| 7/16/2006 9:43:21 PM |
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smilin2eyes
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I am the good girl. The one that tries to do the right thing. The responsible thing. Ending up making excuses for the man in my life to other people is really getting lame. If I decide "no more excuses" then what? Several times I have ended up saying "The bottom of this barrell has some kind of scum stuck to it." Then it finally dawns on me, the bad boys are the ones I am attracted to. You have all seen movies about the type I'm talking about, straight out of the joint with all they own on their ass!!! Yup, that's what i'm talking about! I have tried to be attracted to different kinds of people, but I keep finding the strays. I just need to stop bringing them home. For 30 years I have lived the definition of insanity, " doing the same things, but expecting a different outcome." So, I suppose I am at a crossroads. I love him too much to expect he will change, so I have to love myself enough to not settle for who he is. Does any of this sound like I'm on the right track to anyone out there? Is there anyone out there?
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| 7/17/2006 2:08:29 AM |
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lynn53
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Yeah, I'm listening...
Seem's your answering your own questions with sound advice..if it's not working for you and after 30 years... you should know? Then do what is best for yourself...
But, think you need to ask yourself are you ready to change your taste in men...what you "like," may be what you don't "need"!
Or, otherwise I see you repeating this whole same senerio, just with a different player!
No offense intended, but maybe you like feeling the "victim" with these bad guys..is this possible?
[Edited 7/17/2006 2:11:22 AM]
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| 7/17/2006 3:10:59 AM |
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emtnancy50
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Smile sounds like you might be somewhat codependent, been there and the only way to rid yourself of that behavior and change the type of men you go after is through counseling..Believe me its well worth it. You stated that you had made excuses for you man..that is enableing him to be the way he is and its codependent behavior. Please understand Im not being negative here and alot of people are that way but counseling will help you to learn to love yourself and not let that type of man control you.
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| 7/17/2006 5:34:48 PM |
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unslightlynorml
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I am both bad and good......they can run concurrently or consecutively.....depending upon mood and wind strength. I like reformed bad boys. Not deformed, reformed....get it right.
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| 7/17/2006 9:53:41 PM |
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smilin2eyes
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Thank you for the words here. i know everything that was said is true. i am the greatest enabler. i just want to find someone who doesn't take advantage of me just because they can. i don't set many boundries. i figure who am i to tell anybody what to do. every man that i have been with (there weren't that many}, have the same story. foster homes, juvenile offenders, some are even felons as adults. i believe i was put here on this earth to take care of people. i love it. i love to cook, but only for someone who loves to eat. i have a serious affection for younger men. my relationship now has been 2 years, however we have an inter-generational relationship. i'm 47, he's 21. we are working on the long distance thing right now. it's not working. i follow my heart and totally ignore my brain. again, thanks for the replies. carla ps am i seriously overdressed for this site or what???? i should take a pic of my great big boobs & my ghetto bootie!!!!!!!!but how would i fit that all in one pic!!!!
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| 7/18/2006 8:51:41 AM |
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lynn53
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Wow...47 and 21, what do I say here?
I guess it's no wonder why it's not working!?!
Maybe, you should stick with looking within and trying to figure yourself out first, instead of trying to work on other people!
I don't think your up to doing either at the moment and I mean that in the kindest way. You only get taken advantage of when you allow it. Get some good, old fashion counselling like everyone has suggested.
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| 7/18/2006 9:48:04 AM |
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krazz
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The age difference is an esteem issue, IMHO. You need to change your "lattitude or attitude" here. Growing up is an important part of life.... it can not be "put off."
Krazz
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| 7/18/2006 10:41:57 AM |
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lynn53
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I was waiting for someone to say something...thanks, Krazz LOL
A difference response you would have received if you had stated your preference for young boys in the first topic!
Personally, I am more concerned what your doing with their heads with all this nurturing/controlling!
I have to say also Grow up, leave the kiddies alone and get counselling....
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| 7/18/2006 2:33:33 PM |
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emtnancy50
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I definately agree with Lynn and Krazz on this one hun.
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| 7/18/2006 2:34:15 PM |
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emtnancy50
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So do I Kat..educated harley guys LOL
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| 7/19/2006 6:52:09 PM |
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nicole1357
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I think sometimes women go for the 'bad boy' because he is challenging, and who doesn't like a good challenge? After awhile though I think women get tired of trying so hard, and settle for the good ones.
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| 8/31/2006 4:04:18 PM |
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strongslowhand
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Well, there are bad boys, , , and there is pure unadulterated evil from across the eighth dimension. I think there's alot of wiggle room in between. Maybe you just have to zero your scope a bit more.
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