bouquet
Temecula, CA
age: 62
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Ferrari ~ dail-up ~ you are one smart man !!!
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cherokeerose07
Pottsboro, TX
age: 48
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Better to be safe and protect your heart than be very sorry, takes a long time to get over things if you ever really do
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
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We're gonna use Cassie as an example. I apologize for any Cassies on here
SIX-STEP EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY ACTION PLAN:
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1. BEGIN BY GIVING HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT.
Some men truly don't recognize that their friendships with women
cross over into inappropriateness.
2. EXPLAIN YOUR FEELINGS.
Try saying something like, "I love the relationship that we have
and I trust YOU, but I am uncomfortable with how close you are
to Cassie."
3. CLARIFY THAT IT'S NOT THE MOTIVE, IT'S THE BEHAVIOR.
Your boyfriend may truly see nothing wrong with his special
friendship, especially if he truly has no romantic feelings
toward her. Explain calmly that his motives behind the
friendship are not in question, but that his behavior (spending
one-on-one time with her, confiding in one another, not
integrating you into the friendship) is inappropriate for
someone in a committed relationship and it needs to change.
4. SET SPECIFIC BOUNDARIES.
Let your boyfriend know, in no uncertain terms, what you are and
are not comfortable with. For example, "I'd prefer that you and
Cassie not spend time alone, but I'd be happy to go out as a
group."
5. GET PROACTIVE ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
Show your boyfriend that he doesn't need to look to another
woman to get his emotional needs met. You can do this by
demonstrating more of an interest in his life. For example,
instead of just saying, "Hi honey, how was your day," try
getting more specific, "So...tell me about the big client pitch
today!"
6. RESPECT YOURSELF ENOUGH TO FOLLOW THROUGH IF HE DOESN'T
RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES.
If your boyfriend violates the boundaries that you set (or
refuses to agree to them in the first place), break off the
relationship. He can't have his cake and eat it too, and you
deserve to be with a man who will make you the #1 woman in his
life... NO CONTEST.
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