| 2/5/2008 2:17:51 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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chooseyme
Mohawk, NY
age: 65
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weaim...
your reaction is exactly what I was saying...it was an introspective question....one day I think, ok I am looking for someone, the next time my heartbeats, no I am not...
I was asking how others thought....were we looking, at this point, for friends or a love....
it get's all confused doesn't it????
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| 2/5/2008 3:49:16 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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bigheart51
Albany, NY
age: 56
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I lost my 43 year old husband to a sudden death in 1991. I was 39. I met a soulmate about 6 years ago. There were some issues, including that we were 800 miles apart. We have kept in close touch; he has had extremely bad health for a few years, and is always winding up in the hospital. So, we have not "dated" for some time, but my heart still belongs to him. I heard from a member of his family that he went on a ventilator 2 nights ago. He has had a lot of medical miracles occur, but maybe his body cannot handle any more.
I have started the grieving cycle, and it hurts so much. I wonder if I will ever want to get close to anyone again. Can I assume this is a fear we all have? Get close to someone, and outlive them? Have to go through the pain again?
PS reading this post has helped me catch my breath here. It is a human experience, not a bigheart51 experience.
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| 2/5/2008 4:12:31 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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weaimtoplease
Donalsonville, GA
age: 59
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Choosey -Unfortunately, I have alot of issues that others in this group don't so that may be why I answered as I did.
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| 2/6/2008 9:50:11 AM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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chooseyme
Mohawk, NY
age: 65
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weaim...
think we all have issuses....I am a good listner,,,,if email would help...please do, maybe we have some of the same...
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| 2/18/2008 6:12:30 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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hess53
Elmwood, IL
age: 55
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lost mine in 1999 of liver cancer,
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| 2/18/2008 7:53:05 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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laceyrae
Portage, WI
age: 53
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Lost hubby Jan. 16 2006.........married him 2 weeks after I turned 16.
Don`t know how to be alone and am not doing too good at it .
 Good luck to you all my heart goes out to you .
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| 2/18/2008 7:59:53 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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xjayx19
Gainesville, TX
age: 63
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Lost my wife of 37years Oct 2007. Also lost my dad, older brother and an uncle in less than two years. Feeling kind of lost and trying to find my way.
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| 2/20/2008 4:11:45 AM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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chooseyme
Mohawk, NY
age: 65
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xjay...
you have truly had a very hard time....give you credit for being able to express it...I hope as time goes by you will be having a better time....and you will see the future you have, and I am sure you do...
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| 2/22/2008 12:02:05 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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derrlake
Royersford, PA
age: 61
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lost my wife to cancer in 2001. ruff at first she taught me one thing. life is to short not to enjoy.
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| 2/22/2008 12:16:51 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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chooseyme
Mohawk, NY
age: 65
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and I will be she did it lovingly....a great gift.....lucky man.....and her wishes that you move on.....again, a lucky man you
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| 2/22/2008 12:30:29 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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familyguy58103
Los Angeles, CA
age: 88
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I won't be 50 until this fall, but techincally, I am eligible for the 50's group 
I lost my wife of almost 26 years a little less than a year ago. She lost a hard fought 4 year battle with breast cancer that spread gradually. She spent our whole married life teaching me have to live right, and at the end she taught me a whole lot about how a person should die. 
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| 2/24/2008 9:19:52 AM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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catsmeow13
Elgin, TX
age: 62
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The love of my life and my soul mate died of lung cancer last June. He thought he had bronchitis! he had never even been in a hospital before! It was very fast. We nearly made it to 30 years of a perfect marriage. I have so many happy memories, but being alone is sure not fun. I have never even dated since high school. Hoping I find someone to share the rest of my life with- but if not- I had the best love there ever was.
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| 2/25/2008 12:00:06 AM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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thegronk
Rimersburg, PA
age: 57
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lost my wife and kids mom from a brain anurism in 01. she was 42.
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| 2/25/2008 8:16:58 AM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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chooseyme
Mohawk, NY
age: 65
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my second husband lost his first wife the same way....she had just turned 50....sorry.
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| 2/26/2008 5:23:27 PM |
Men over 50 that has lost your spouse of cancer etc. |
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birdieanne
Woodstock, GA
age: 61
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So many of you have lost spouses to cancer. It is such a terrible disease. I also lost my husband of 28 yrs. to lung cancer, but I have vowed that I will not dwell on the past but look towards the future and enjoy each day that I have. Life is just to short and I am thankful for each and every day. There are so many wonderful people looking for a friend or companionship.
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