| 1/23/2008 10:29:46 PM |
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sidman
Grand Junction, CO
age: 30
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Ah, this is interesting, but I got a delima. How can I get this girl as a gf if I don't know here vary well, I want to let her know I am interested in her now, but I don't want to come on too strong, I want her to know that when she is ready for a boyfriend that I would be the first one she would go to... If I tell her I like her too soon, I might scare her off. If I wait til I get to know her some other guy will get her...
So i am damned if I don't and I am damned if I do.
hmm I know she don't have a boyfriend because she hasn't been living in this city long enough to get one. I need to get her attention first before someone else gets her. I want first shot at her....
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| 1/23/2008 11:25:54 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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EASY! Ask her out on a date. I wish I had your problems. Everyone I click with or has interest in me lives 3000 miles away. 
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| 1/23/2008 11:46:53 PM |
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sidman
Grand Junction, CO
age: 30
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I am ussually not that as fortinate as you think. I ussually ask them at the wrong time and they either are taken or not interested when I ask them.
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| 1/23/2008 11:52:45 PM |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25 online now!
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Well for one you're trying too hard. So you know that alone will scare off some women. You are having the same problem most people have not just online, but dating in general. I would look at ways to show her you are different. You need to win her as a friend and show her during your friendship that you will treat her great. If she is interested then she will talk to you and give you a shot. That was an easy one.
Take care
and good luck.
[Edited 1/23/2008 11:56:31 PM]
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| 1/24/2008 12:12:10 AM |
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sidman
Grand Junction, CO
age: 30
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that is true, but guys would have every operturnity to sneak in and sweep her away while I am trying to whoo her as a friend. There is no way I can keep other guys away from her 7 days a week grr... I just want to put my name on the list. Also being jealous won't solve anything. I can be her friend and do stuff with her and show her how nice I can treat her, but that takes time and other guys can do the same thing. and Boom I be outted again.
[Edited 1/24/2008 12:14:00 AM]
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| 1/24/2008 12:41:30 AM |
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bamabob
Cullman, AL
age: 55
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One thing very important here that you need to check out before you set yourself up for serious heartbreak...1st.. are you compatible with her? How do you and her match up intellectually and professionally? Are you on the same level socially? Do you have common interests such that she really would want to and be welcomed in your world and you in hers?
Once you establish the compatibility issue.. then if you feel qualified you can move in. I'll email you something to help if you're willing to do the research. Look for signals, avoid anxiousness and nervousness. Most women want to see mixed signals but tell you they don't want you sending them.. They like a little aloofness but want genuine interest. You have to present a challenge but not chase them away. It's the conundrum of the woman who runs from a man till she catches him.
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| 1/24/2008 12:44:04 AM |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25 online now!
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It does take time. Like I said if she is interested, she will spend that time with you and give you a shot. Other guys will be there anyway until she decides to be exclusive. This isn't rocket science sir, it's called dating..
Good Luck. 
[Edited 1/24/2008 12:44:30 AM]
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| 1/24/2008 7:14:37 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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If you're interested in her then ask her out. If you don't then someone else will and it will be one of those Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda things.
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| 1/24/2008 7:18:38 PM |
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collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
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Right-on Chopper
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| 1/24/2008 7:27:42 PM |
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yunvs
Columbus, OH
age: 35
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let her know your interested and your availiable maybe some flowers find out what she likes to do and invite her to do it haha not that, whatever she likes to do
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| 1/24/2008 7:41:18 PM |
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sensual_latin
Pleasanton, CA
age: 41
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So i am damned if I don't and I am damned if I do.
sid, this is not a job interview nor an IRS audit... Relax... baby steps.. baby steps my friend, you can do this!
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| 1/25/2008 12:03:08 AM |
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cassinigirl
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49
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Aww, Sidman.
I was right there with you, man, rooting for you. Right up until you said
"I want first shot at her...." Negative connotations, man.
But, for what it's worth - ASK HER OUT. Don't try to be her best friend - yet - let that grow over time as you get to know each other. But if you are romantically interested in her, let her know you would like to take her out - as a date, not just a friend. Since she's new in town, tell her you know a great restaurant you would love to introduce her to, that you want to show her the sites, help her get around, show her the ropes, whatever, but most importantly, let her know that you are interested in a romantic relationship. (But really, dude, if you just want 'first crack' at her, do us all a favor and let her go.)
We all want our lovers to be our best friend, but most women I know (not all, but most) find it difficult to cross over from just good friends to being a love interest. We would hate to lose our best friend because intimacy 'got in the way', so we tend to shy away from that cross-over. Start off on the side you want to be on, and then grow into the other.
So, good luck. If you are really interested in this woman, let her know as soon as possible.
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| 1/27/2008 4:10:01 PM |
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sidman
Grand Junction, CO
age: 30
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update: that girl was hot and maybe my type but one day I saw her with a crowd of smokers that was the day I was gonna ask her to go some place in town so I could get to know her. Smokers are a huge turn off too me. Even a really hot girl that smokes turns me off. That really sucks however not all was lost.
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| 1/27/2008 4:44:20 PM |
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lovesillusion11
Moab, UT
age: 25
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 neighbor!
first of all...... how do you know she don't have a bf from somewhere else?
start a conversation.... don't come on too strong but try to get some info on the situation and where she stands!
ok never mind scratch that ^
move! lol did you know grand junction has the highest sex offender rate?
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| 1/27/2008 4:49:34 PM |
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katiescarlett72
Dallas, TX
age: 35
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that is true, but guys would have every operturnity to sneak in and sweep her away while I am trying to whoo her as a friend. There is no way I can keep other guys away from her 7 days a week grr...
The way you phrase things is genuinely frightening. She's not a clearance item you can put on layaway at Wal Mart until you're ready to make your final purchase. Either get up the cajones to ask her out or leave her alone. All this circling the wagons and trying to figure out how to separate her from the herd is just ... icky.
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