| 1/8/2008 5:55:30 PM |
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letmesootheu
Newport News, VA
age: 57
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  When you (it was a rhetorical question) have broken up with someone, what coping strategies have you used? Which were effective? which were ineffective? 
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| 1/8/2008 5:59:46 PM |
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iloveboxers
Kernersville, NC
age: 41
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my coping strategy is being right here. it keeps me occupied and keeps my mind from thinking about him all the time. other times i stay busy, don't let myself lapse into idle time. and take it one hour at a time. its hard i know, but this is just a stepping stone in your life. you will move to bigger and BETTER things. if you need to talk, email me, i will listen, just like a lot of people on here listened to me when i was at my lowest.
j/k---but the xanax the doc gave helped a little too.
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| 1/8/2008 6:04:24 PM |
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drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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i agree with ilove. as silly as some of us can get at times( ). there are some good people on this site, who have given out great advice and guidance. best of luck to you.
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| 1/8/2008 6:09:17 PM |
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iloveboxers
Kernersville, NC
age: 41
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hey drummr
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| 1/8/2008 6:21:27 PM |
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homegirl1970
Red Creek, NY
age: 38
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I stayed drunk for a week and got a tattoo..
Thats what not to do
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| 1/8/2008 6:25:52 PM |
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winesong
Bend, OR
age: 88
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I have heard of several things...one is kinda funny...
*You will feel better when you have a new person under you, and next to you....*
So... feel good about yourself, keep your health glowing. We can do little if anything,
if we are sick, or mentally unhealthy. We cannot be toxic to ourselves and attract goodness. Good people and good ideas attract each other.
They say time heals all...(it is not the time passing)
..It is what you do with your time,
while it is passing. Establish your personal affirmations. (they begin with *I AM*)
Your sub sonscious mind does not know the difference. BE the person you expect to be in the future, in your heart and mind today.
Stay here in DH conversations, it is a very good start.
Wine
Dream Weaver
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| 1/8/2008 6:30:47 PM |
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dbsuma
Lakewood, OH
age: 40
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I generally wallow in self pity.
Either that or I'm thankful I finally got away from that crazy broad.
But best bet is to find somebody else soon as possible.
Guys never get over the last girl till the break up with the next girl,
so find somebody else to break up with and be pissed off at.
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| 1/8/2008 6:36:16 PM |
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justlooking630
West New York, NJ
age: 48
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Winesong excellently said and very wise ...very good advice , positive thinking.
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| 1/8/2008 6:44:14 PM |
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peregrina
Lumberton, NC
age: 52
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geeeeeeeeeeeez DB, is that so...... ..... well people, let me tell you, it doesn't matter what you do......... it hurts like hell....... and worst of it you can't think anything else....... just get in the cacoon and have a self pitty party....anybody wants to join?
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| 1/8/2008 8:41:51 PM |
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thatcher
Jacksonville, FL
age: 38
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you do the same to to other people Its called Karma
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| 1/8/2008 9:41:59 PM |
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silver_rain1011
Springfield, VA
age: 22
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Sever all contact. Everything they told you, use to making yourself feel better. An example, when a boyfriend broke up with me, I remembered he said he'd never date a girl with a tattoo... so guess what I did? Yep, I got a tattoo as a sort of "in your face, asshole" motion. Don't mope around and beg them to come back... show them you are better off (because you are) and you are happier without them. Change your looks a bit (women will typically dye their hair, get a drastically different hair cut, or buy a sexy outfit) for a boost of self-confidence. Go out and strut your stuff!
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| 1/8/2008 9:44:58 PM |
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whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 51
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got rid of the gun
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| 1/9/2008 3:15:42 AM |
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letmesootheu
Newport News, VA
age: 57
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My advice would be,spend time with your friends; share your feelings with them. They care. Do things that you like; be kind to yourself. Don't go sleep with the first man or woman that you meet all it does is make the pain worse and if makes the other person feel used.
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| 1/9/2008 1:52:53 PM |
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letmesootheu
Newport News, VA
age: 57
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I know there is more people out here that has had a bad break-up feel free to share. I'm not going through that I would like to read your story. This is good therapy!!
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| 1/10/2008 4:26:05 AM |
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princess67
Whitinsville, MA
age: 40
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After a painful break up, my suggestion is to find YOU again, take your time, be with your children, and your friends. Do NOT rush into another relationship that you are not ready for. Pamper yourself, find out what it is that you like and dislike, because we all know, when in a relationship, we lose sight of what it is that is good for us. The last thing I would do is go to a bar or a club, drink way too much, and take someone home! Bad Move!! Nothing worse than waking up in the AM, and praying for the person next to you to GET OUT!!
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