!! And as far as her she has WHITE children! So she cant be racist that way and she dates mostly black men! No racism there either! So where do you get that she is racist? Back off! HER WHOLE POINT WAS THAT RACISM IS SO BAD IN SOME PEOPLE THAT THEY WONT EVEN DATE SOMEONE FROM THEIR OWN RACE THAT DATED OUTSIDE THEIR RACE! STOP TRYING TO DIS ON EVERYONE! MAYBE YOU ARE THE INSECURE RACIST ONES SINCE YOU ALWAYS SEEM TO POINT THE SHIT OUT!
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No one is making an issue of race......well, maybe the OP and you.
Everyone agreed........what is your problem?
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3/2/2010 8:12:01 PM |
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confusedfemale
New Orleans, LA
age: 26
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apparently arkansasman you have not read all the posts on here! And i've seen several from you on several threads but you always seem to have something smart to say! Why dont you go try get a girl instead of harassin people on here you a--hole! And neither i or submissivegirl are making an issue out of racism besides the original issue at hand!
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3/2/2010 8:18:42 PM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47
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apparently arkansasman you have not read all the posts on here! And i've seen several from you on several threads but you always seem to have something smart to say! Why dont you go try get a girl instead of harassin people on here you a--hole! And neither i or submissivegirl are making an issue out of racism besides the original issue at hand!
Okay.....went back and read everything twice..........don't need another girl......got a good one...........and i'd just point out that the only issues of racism are the ones brought up by the OP.....and you (depending on which thread you are talking about).
People DON'T have an issue with dating outside one's race.........there are dozens of posts backing that up.
What's YOUR issue with keeping the stupid thread alive?
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3/3/2010 7:26:25 AM |
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one_pot_peggy
Chandler Heights, AZ
age: 57
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well, let me just say one thing. I have NO type of racism in me honey! I am not only looking for black men. My children are white so obviously at some point i was dating a white man in fact i have dated quite a few. But i have just had alot of problems with them when i was dating them and so far i have been able to agree and match up better with the black men i have dated than with the white men i have dated. I dont look for anything specific just someone thats gonna treat me and my children like we deserve to be treated. Whats so wrong with that?
Well Honey! No one said anything about you being racist. maybe you need to learn to read and understand what people are saying. His family may be racist and may have influenced him.
Just concentrate on your kids first they are more important than worrying about a man.
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3/3/2010 7:35:45 AM |
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oceandive
Atlanta, GA
age: 53
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i think there would be a lot more interracial relationships if it wasn't for the 'social' issues.....sad but so,,,,,still up and running in the south....negativity from society can play a large part in the decicion making process....i was born and raised with that KKK society...which absolutely has NO level of acceptance to me....so please don't stick me in the 'guilty by association' category...i'm just relaying my observations for the last 53 years.....if i went back home in my state with a black, asian or islamic partner....we'd both be shunned....but here...in atlanta....it is an everyday thing....i wouldn't think about it at all here,,,,,but in some other places....i wouldn't even entertain the idea......way to painful....and life gives us all enough of that already.......jmo.......
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3/3/2010 1:30:01 PM |
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sunnygal50
Viroqua, WI
age: 51
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I think you are thinking in the box, so to speak;
personally, I chose to date within the human race...
There are some people that won't be happy that you
have ever dated anyone before they came along. It
looks to me like he was maybe just looking for an
excuse,and you gave him one.
Sunny
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3/3/2010 1:50:03 PM |
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polgara28
Independence, KS
age: 41
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I sell reptiles
Well what do ya know, we have one thing in common...assuming you like the reptiles you sell. I love snakes, hots especially.
Sorry, just felt like hijacking.
Back to your regularly scheduled program.
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3/3/2010 1:57:05 PM |
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pandawilleatu
Seattle, WA
age: 25
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screw him. I was raised in a small town in texas. I grew up wondering why my friends hated onyone who wasnt white. I am a hillbillie to the core, but I dont hate some one for the color of their skin.
There are two things that are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, the universe I am not so sure about - Albert Einstine
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3/4/2010 9:26:01 AM |
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jimmmmm1022
Saint Louis, MO
age: 40
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Long as dat ho gots my munee I don kurr wut kulla dat ho iz.
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3/4/2010 9:26:09 AM |
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georgereborn
Muncy, PA
age: 33
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The problem is not so much about interacial its when interacial couples mix and produce children because then its the children who suffer from societies outlook on it.
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3/4/2010 9:30:28 AM |
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kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 50
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I refuse to date a man who cannot spell, use correct grammar, have an original thought or be bothered with stringing 2 intelligent sentences together.
On edit-- George--The children are the ones who suffer? What color is the sky in your world?
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3/4/2010 9:31:20 AM |
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jimmmmm1022
Saint Louis, MO
age: 40
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The problem is not so much about interacial its when interacial couples mix and produce children because then its the children who suffer from societies outlook on it.
Ain't no fucha in yo frontin' fool. Dim kizz betta ha my munee too.
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3/4/2010 9:36:05 AM |
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dreamcatcher00
Plainview, TX
age: 31
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maybe dey dont like gubment cheese,corn pone,chittlins,pigs feets and tripe........
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or they dont like potted meat, bologna, squirrels and raccoons......
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3/4/2010 9:38:23 AM |
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jimmmmm1022
Saint Louis, MO
age: 40
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I better quit before I actually piss someone off. My goofy humor has been known to get me into trouble.
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3/4/2010 9:38:37 AM |
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dreamcatcher00
Plainview, TX
age: 31
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how bout some of that there..... roasted raccoon.
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3/4/2010 9:41:17 AM |
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georgereborn
Muncy, PA
age: 33
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To the john cena Vanilla ice wannabe above do me a favor and talk white. And by the way the sky is blue in my world.
[Edited 3/4/2010 9:41:46 AM PST]
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3/4/2010 9:43:38 AM |
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kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 50
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Well if the sky is blue then the ground must be painted a multitude of colors. So sit up and notice that the world is no longer black and white.
[Edited 3/4/2010 9:46:28 AM PST]
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3/4/2010 9:46:23 AM |
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dreamcatcher00
Plainview, TX
age: 31
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[quoteheader]Quote from georgereborn:[/quoteheader][quote]To the john cena Vanilla ice wannabe above do me a favor and talk white. And by the way the sky is blue in my world.[/quote]
Ice Ice Baby - Vanilla Ice
Lil' Oso! | MySpace Video
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3/4/2010 9:47:55 AM |
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georgereborn
Muncy, PA
age: 33
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Its called reality kgearly learn it... know it... accept it
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3/4/2010 9:49:24 AM |
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kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 50
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I have six biracial Grandchildren and none of them are suffering.
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3/4/2010 9:49:53 AM |
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dreamcatcher00
Plainview, TX
age: 31
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Its called reality kgearly learn it... know it... accept it
curious
what is the reality that your talking bout?
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3/4/2010 9:51:10 AM |
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jimmmmm1022
Saint Louis, MO
age: 40
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To the john cena Vanilla ice wannabe above do me a favor and talk white. And by the way the sky is blue in my world.
Point taken' No offense intended.
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3/4/2010 9:52:23 AM |
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sleman462
South Weymouth, MA
age: 26
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i think if i love women (i mean real love i will never cheat her at all ) and there is no problems
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3/4/2010 9:52:36 AM |
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georgereborn
Muncy, PA
age: 33
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None suffering ? that you know of.
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3/4/2010 9:53:42 AM |
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dreamcatcher00
Plainview, TX
age: 31
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i think the ones suffering are the ones that actually have a problem with it.. not the other way around
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3/4/2010 9:53:45 AM |
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georgereborn
Muncy, PA
age: 33
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Their is another world outside of you peoples perception of what love and happiness should be based on.
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3/4/2010 9:58:26 AM |
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kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 50
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None suffering ? that you know of.
I also have 2 plain old white ones, and they are all about the same--children who are loved by all who know them. I believe it was Dennis Leary who said, Children are not born racists they are taught, I have a 2 year old and you know what he hates? Naps.
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3/4/2010 9:58:47 AM |
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sleman462
South Weymouth, MA
age: 26
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life without love i think it's mean nothing to me
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3/4/2010 10:00:11 AM |
What are peoples true problems wit interracial dating?!? |
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justice4alll
Still Pond, MD
age: 47
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dating site
therapy site
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3/4/2010 10:00:37 AM |
What are peoples true problems wit interracial dating?!? |
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dreamcatcher00
Plainview, TX
age: 31
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i think the ones suffering are the ones that actually have a problem with it.. not the other way around
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