2/6/2008 6:22:37 PM |
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annie42
Beaufort, SC
age: 47
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How is it that you can go to the same meeting place and participate in the same activities (let's say dinner at a restaurant) with two different men at two different times and on the first occasion, it was like watching for the work day to end and on the other.....well, you just didn't notice the time at all and had a great time? What makes that connection happen? Why with one and not the other when prior to meeting, you were equally as interested in both of them?
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2/6/2008 6:26:21 PM |
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togot
Rockford, IL
age: 24
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depends, what did you talk about with them
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2/6/2008 6:29:47 PM |
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annie42
Beaufort, SC
age: 47
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Many things....and many of the same things. Just getting to know you stuff....but, with one it was interesting and with the other....well, not so much. Do we place too much value on looks? Or is there a physical chemistry? Or is it a subconsious reaction to something we aren't even aware of??
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2/6/2008 6:31:53 PM |
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towtrk1
Groton, CT
age: 36
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No.. it's chemistry, and not all people have it. But when you find one that you do have it with... you can find yourself enjoying anything, including an Insurance Convention!!!
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2/6/2008 6:33:40 PM |
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annie42
Beaufort, SC
age: 47
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So true!!! But what do you think makes that happen? Just interesting to me, I guess.
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2/6/2008 6:34:09 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
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IT's quite simple, chemistry is either there or it isn't
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2/6/2008 6:34:34 PM |
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redcat1496
Des Plaines, IL
age: 48
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I'v had that happen with the same woman at the same place,maybe you'r both just tired,or either one had a bad day.Of course there is chemistry too.Either way it doesn't really matter....if you agree on a second date,it probably was a good one.
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2/6/2008 6:35:49 PM |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
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I believe connections happen on many different levels and frequencies. Meeting in person you have your five senses that come into play. Lots of electromagnetic waves (sight), harmonic vibrations (hear), chemical aromas (smell), pressure perception (touch) and chemical reaction (taste) happening between the two of you.
I'm willing to bet one guy was more in harmony with your senses than the other.
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2/6/2008 6:37:43 PM |
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annie42
Beaufort, SC
age: 47
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Interesting GeoGeo.....so you think it's all about the five basic senses?? Nothing more mysterious than that??
What do y'all think "chemistry" is??
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2/6/2008 6:38:15 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
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No matter who you meet, people :
1. Were raised differently therefore, who they are now is a product of their up-bringing
2. Could have been spoiled growing up or the opposite
3. Different educational backgrounds
4. Some people have had more devastating circumstances than others in their lives
5. Relationships in the past could effect their behavior
6. Some people have more social skills than others
7. Different mental views, philosophies, and principles on life in general.
I will stop here. There are tons of things that have an effect on one's behavior from a social and psychological stand point albeit dating or life in general.
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2/6/2008 6:41:02 PM |
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annie42
Beaufort, SC
age: 47
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True, Bestman....but what do you think the chemistry thing is? What makes your heart jump into your throat and your knees weak?
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2/6/2008 6:41:53 PM |
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savragtop
Savannah, GA
age: 43
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well, i have been those dates that even though she seemed great on the phone and then finally met her, i would have been happier taking a Calculus exam, and then others i didnt want the night to end. So there has to be something to say about chemistry, there has to be an attraction to each other.
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2/6/2008 6:43:37 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
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Annie, chemistry their behavior coinciding with yours. It can feel good, But mind you don't put to much emotion during the first few dates. That's a mistake many people make. Feeling good is normal, but many times men and women put on a big front in the beginning which make the other one get really emotional feelings.
The true test is the first argument, debate, or obstacle both of you face and how you handle adversity as you get to know one another. That's when the person's true colors come out.
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2/6/2008 6:44:00 PM |
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annie42
Beaufort, SC
age: 47
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Right!!! But what creates that, do you think? Is it about physical attraction or something more unseen?? Why would I want to kiss one man and turn my cheek to another?
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2/6/2008 6:45:09 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34 online now!
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are you referring to my statement annie?
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