| 1/24/2008 10:51:56 AM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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itstime1959
Big Bear Lake, CA
age: 45
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Why is it the when a guy is looking for a real lady,and is really looking to share time and friendship with a lady there are not any real ladies around. I join this site to try something new and all i met is girls that want you to watch them on some cam show. That is no way to meet someone. Sex is inportion in a relationship but dont you think you could talk and spend time with eachother first and see if there is any reason to go to the next level. I would like any ladies to give me there feed back on this. thank you
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| 1/24/2008 11:24:53 AM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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home_again
Sarnia, ON
age: 44
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Unfortunately, that works both ways. I've found you have to weed through a lot of people who are running scams or using sites like this as a way to explore the voyeuristic part of themselves. For those of us who have been off the market for quite some time, this provides a way to safely step back on the field. You do however, have to play a good defensive game and protect yourself. (sorry, had to make reference to your uniform lol)
It's sad that those who are truly using this format to meet new people and, hopefully, find someone to develop a relationship with, have these people to contend with as well. However, not being someone who has ever done the 'bar scene', I suspect it is much the same, the players just don't have the opportunity to come into your home as they do over your computer.
But, I'll keep looking. I'm in no rush.
J
[Edited 1/24/2008 11:25:57 AM]
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| 1/24/2008 5:39:25 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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flgrama2004
Saint Petersburg, FL
age: 60
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I've been on 3 dating sites for about 2 years now... and have recently met a man who honestly wants a relationship with me. (so far anyway)
When a man writes in his profile that he seeks a LTR. Maybe he seeks a monogamous relationship, but only wants a date once a week for the rest of our lives. Or he may mean that he wants to move in together and spending 24/7 as a couple. Or it may mean going on mini vacations together, but living separately the rest of the time. etc...
Communication between two people is rare in itself, simply understanding each other is even more elusive.
As I re-read over this, it could be a woman who posts LTR and who know what she is actually looking for in a relationship. Trial and error is unavoidable I think.
Good luck.
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| 1/24/2008 5:45:30 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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That's the world of the internet. You have the following types of people with great differences in the approximate percentages listed (my opinions) for both men and women
1. BS, Just for Entertainment, Attention Wh*res, etc... etc... 60%
2. Fake Profiles and or people who don't put up their pics 15%
3. People who are actually looking for dates, but play many games in the process 15%
4. Truly sincere people actually looking for something good to happen 10%
[Edited 1/24/2008 5:47:12 PM]
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| 1/24/2008 6:01:54 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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If you're in a rush to find someone then you'll end up settling* and being miserable. Things take time and so do relationships. Relationships happen over time. Take your time ... you'll be glad you did. 
*typo
[Edited 1/24/2008 6:02:20 PM]
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| 1/24/2008 6:01:56 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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flgrama2004
Saint Petersburg, FL
age: 60
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Please understand that I am voicing only my opinion here, and my words are not meant to insult or be harmful.
I read your profile and not that you and I are in the same age group, or a good match personally, nothing like that but...
The first red flag to me was that you are 49 y/o and still wear your High School football jersey. It just sends a message like you may be living a bit too much in the past.
The second is that you still smoke. Yes, as a former smoker I know how difficult it is to quit, but you will live a lot longer and smell a lot nicer if you QUIT.
These things also say to me that you might hang out in sports bars, and may not be LTR material.
Just some things to think about...
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| 1/24/2008 6:04:37 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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I smoke and if someone can't except that I smoke then to hell with them. A lot of people have quirks that either a person learns to overcome or move on. If I based everything on their quirks then the pool of men would be small. I don't force my habit on anyone and I expect the same from them.
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| 1/24/2008 6:09:59 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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heraldsunshine
Huntersville, NC
age: 47
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Real lady here but I left California on purpose a dozen years ago and tore the rear view mirror off when I left (no looking back). I have been much happier ever since I left that fair state.
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| 1/24/2008 6:17:24 PM |
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flgrama2004
Saint Petersburg, FL
age: 60
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The original post was about why he has not yet found a "Real Lady" on this site.
Why write that YOU smoke all you want to and anyone that doesn't like it can go to .... was that helpful to this post?
In my opinion, his smoking could be a part of the reason he is NOT meeting the type of lady he seeks.
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| 1/24/2008 7:11:38 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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If a person really cares about another person then smoking would not be an issues. If it is, then the person who thinks that way isn't the right person. I've met people that are constantly clearing their voice as they are talking (no not smokers) out of habit and when I look pass that they are really nice people and the clearing of their throats isn't an issue. Some people bite their nails is that a reason to pass them up??? 
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| 1/24/2008 7:33:24 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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tmax1963
Greensboro, NC
age: 45
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Im not a lady... but i'mputting my 2 cents in on this one...it all starts with you my friend...if you are not meeting the ladies..look at your profile. If you are a nice guy and I'm sure you are... make sure that it comes out in your profile...it's the only thing a woman has to make a decision whether she should take a chance on you. With all the discussions about fake profiles, creeps and scammers, make your profile stand out. take time to really know what you want and spell it out. you can write a book if you need to, just make sure they get a clear understanding of who you really are. If you have some more pics, add them too. Just dont be stingy...give a woman the information she needs to decide if you're the one for her..try it and see if you get more positive responses.
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| 1/24/2008 7:58:09 PM |
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landing007
Palmyra, NY
age: 55
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IsTime; I took a look at your profile and...
You got some good advice from the ladies here - redo your profile and lose the foot ball pads for god sakes. You might have better success if you add more pictures and change them from time to time. This is marketing 101 stuff.
Some other pointers - do you really think you can relate to a 27 year old women when your 49??? Who the heck are you fooling... Get a little more real with the age group +/- 10 may be ok but not -20 year difference....
I hope you don't take this in a bad way - just my honest O-pin
good luck to ya
[Edited 1/24/2008 7:58:52 PM]
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| 1/24/2008 8:09:08 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
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chopperbabe has got it right (again)
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| 1/24/2008 11:27:54 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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Maybe it's because you walk around in full dress football gear.
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| 1/24/2008 11:38:16 PM |
I have not been able to meet any real ladys on this dating site |
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tndvdsgirl
Chattanooga, TN
age: 54
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'landing'.......if 'time' is serious about his inquiries.....he'll heed your advise, in ALL areas. What a trip.
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