1/16/2008 9:55:18 AM |
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ks51
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 51
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had a gentleman ask me what I was looking for in a relationship and a man. I was surprised...and then...surprised that I was feeling surprised that I had been asked these questions. Realized...I haven't been asked these questions since coming on board here. And I have spoken with a number of you. Mostly, I think I had forgotten my original reasons for joining DU, cuz I had been having so much fun getting to know some of the characters on here. So I thought and pondered awhile before answering him. I found I turned the questions into a "things I miss" list.
I miss having a best friend. I miss the laughter and fun. I miss the male perspective on life. The companionship of a man. The sharing/caring. Being on a similar page intellectually and spiritually. The walking and holding hands. A man's strong arms. The snuggling. (I know I'm missing one or two that I had included....but I'm too lazy this morning to go back and look. hee hee)
So what do you think? Is having a "missing things" list as good as "what I'm looking for" list? Dang it all....my life is nuthin but lists. (oh wait....I think there was another thread on "making lists".)
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1/16/2008 10:06:43 AM |
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lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 55
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ks..yep another list for you I know I replied to this question before in this group..and my initial list was "What I don't want"..let's face it, we are not naive young teenagers here..by this age, we know what will work for us, what won't. I was once asked the same thing on a first date...and it totally turned me off to the person. What ever happened to just learning about each other over time spent together. If I feel I am being interviewed...it will be the last time I see that person I would never dream of asking a man a question like that when we first met..ever, never.
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1/17/2008 8:50:47 AM |
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ks51
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 51
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hee hee hee Lotus; I guess I can still be a bit naive. First question he'd asked was "do you have a little cougar in you?" I have since been educated on the term. I decided I didn't want to know any more, what the "conditions" were of being a cougar. Dang....thought it was just a big cat.
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1/17/2008 8:59:37 AM |
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barbb6042
Bolivar, NY
age: 65
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I think I like the what I am missing list better than the what do I want list....I have to say I miss all those things you listed also...
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1/17/2008 9:02:39 AM |
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sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 55
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your profile is a resume on any site then say these things in it as your thread states: I miss having a best friend. I miss the laughter and fun. I miss the male perspective on life. The companionship of a man. The sharing/caring. Being on a similar page intellectually and spiritually. The walking and holding hands. A man's strong arms. The snuggling.
Men and women respond to past experiences as when you questioned: what are you looking for in a relationship so time isn't wasted in the long run and if the question has a certain answer you escape and move on to the next interest
when a man or a woman reacts to any profile--geography comes first here esp on this site and we're all here to avoid lonliness and boredom --as if we are in the bullpen waiting to get into the game here by what seems to match all of our taste buds: supposedly one man or woman for us all--this site is probably not for that and more about georgraphy or any counter to geography or is it for a gang of bandwagon people either when they post--
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1/17/2008 9:03:44 AM |
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burnedonce
Duncan, OK
age: 67
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Ks, better to be a cougar than a "leopard". ha ha
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1/17/2008 9:10:21 AM |
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ks51
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 51
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Sorp; Ya kinda make it sound like "speed dating". lol
Burn; Love your humor lady.
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1/17/2008 1:05:46 PM |
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lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 55
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Dang, just when I think I have learned a thing or two about dating..I get thrown a new term...Cougar...a new one for me...please enlighten me Ks..if it is too risque, send me an email...I want to be prepared
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1/17/2008 1:10:26 PM |
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annazzassi
Newport News, VA
age: 57
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could you email me too - i'm totally in the dark on that term.
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1/17/2008 1:14:35 PM |
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sugahsouth
Lake City, TN
age: 60
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Ya'll are gonna die........
You probably know from somewhere in these threads that I am having extensive work done on my house......for several reasons, including for June. So, I have a lot of contractors here. They vary in age from 31 to 40.
Day before yesterday they were gathered round my game table in basement and I was on the computer. All of a sudden one kinda sexy shaved bald about 35ish told me I need a man. I agreed...innocently. He said you're a cougar huh? Then, the light bulbs went on. I turned and said.....was that a proposition? In front of all of them, he said....yeah.
We had to shop at Lowe's yesterday and he made sure to stay with me......and catered to me. Oh my my....I had an appt and went to it while they came back here. Later that evening one of them called me and said......I hope you are a "cougar" hon. Cause that guy waited for you to come back.... OMG. Be a COUGAR K!!!!!! PS....guess now I'll have to get dressed before they arrive in the morning?
[Edited 1/17/2008 1:15:59 PM]
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1/17/2008 1:25:23 PM |
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barbb6042
Bolivar, NY
age: 65
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OH WOW sugah..You got him going.......
Sorry off topic
I remember I did ask a gentelman that question one time.What are you looking for in a relationship....He answered a woman.... Thats me....
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1/17/2008 1:25:45 PM |
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annazzassi
Newport News, VA
age: 57
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when in doubt... search
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships#Slang_terms
(see 3rd bullet)
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1/17/2008 1:50:29 PM |
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lotus3
Venice, FL
age: 55
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Anna...thank you...now I am prepared!!
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1/17/2008 2:05:46 PM |
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hotpockets
Maple Shade, NJ
age: 53 online now!
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I miss...
Sharing the bathroom and laughing
A kiss on the back of the neck and a squeeze when I least expect it
Great conversations
Dancing to a simple song and being silly
Walking in the snow holding hands
Snuggling on the couch with a good movie
The tingle when he calls
The smell of a man after a shower
sex
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1/17/2008 2:32:10 PM |
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agent05949
Greenville, MI
age: 57
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Raking leaves together....washing a car together, periodically spraying one another or rolling in the leaves, a LOT of simple things to be missed.
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