| 2/17/2008 3:13:31 AM |
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gopgop
Queensland
Australia
age: 35
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Ladies i have to ask you what is it with last minute cold feet. I was chatting to one lady for a few months and after talking on the phone for a while we decided to meet. It was a week away and i was looking forward to the night. When the day came i rang and text to work out what time and make sure it was all ok still. She never answered either or contacted me ever again.
Recently i was chatting with a girl in Sydney for a few months and we spoke on the phone and told each other what we expected to happen. We agreed i would go to Sydney to meet her and she was kind enough to offer to book me a motel close to her home instead of the airport where i asked. I was so excited and booked my flight. Now its been four days and ive heard nothing from her. Shes not online and her phone has a busy signal for the whole four days. Im not used to this sort of treatment and torment. Im so used to being in a long term relationship so all this kind of dating is new to me. Is it some sort of game that i dont know the rules to? Im not a guy whos looking for sleazy one night stands in fact im looking for someone to love forever in marriage and perhaps children. Im a kind good hearted guy who has respect for women infact i have respect for everyone. Id just love to know what the hell am i doing wrong or is this sort of behaviour normal for females
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| 2/17/2008 8:32:50 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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I don't know what her thing is or was - and I don't think you ought to dwell on it....
I would say her loss and count your stars - she's apparently mentally unsuited for dating.
AREn't you glad you missed that bullet?
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| 2/17/2008 8:36:35 AM |
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l2kids44
Lanesville, IN
age: 44
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No it's not a normal behavior for females, you are just getting in with the wrong girls. Sorry this has happened to you. You would think after all the talking with them that you did you would've seen some clues that they might bail. Good Luck on the next one.
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| 2/17/2008 2:44:42 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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I've been stood up several times now and no it's not a one gender thing. I have never heard from the dudes again. I even gave 2 dudes 2 chances and they still blew it. Nothing wrong with you. I'd think of it as their loss not yours. Some people's children. 
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| 2/17/2008 2:52:20 PM |
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michaelcee
Sarasota, FL
age: 51
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Just for clarity...
Did she just book the hotel close to her place or did she *pay* for the hotel??
Also, if you paid for the closer hotel.... are you telling me you sat there, essentially stranded, for 4 days??
If the second is true I think I would anywho.com her number and send her a big box of poo
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| 2/17/2008 3:15:33 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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Rule#1 DON'T chat for a few months then meet. 
You are chatting while she's ACTUALLY MEETING OTHER DUDES
Meanwhile when you finally want to and agree to meet and she agreed at first, then decided to flake out on you during the last minute is because:
She and her other date or man made plans but for some reason they didn't fall through originally, so she accepted meeting you. The bad news for you is, those plans came through so rather tell you the truth "Hey, me and my date/boyfriend are going out, sorry, I can't make it with you this evening" She just doesn't communicate with you at all. Meanwhile, if you ask her about what happened, she will give you some lame excuse, not return your calls, or simply become defensive and make you feel guilty.
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| 2/17/2008 3:17:45 PM |
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mzzzwright
El Dorado Hills, CA
age: 38
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You guys are starting to make me nervous about meeting someone on here... 
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| 2/17/2008 3:35:06 PM |
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trinagirl
Riverdale, NJ
age: 47
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dont think its a great idea to chat for months without meeting. who knows, maybe they are just into chatting and emails or they may be involved with someone else and playing around.
or its alot of build up and expectations when there are all these emails that go on and on. some people may not want to risk rejection from either side after all this time spent in the safety of email-land and phone. especially if their not who they present themselves as.
if ask to meet within weeks rather than months,can find out alot sooner if the other person is sincere about meeting up.
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| 2/17/2008 6:54:07 PM |
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belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 37
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Well first of all, you should not be living in Australia to begin with. You should be moving your ass to New York because you do sound like a lovely man, and I love your accent. So I will make arrangements to book your flight out to New York, so email me back, read my profile and let me know. I won' be bullshitting you either, because I am all about business. You rock!
[Edited 2/17/2008 6:54:29 PM]
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| 2/17/2008 7:04:20 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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exactly trina - chatting for long periods of time without meeting is a waste of time in my book unless it's lonnnnnnnnnnnnnggggg distance. the objective is to talk and meet and see what happens.
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| 2/17/2008 7:18:03 PM |
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uh_huh
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 35
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It's happend to me a couple times just within the last month or so..
First one bailed the night before on a simple lunch date... We had been talking for a week or so..
Second one (who contacted me) was a no-show for dinner last week.. Again, we had talked for a bout a week..
If it's a game, this dude ain't playing it..... I did not bother to contact either one again.. They get one shot... If they screw it up, it's buh-bye....
Is it normal behavior?... YES!....
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| 2/17/2008 8:06:05 PM |
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eyeswideopened
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 43
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I have had this happen several times too! Either they are actually married, in a so a "committed" relationship, or even better, not at all what they proclaim to be. Case in point, they will describe themselves as being beautiful and so much in shape, but later you discover they are wayyyyyy the opposite. I had a friend and that happen to him. Her response was that she wanted him to like her for her and not what she looked like. So many people on the net cannot be themsleves. I say keep it local! (that's my rule of late).
BTW, I will be in Australia next year ...look out for me!!
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