| 1/23/2008 3:43:02 PM |
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shanomac08
Owosso, MI
age: 19
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how do u tell someone that u want to marry them but u dont got a ring to put on there finger. im not to stable rite now, i want to ask the question but want to stay ingaged untill i got a better job. i love her, she loves me, we talk about marrage. But i got 3000 saved up for a ring and i want to ask them. but dont want to make the ingagement so long.
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| 1/23/2008 4:07:29 PM |
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sweetpea40
Mexico, MO
age: 40
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Okay, you have $3000 saved for a ring and that's not enough????......I would think if you love each other and with being so young you could find something suitable for less then that. Then when you get on your feet with a better job, you two have been together for awhile maybe check into getting a different set. It's not the size of the diamond or the cost of the ring that makes a marriage, it's the hard work put into living your life everyday with that one special person you just can't picture yourself being without.......
JMO I wish you both luck in your relationship and the best of everything in your life together.
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| 1/23/2008 4:10:39 PM |
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thejewel80
Stewart, MN
age: 45
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sweetpea I total agree. Why does it always have to be about the money? It shouldnt matter what it costs. 3-4 hundred or even less. Its about the love not the ring!!
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| 1/23/2008 4:17:09 PM |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25
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Hi Shan...
I am going to tell you what you don't want to hear, but listen up. If you aren't stable right now then you are not ready for marriage. Part of your job is being able to support the ones you love. I know you love her and love does crazy things. One of the leading causes for divorce is finacial issues. If you have them before your marrige that isn't a good start. Marriage is a lot more than love. I know a lot of people get married on the fly because of love, but the divorce rate is high, don't forget. My suggestion, you love her so go get things in order. Show her you are doing it and when you feel 100%, ask her. Right now you don't feel a 100% which is why this thread is up.
Good Luck Buddy.
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| 1/23/2008 4:21:04 PM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 25
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take your time! if it is true love then you can both wait! when the moment is right.. it will all fall into place!
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| 1/23/2008 4:24:00 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
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very good point,gooddude...you have your head together on this one! I agree that finances can make or break even the best of marriages..and that's sad to say but just is reality.
You don't need to spend a fortune on a ring, but you do have to have your "ducks in a row"...Continue to date, talk about marriage but start making more definate steps towards that goal..job, place to live, transportation, bills, ect..are all a part of living and being married. You want to make sure that you can go into this marriage with a little more solid ground underneath you!
Stop dreaming and start making steps towards acheiving your dream.
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| 1/23/2008 4:26:23 PM |
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soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 39
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If you plan on spending the rest of your life with someone then what will it hurt to wait a little while? A year or two compared to 40 is really not that long...
xCAJUNx
Miss you too Arreis! Hugs to you! Hope all is well with you!
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| 1/23/2008 4:29:11 PM |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 46
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soulcrazy.....not sure witch you are (pun intended) .. miss, you both
oh sure, i can edit too.....cajun.
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| 1/23/2008 5:19:59 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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wait one minute!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Son - what kind of girl are you marrying who needs MORE than a $3,000 ring?
This is NOT what matters and if it is - don't marry her!
Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jeez,
  
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| 1/23/2008 5:36:23 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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19 and worrying about a 3k ring with your woman. 
you have more worries before you even get engaged. not a good recipe 
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| 1/23/2008 5:48:13 PM |
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tnquality
Union City, TN
age: 33
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wait wait wait!!!!!!!!until you mature to 25 or 27 or whatever.3000 on a ring! my husbands never did that for me but you have to be stable trust me good luck.
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| 1/23/2008 5:49:52 PM |
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elfiegirl
Port Charlotte, FL
age: 54
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You don't know me and probably don't want to read this,
I'm only 53 so what the heck do I know? Right? So here goes...
If you can...get an education...get a Bachelor's degree and DO
something with your life...FIRST...why you ask? Because it takes
ALOT of money to get married and start a family. Inflation alone
will eat you two up! Then you'll be divorced before you know it,
and you will then be paying child support (if you two have a child)
plus your own living expenses.
Lack of money will have you at each others throats soon enough. Keep
saving that money and THINK...with a few more thousand, you could make
a nice down payment on a house! You can't live in a "ring."
I say go to college and DO something better for your life. There is
NO replacement for a good education. Plus you will have a better
future. Maybe a technical school like ITT Tech...they concentrate
on what you need to know to have a GOOD future and can get help you
get loans, grants, and scholarships. Life is too short...don't hurry
into marriage and blow your future in the process! JMO
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| 1/23/2008 5:52:28 PM |
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thunderbirdchic
Sikeston, MO
age: 24
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I don't think you need a ring to propose, some girls are shallow like that, but alot aren't, most would understand, or at least girls like me would
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| 1/23/2008 7:32:41 PM |
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stormilove
Norman Park, GA
age: 46
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Seriously why spend that much on a ring. You are going to need so much when you get married deposits for apt or down payment for house. Deposits for utilities and furniture and so much more. Don't spend that much on a ring. A few hundred should be enough if not she is way to costly for you being at such a young age.
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| 1/23/2008 8:10:01 PM |
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pleasurepirate
Shreveport, LA
age: 47
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you're f*ckin nineteen, dude!
take your time and get yourself together first. get some earning skills so you can take care of her and a family! it's not all about the ring. it's all about being able to build a life together. she may love you, but wenches have a security gland. it's not in the medical books, but trust me, it's there. if she's got her head on straight, she's really thinking about the life you'll make together a lot more than a ring. if she's all about the ring, you better back up and reevaluate. jmo.
the captain got in too big hurry many years ago. big mistake for both of us.
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