| 2/3/2008 5:02:54 PM |
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spillafrica
New South Wales
Australia
age: 44
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can someone with experience with this help me. My wife of 17 years went out with her sister and friends, to get to the point, she had sex with another man in his car, went to her mums house had a bath came home and kept it a secret for 5 years, and it was admitted by accident. Now do you thimk I would feel beter if i did the same, would it get rid of this anger and pain?
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| 2/3/2008 5:05:01 PM |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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2 wrongs don't make a right... if you do what you ask us about...you're only allowing her to pull you down to her level...now if that kind of control is what you like...go for it!!
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| 2/3/2008 5:08:55 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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So how does revenge help either partner??? Why drop to that level in a relationship??? Either work on what issues you have or cut ties and move on.
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| 2/3/2008 5:09:15 PM |
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sea_angel
Maricopa, AZ
age: 55
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Absolutely not! 2 wrongs don't make a right....very dangerous grounds..I was a victim of cheating....I will not lower myself to his standards...( wink )
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| 2/3/2008 5:10:37 PM |
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viktoriya75
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
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No, it wouldn't help you to get rid off the hurt and the anger. Would you really want to scoop to her level? Or would you rather be above that? If you don't see it in yourself to forgive (not forget, but forgive), then maybe you should be thinking about ending your marriage...But in any case, do not make any decisions without really thinking everything through...
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| 2/3/2008 5:51:44 PM |
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winesong
Bend, OR
age: 60
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CHEATING IS CHEATING...
Interesting that you state it took 5 years to be revealed by accident...
it must feel like it happened yesterday...
anger suppressed turns to depression, be careful of this stage...
I would open communication with her, and ask why she felt the need to do that...
and does she think she still inclined to cheat...
how do you know she has not done it at any other time?
Can she look you in the eye now?
If things have improved..(??what ever was missing for her???)
can you move on, with her appropriate request for your forgiveness?
BUT you are on DH???? why??
Is it your intent to get even with her this week end?
Wine
[Edited 2/3/2008 5:52:58 PM]
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| 2/3/2008 6:00:01 PM |
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traveler1973
Cleveland, OH
age: 34 online now!
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I have to agree with consensus. If you did the same, you would simply prove that you are no better than her. Talk it out with her and try to get past it or end the marriage if it's eating you up inside.
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| 2/3/2008 6:30:04 PM |
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spillafrica
New South Wales
Australia
age: 44
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I'm on DH because of trying to figure this out, and honestly i have not regretted it. It's like being blinded by anger and pain and just speaking to someone sometimes helps.
This relationship meant everything to me, and in my position at work I have had so many proposals and come ons, but I always thought about her and my son and how it would affect them, so i never gave it a second thought. I believe in "KARMA", so I never do anything that would harm anybody or any living thing. I grew up in an orphanage, though my parents were alive, so have had to get used rejection from a young age, i did not think that this would happen to me. 
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| 2/3/2008 6:33:36 PM |
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bouquet
Temecula, CA
age: 62
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It might be more important to look back at what was going on at that time in your relationship . What issues were causing problems then . were you making her feel unimportant ? unatractive ? undesirable ? Has she been loyal since then ? 
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| 2/3/2008 6:45:22 PM |
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yanks118
Moab, UT
age: 24
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it will make things worse i think.... just because they goofed up don't mean you have to!
be the better person!
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| 2/3/2008 6:46:51 PM |
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dg1260
Galion, OH
age: 47
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At the end of the day, it's not who they are, but who you are. Live your beliefs!
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| 2/3/2008 7:28:17 PM |
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collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
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You know it won't make you feel better. How can it? The damage is already done, deal with it and take the high road. Two wrongs don't make a right. Sounds cliche' but true. JMO
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| 2/3/2008 8:48:49 PM |
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krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 39
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Dude.....17 years or not....shit can those who are disloyal....love or not....If you want to be a douchebag and be a low, scurvy cheating b*tch.....that is your right....I would rather be the better person.
Disconnect the dots...find someone who isn't a slut. Not sure how being an untrustworthy shit hole will help your moral dellimma. Not sure how that line of thinking would encourage any form of loyalty from the women who haven't cheated on you.
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