| 2/18/2008 7:47:25 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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londen
Ingersoll, ON
age: 58
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Have you ever felt that you were not in the same league with the person you were with? Did you ever have feelings of inferiority or superiority? Have there ever been times when you felt ashamed to be with that person or felt that person was ashamed of you?
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| 2/18/2008 7:48:54 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 50
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Yes
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| 2/18/2008 7:51:46 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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bluboy
Elsberry, MO
age: 56
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Thank goodness , NO !!!!!!!!! Because they or I was with the wrong person...
Later,Blu
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| 2/18/2008 7:53:44 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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dreamsmaycome
Seven Springs, NC
age: 53
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Most definitely. After 18+ years, I finally got "Me" back though. Don't know if that's a good or bad thing yet!!!!
Blu, that's right, wrong person, right time, or vice versa 
Londen, good question, but coming from you, it would definitely have to be that your partner felt inferior. You are such a nice and caring person, can't imagine it any other way for you. Hope all your dreams come true.
[Edited 2/18/2008 7:57:52 PM]
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| 2/18/2008 7:54:46 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 50
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it's not a good thing if me is not there
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| 2/18/2008 8:05:19 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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hma2
Chico, CA
age: 68 online now!
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I can honestly say that I have never felt that way and I hope I don't affect people in that way.
I believe that all people are equal. JMO
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| 2/18/2008 8:06:07 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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londen
Ingersoll, ON
age: 58
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The reason I asked the questions was because when I was out on Saturday night there were two couplex sitting at a table across the room and I felt sorry for the one man. He obviously was the butt of his wife's / partner's jokes. I do not know if he even realized they were making fun of him. They kept mocking him and made fun of the way he cut his meat and ate . I even heard her say....Why don't you listen carefully ,you might learn something...then she laughed.
I didn't mean to listen in, but they were loud. Ihate to see a person treated like that.
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| 2/18/2008 8:09:28 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 55 online now!
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if that ever happened to me then "we" were not on the same page at the beginning of the relationship and shame on me if that's half my fault too alter on as it blossoms hopefully--we have to ask open-end questions of each other that require us to elaborate to each other and closed-end questions only requiring a simple yes or no to them--
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| 2/18/2008 8:14:31 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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hma2
Chico, CA
age: 68 online now!
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London
I agree that behavior like that is inexcusible. No one deserves to be made fun of. The woman you were talking about obviously didn't care for his feelings so how could she care for him but at the same time she didn't have any self respect either. She showed it by belittling another person.
Helen
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| 2/18/2008 8:39:10 PM |
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whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 50
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Londen - that is wrong and you know it, and feel it.
Nothing any of us can do about it now.
If I had been there - it would not have lasted, I do not put up with crap like that. Sorry for my language.
That is rude and wrong and you know it. I am sorry you had to watch, listen, and come to terms with it.
I have been accused of a lot of things in my years - being a fool once in awhile is one of them - but that was because I loved her - being an idiot and made fun of is one of those that if I caught it - holy crap, did the shit hit the fan!!
I am an underdog - have always been, will always be - and if I see one that needs me - well, you know the rest.
dan
Being in the "same league?"
If human is a league
count me in
my earlier response - it's what I was trained to say - and what I lived so far
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| 2/18/2008 10:57:25 PM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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musicandsmiles
Portland, OR
age: 53
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Absolutely, being treated like that is intolerable, witnessing it is very uncomfortable. Being subjected to that from the other person, whether intentional or not on their part, is demeaning. Having been with someone, for a short relationship, where even though our education level and careers were fairly equal, I was still treated as "the little, ignorant, woman" who should still be home barefoot and pregnant, is a terrible life experience. I ended it rapidly once I no longer felt I was being treated with respect and love. Those situations can only bring a person down, and unfortunately, for some, they never are able to lift themselves back up to a dignified level.
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| 2/19/2008 1:59:07 AM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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huronearth
Mount Pleasant, MI
age: 55
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It really is a shame and a tragedy. Many adults who continue to accept that sort of treatment were most likely conditioned to accept it as children. The offending individual isn't necessarily "better" in any way - just more insensitive - brutish - insidious - often, with an innate desire to be hurtful and to view the results of his/her hurtfulness. Many good people never reach their potential because of the damage that has been incurred by them, internally - coming to believe that the abuse must have some validity and thinking of themselves as defective or unworthy in comparison with others... 
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| 2/19/2008 3:39:30 AM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 62 online now!
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I have seen such things and have found the no appreciates it when you butt in on something like that. Best to let them deal with it their way, we do not know that is going on between these two.JMHO
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| 2/19/2008 3:41:02 AM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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pylgram
Checotah, OK
age: 58 online now!
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London
That young man was intimidated by the woman and that was the basis of their relationship.
She's the boss and as long as he puts up with it she will own him. He has nothing to offer the relationship except to stay in his place and accept what is dished out to him.
Sad situation. A waste of time for both of them.
Pylgram
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| 2/19/2008 4:14:25 AM |
Have you ever felt like you are not in the same league? |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 62 online now!
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I just want to say that I had an aunt and uncle like this. She always made him the butt of her jokes. They were married more than 50 years till she died, they loved each other.
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