| 1/23/2008 1:17:46 AM |
Why do couples break up over stupid things? |
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sunbeachflower
Suffolk, VA
age: 38
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You meet someone for the first time , you both are head over heels for one another.You go out for several months. Everything seems so fine.You meet each others family by this time you become closer.By this time in your mind they are the one.The holidays are fast approaching you can't wait to give him that big gift that you got him.You call him to find out what time he's coming over. He replies " in about twenty minutes." Finally after about an hour he still doesn't come.He all ready know you have to work.So you call him again he says " he's coming." It's now 6:55pm you called him at 5pm. You leave for work at 7pm. He's now coming over. His excuse he was held up in traffic. It was thanksgiving day there were no traffic on the road that time of day.Everyone was where they were for dinner. What a horses ass. We broke up over that.  :
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| 1/23/2008 1:24:16 AM |
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collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
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Trust is the main ingredient for the recipe of love. Without trust tou might as well be single. Follow your instints like you did. If it were you acting that way to him how would he have reacted or felt? I think you did the right thing, if he wanted it to work he probably would of tried to get past that one instance. JMO
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| 1/23/2008 1:24:34 AM |
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lonealways
Great Falls, MT
age: 32
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Honestly I'd be very angry over that and it probably would be a red flag to me about wtf and why can't he just tell the truth. Thats not really something small something small would be if you broke up because he did arrive and wasn't wearing the right type of clothing for the occasion or you broke up because he was half an hour late. Men live on their own time zone so we have to expect them to be a little late. But your story is at least IMO serious enough to break up over 1. He made a promise and didn't live up to his own words. 2. He flat out lied to you about why he didn't show up?? 3. Had it been as important to him as to you he would have been there. Sorry about your break up though.
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| 1/23/2008 4:19:42 AM |
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irparis39
New York, NY
age: 48
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It is stupid, but I guess it would depend on where you live. I live in NYC and on Thanksgiving day depending on where he was coming from, duh...he would be stuck in traffic, even if he left early enough, at times it wouldn't matter...around the times you wrote, no one here would drive in that time slot, holiday or no, its still peak times for us. We all know its stupid, but we don't seem to process that info very well, there no parking places, traffic like crazy and if you're coming in from Jersey, like my cousin and her family, well...lets just say you would have to be an arse to think the tunnels/bridges are there for your convenience. They are not the easiest to cross even without a holiday.
As I said, it would depend.
Paris
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| 1/23/2008 5:12:13 AM |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
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I'd naturally think he was spending time with someone else and would get to me when he got away. lol Maybe been burnt one time too many? I'd have dumped him.
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| 1/23/2008 2:53:43 PM |
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bubbadt
Kennedy, NY
age: 66
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cause their stupid.
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| 1/23/2008 3:48:54 PM |
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lawrence084
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
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What did he do between 5 between 7. Was it a case of him being lazy? To me it sound pretty harsh.
Thankgiving Day...Sounds like a good chance he stopped by his people place and couldn't break away as fast as you would have liked him too.
Yes...he should have spoke up whatever the case maybe...But breaking up with a guy you really like seem a little much. Maybe if you weren't doing backflip over him I could understand. A lot of guys including myself have done worse things than showing up late for an hour or two of alone time.
He showed up. That is the point, and something you can work on. Not showing when he says he on his way...Now that might be enough for a break up...
JMO
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| 1/23/2008 3:56:08 PM |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25 online now!
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Hey Sun Beach..
People don't usally break up over little things, it's usally something much larger. For example: You can't get over the fact that your boyfriend kissed a girl when he was drunk at the bar. You tell yourself you are over it, you've told him you are over it, but the fact is. You're not. Now all of the sudden all the little things become bigger problems. Sometimes people break up or get divorced over what they called little things. People tend to be blind and don't mind to focus on the actual problem. Lack of communication will destroy a relationship. To be honest I don't know your situation, but I'm willing to bet there is a bigger problem than being late on Thanksgiving , on either your side, or his.
Good Luck..
[Edited 1/23/2008 3:56:58 PM]
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| 1/23/2008 6:01:47 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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what would be a smart thing to break up over?
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| 1/23/2008 6:40:38 PM |
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lawrence084
Honolulu, HI
age: 41
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There is not enough disk space to list all the possible answer to that question.
1) In Love with their Ex.
2) Always borrowing money and never paying back.
3) Never going out. Lazyiness
4) No romance what-so-ever
5) Flirts too much with other people
6) Drinks too much
7) Never time for you
8) Lack of communication. Talks last 5 minutes then fade away fast.
9) No Patience
10) Momma Boy
There ten good reasons.
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| 1/23/2008 6:49:35 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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I'm with lonealways and garnetlady. Why lie??? Like saying I don't want to be there at that function. I think he was visiting someone to whom he did not want you to know about. Sorry it took something like that to end it. Here's a  for you.
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| 1/23/2008 7:01:56 PM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
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Hey SunBeach,
That wasn't a stupid reason to break up. They guy blew it. He could have called you and let you know he was going to be late. He didn't. I think you did the right thing.
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| 1/28/2008 12:35:07 AM |
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mrnyceguy
Glen Allen, VA
age: 37
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I thank that the basterd ia a lamo drop him like last week news did I say thatIdid I did say dat
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| 1/28/2008 5:41:25 AM |
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sidman
Grand Junction, CO
age: 30
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I might be a little late when going places with someone I am dating, however, I would not say traffic I would say some thing like this, Well, I wanted to look my best for you I know how special this is too you. Also I would try to plan on spending time with someone on the days I can spend the most time with her.
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| 1/28/2008 6:02:41 AM |
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sweetma56
Magna, UT
age: 51
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is lying to someone a stupid thing? there are so many reasons to break up with someone else.
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