| 1/14/2008 9:01:00 PM |
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sarabella
Anderson, SC
age: 19
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can someone please tell me why guys change after the 1st phone call? you meet them online or somewhere...and in the first phone call they seem great say the right things... whatever it may be...but then either the next phone call or the 3rd they change..their rude, demending nothing like they were at first..y? not saying all guys are like this...but why do most guys do this..i dont understand...why not show your true colors from the start.????
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| 1/14/2008 10:14:31 PM |
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cjbaker
Decatur, AL
age: 38
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I don't know about that guy that changed on you... not sure why, and can't make an excuse for others. I have caught people in bad moods though, especially my sister.. lol. But I stay the same... always respectful and calm.
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| 1/14/2008 10:21:19 PM |
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jmr44
Zion, IL
age: 44
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<---- doesnt make phone calls till we been talking for several weeks....
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| 1/14/2008 10:25:21 PM |
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kellyleed
Sumter, SC
age: 35
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The guy that I have been talking to has always been great on the
phone and we have talked for over four months
Maybe it depends on how often you are calling them and if they are busy 
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| 1/14/2008 10:26:03 PM |
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markmeunier
Timmins, ON
age: 40
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I had to change after the first phone call because her voice was so angelic I made a mess in my shorts. Seriously, the only change I make is in comfort and receptivity. Once the initial contact is secured I wish to expand upon all the things that are me and her and seek our common ground. The basics of human interaction without lies and fabrications because lies always fade in the morning dawn like the shadows of which they were spawned.
If a man or woman changes it is because they have problems they cannot relinquish and perhaps it is a warning of their duplicity or self-hatred. Be careful of those who wear many faces for you never know how many they have, or where they have been and worst of all, what they desire.
Here is something I wrote for a friend suffering from the disease of lying...
Lies
Lies are the substance by which we as people create the bastions and ramparts of the fortresses, which unnecessarily 'protect' us from the world around us. Each lie we tell requires more and more lies to substantiate the ideal. When this twisted skein is applied to those around us they require as much work to maintain as another entire life. Eventually the person birthing these fictitious views is so overwhelmed by the pressures of this new 'life' that they lose their original one. By now so much effort and constant work has been applied to the fortress of illusion that we live in, that we cannot abide the loss of our life's great work, when it begins to crumble as it inevitably will. First one crossed wire in the web, then another, then the panic stricken frenzy of trying to realign the 'truths'. The multitude of bandages applied to the castle can no longer support the fragile foundation and the keep comes crumbling down. Despair sets in as the 'life' created falls to pieces despite the most valiant attempts to rebuild the crumbling edifice. This despair is no less real than any other despair, because even though the fictional house of cards we applied as our front to the world was never really there, the resources required to create it were real nonetheless. Now the person has a choice to abandon the fraudulent for reality. Human nature and the pride associated with it, make a subtle attempt to assure the person that they can do better next time, after all if at first you do not succeed, try, try again. The truly wise abandon the course of deceit, but then again life is all but over when the true course of wisdom arrives at one's doorstep. Most often the repentant learn a few new tricks to the art of misconstruction, and sets sail for new lands in which to build glass houses more resistant to the stones of truth. If this is the course chosen, as is sadly to be expected of most, the person gradually becomes a shadow of their former self as the energy allotted to a person's life divided by two (or more) makes each fragment not truly whole in any way. The whole person has a fair chance of living life to its fullest, the fragmented, none at all. The liar ends up with nothing, but the sands of their ‘lives’, which slip constantly between fingers, made of frail shadow. The only means to the end of such despair is the creation of yet more illusions, to the point of the loss of the liar to all who once knew them. A burden the liar never intended for themselves in the first place nor the loss they envisioned for the living they leave behind. A very lonely sort of wasting created by the grey lies that burn in the light of truth at every dawn.
Just a few thoughts to express my feelings about lies.
Mark
[Edited 1/15/2008 2:05:06 AM]
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| 1/14/2008 11:18:01 PM |
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kegleaves
Mount Juliet, TN
age: 29
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If someone cant be honest about things up front they arent worth the time and energy
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| 1/14/2008 11:21:51 PM |
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mezentiangate
Fairplay, CO
age: 55
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i think if she would call i'll be so much in the here and now to do much creative thinking, story-wise,
and like a good lawyer, ya fire the questions bang bang bang and don't give 'em time to think
and besides if i wanna get real with her, why lie?
so let me get back to after a week or two of calls, and we'll see how much my BS meter is registering it's running now, still at....?
 but to answer, it is probably cuz the guy wants off the hook, he's in too deep and knows it, wants to shout 'help' but doesn't want anyone to hear him, especially the woman
 
[Edited 1/15/2008 5:51:26 AM]
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| 1/15/2008 9:14:11 AM |
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winesong
Bend, OR
age: 60
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Age would be one factor. Maybe he is insecure, we do not know the age of the caller.
Next time he is more brave...and was expecting to *be sexy* on the phone, and
he did not get what he wanted...so he threw a tantrum. childish...
Many ideas...only you know what you said. Just be yourself and click when the
conversation takes a wrong turn.
Myself, I like to talk to someone rather than waste two weeks of email.
Talking is fun and opens a door or NOT.
Wine
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| 1/15/2008 9:16:56 AM |
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sdcentaur
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 47
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I could ask that same exact question about women Sarabella.
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| 1/15/2008 10:00:53 AM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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some women change after the first call also, or better yet, some give guys the wrong number so there isn't even a first call or give out a number and never answer or return messages. it goes both ways. it all depends on who you meet.
it's called playing games. some tolerate it, others like me don't
[Edited 1/15/2008 10:03:40 AM]
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| 1/15/2008 5:16:19 PM |
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mezentiangate
Fairplay, CO
age: 55
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You're right on , BestMan, some say they want to call and don't, some say call me tonight and then an hour later they've blocked your e-mail and yeah I get the hint, but what?
.. we could analyze ad nauseum but there is too much goin' on here to play games with each other.. just like real life..
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| 1/15/2008 6:31:11 PM |
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mrfree
Asheboro, NC
age: 41
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a lady give me her # online one night I thought we were really bonding the number was her husband she had been seperated from a couple of weeks that did not go over good at all 
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| 1/15/2008 7:09:24 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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exactly mez - and some of these women constantly ask, "where are the good men at?" well, perhaps it was the guy you ignored
see what i'm talking about mrfree? there are so many reasons why they do that
1. ego boost
2. they already have a man
3. they like attention and and gratification by men sweating them but that's it, they have no desire to talk to some men because they already have one and or dating multiple guys, the new guy would never know until she gives him the same treatment
4. simply like to tease and play games, yet don't want game to be played on them
the tricky catch here is that KARMA is a mutha and usually these women sometimes get played at their own game and are back to square one after they got dissed in a relation.
[Edited 1/15/2008 7:14:07 PM]
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