| 2/16/2008 1:47:45 PM |
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foxywoman33
Livermore, CA
age: 33
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im the dumb one with te exes thing my ex has remarried we remained friends...he tells me his wife cheats on him ( twice already) and hes still around...he says he loves her im just trying to be nice and be a friend..he and i were married for over 5 years ..we have seen each other but only for like dinner ..and to talk...his wife is ok with us talking too..i just dont want old feelings to come back..i know im crazy..and i have tried to stay away but when i least expect it he contacts me..he also told me that he would always love me but not like he loves her..i dont know what to do..i mean he and i had quite a history together..and i know im crazy for saying this but i do still care...none of my business but hes still married to her and tells me his business so i try to just be a friend and it is just not easy..please someone help me...!!!!  
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| 2/16/2008 1:53:39 PM |
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superheroscoo
Garden City, KS
age: 24
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It sounds like you need to make a choice.
My ex-fiance is my friend, but she was almost married to another man. He cheated on her and she came crawling back to me after they broke up, wanting comfort and security. I have been patient and a friend, but I am not interested in getting burned again. If it didn't work then, why is it going to work now? Think about why it ended five years ago. Is that stuff still going on? Will he cheat on you?
Never let a man tell you his "wife is cheating on him" as an excuse to cheat. That's bullshit. If it really bothers him, he should break off the other relationship. No lies, no drama, no crap.
I say drop it like a bad habit, or keep the friendship with clear boundries. You don't need that shit. Find another guy who will make things less complicated.
Good luck with your decision. I know it isn't easy.
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| 2/16/2008 3:08:59 PM |
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lovingsmurf
Aurora, CO
age: 38
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there's nothing wrong with being friends with your ex's as long as your current partner is fully aware of the friendship. but you must remain open minded @ all cost. it kinda sounds like he's playing around with both of you. because he left you for her but yet when they have a fight he comes running back to you. just remain his friend and let him know that you still care but that it'll never be the same.
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| 2/16/2008 3:13:46 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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Nothing wrong with remaining friends, however, there are limits with Xs. Sometimes we tend to want to help but end up hurting ourselves in the process. State the boundries and if he cannot abide by it then ask him not to contact you unless necessary. Being caught in the middle isn't fun and that isn't your place. He has his own life as well as you have your own life ... separate not together.
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| 2/16/2008 3:42:02 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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satinonlace, don't hold back now ... tell us what you really think 
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| 2/16/2008 3:44:06 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
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satin,you DO have a way with words!! You go girl!! 
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| 2/16/2008 10:29:52 PM |
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rblake
Bay Minette, AL
age: 30
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that's a piece of your past that you need to let go of and put behind you if you're to ever have hope of moving on i've been down that road myself not fun
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| 2/19/2008 1:08:30 PM |
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lova_girl
Albany, GA
age: 30
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This is tuff, especially since you 2 have a history, but if he keeps calling on you and you keep responding honey you might find your self in a fix. I would be able to handle a phone call and maybe help to work through his problems but I don't think if I had some feelings in me I would go out with him, sometimes the feelings we have for a ex can be alot stronger than we like to admit, so be careful not to get your heart broke. I would try harder to stay clear but only you can decided what you can handle and what you can not.
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| 2/19/2008 4:28:18 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Foxy you found a love filled thread - lucky you. I think you've received some really excellent advice.
I think you better protect you.
You're heart sounds tender and unsure - which to me means there's emotion lying there on the surfface, if that's the case and I bet it is....then....
You know the answer already.
Ex's are ex's for reasons.
Add distance for both your sakes and step to the future.
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| 2/19/2008 4:42:10 PM |
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eyeswideopened
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 43
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You only desire him because you know you can't have him!
He is making his moves incase he needs somewhere to go.
Unless you have children together, there should be no association. The past is the past
for a reason.
Shut the door and start living your life!
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| 2/19/2008 6:32:52 PM |
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chimike
Chicago, IL
age: 57
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Must be a full moon tonight...someone that you've broken up with for some reason, married to someone else, who he says he loves more than you.....what was the question again? Friends, yes; anything else...even to consider it? Why?
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| 2/20/2008 10:20:12 AM |
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missclassy48
Sedalia, MO
age: 59
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FOXY, YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR SELF IN A BAD PLACE, YES YOU CARE. BUT EVERY TIME HE TELLS YOU HIS PROBLEM, YOU ARE HURTING FOR HIM. TELL HIM TO TELL HIS PROBLEMS, TO SOME ONE ELSE. AND GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE. YOUR HEART WILL HEAL, IT TAKES TIME. BUT, EVERYTIME YOU LISTEN TO HIM AND YOU STILL CARE FOR HIM YOU HURT, TELL HIM IN A NICE WAY, TO TELL HIS PROLEMS TO SOME ONE ELSE, NOT YOU. YOU HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE. FINE SOME WHO REALLY CARE FOR YOU.[SORRY] MISS CLASSY
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| 2/20/2008 10:21:58 AM |
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silkpanties53
Baytown, TX
age: 53
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Missclassy
don't know if you know it
but typing in caps is yelling
at some one
just letting you know
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| 2/20/2008 10:37:09 AM |
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missclassy48
Sedalia, MO
age: 59
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Sorry, no i didnt know it . thank you. miss classy.
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| 2/20/2008 10:39:54 AM |
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missclassy48
Sedalia, MO
age: 59
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thank you grneye, you are right. i cant see very well. but i will go by the rules. if i can. Miss Classy
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