| 2/11/2008 5:32:30 PM |
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poetcjh
Tilden, NE
age: 31
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I'll be blunt and to the point. The gal that I was seeing broke up with me about a month ago. She said she wants to stay "friends" but never calls me but does call me back when I don't catch her at home. I have been thinking about sending her roses on Valentines day to let her know I still LOVE her even if she doesn't me. I talked to her two weekends ago and her boys wanted to talk to me also. This confused me since one of them was part of the reason we went different ways. Is there a chance that he realized that the way he acted was wrong and she would like to be with me again?  I'm willing to work things out and change if she will do the same. I'll even willing to find a different job and move closer to her if it will help. One more thing just a month before she broke up with me we were talking marriage and I've already got the ring and she loved it. Do I send roses and a simple note saying I love you?
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| 2/11/2008 5:37:31 PM |
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soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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Dude... im going to be blunt and to the point like you did... y'all broke up over a month ago. She doesn't call you back. You are the one who calls her. She even knows about the ring already and has made no attempt to reconcile with you. The reason the kids probably wanted to talk to you is because you are no longer what he preceives to be a threat because you are no longer dating his mother.
She said that she only wants to be FRIENDS. FRIENDS is the key word there. Get a refund on your ring, severe the ties and move on to a woman who will appreicate you. and... make sure if the woman you date has children, you don't bring the issues of this particular relationship into that one. Give them a fair chance. Not everyones children has problems with their parents dating. JMO
~Cajun~
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| 2/11/2008 5:37:47 PM |
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togot
Rockford, IL
age: 24
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my advice would be to not pursue her. if she has feelings for you she will come back to you. if she doesn't then it wouldn't have worked out anyway
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| 2/11/2008 5:46:23 PM |
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l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
age: 44
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It depends on the ages of the boys and it depends on what caused the breakup. My only problem with you trying to get back together is your line about you're willing to change if she's willing to do this same. My feeling is, if you need to change one another then it's not meant to be. Find someone who shares your outlook on life and enjoys being and doing things with you. Nobody should have to change to be happy.
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| 2/11/2008 5:47:18 PM |
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teaurtei
Payne, OH
age: 40 online now!
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If it feels right to you, send the roses.
There's never anything wrong with expressing your feelings.
However...
Please be prepared for the possibility that those feelings may not be returned in the manner you might wish them to be.
Soul's right. The kids don't see you as a threat and likely now that distance has dimmed their memory remember you as a 'friend'. My kids used to love talking to anyone who called...so I passed the bill collector's over to them for awhile. Bill collectors love 4 year olds.
It's great to dream, to hope, to believe...to be ever optimistic.
but always make a tiny space somewhere for the pessimistic versions as well.
Hope for the best. Prepare for the worst.
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| 2/11/2008 5:52:35 PM |
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scorp59
Bloomsbury, NJ
age: 65
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send roses...tell her you love her...say u r waiting..but not too long..
some woman are afraid of committment..sounds like this is problem...maybe time for her to think about everything is all that is needed....
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| 2/11/2008 7:03:14 PM |
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sweetynikki
Canyon Country, CA
age: 23
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my motto is if it didn't work once, why would it work twice? think about it
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| 2/11/2008 7:19:50 PM |
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craftygirl002
Tacoma, WA
age: 39
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Send the roses. The worst that can happen is that she doesn't feel the same way.
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| 2/11/2008 7:33:35 PM |
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wellhmmmm
Cataula, GA
age: 44
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It would seem to me something happened to make her want to be friends....when you are ready to get married you dont just all of a sudden want to be friends. I would drop a note asking for closure to know what went wrong....and if it could be worked out. If she doesnt respond leave her alone.
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| 2/11/2008 7:35:26 PM |
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dreama777
Galivants Ferry, SC
age: 47
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move on my friend........
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| 2/11/2008 8:20:53 PM |
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lawrence084
Honolulu, HI
age: 40
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Your first mistake was calling her.
Think about the women you broke up. Which ones were you tempted to go back with? I bet it was the ones that never called after the break up. Why becuase you didn't hear there voice as a reminder of why you broke up with them.
Don't Call anymore. If she has something still in her heart she'll call you. The less she hear from you the quicker the process will be.
If you are the one that broke uup with her I rest my case. If she broke up with you, and after she saw a ring, Sounds like she had someone in waiting.
Either way you should stop calling and no flowers or cards. Sounds like the kids are the ones reminding her what she had and let go.
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| 2/11/2008 8:24:07 PM |
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exskypilot
Odessa, TX
age: 58
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Have ya ever heard the son "Over The Hill And Far Away"? It means pack up your guitar and move on.
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| 2/11/2008 8:58:37 PM |
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scorp59
Bloomsbury, NJ
age: 65
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wow...you people are crude...wipe out was once was...doesnt anyone deserve a second chance...we all deserve a second chance...sir:...JUST LAY LOW FOR A WHILE...SEND FLOWERS..AND A NOTE...YOU ARE WAITING FOR HER...for a short time...then u will realize it is over....GOOD LUCK
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| 2/11/2008 9:38:00 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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When a male doesn't respond to any of my phone calls or doesn't call me, they are no longer interested. I got the message and I moved on.
If you have money to burn then send her flowers. After a month of her not responding you think flowers will buy her back ... I don't see it happening. 
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| 2/12/2008 7:42:56 AM |
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mlc1305
Cranston, RI
age: 49
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listen, you want blunt you got it. if she was really interested she wouldn't want to be friends. and why should you do everything. she broke up with you its up to her.
don't send her a damn thing. she hasn't called, she doesn't care
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